Making friends

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    Apr 09, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    This might be a ridiculous topic but I was wondering if there any anecdotal tips or techniques to making friends. Either in real life or online because I suck at both lol.

    I have friends I have known for years but I don't really recall doing anything different to earn their friendship icon_confused.gif
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    Apr 09, 2014 9:04 PM GMT
    Making friends as a kid is relatively easy. When people grow up, unfortunately, they become more interested in work, college, dating, marriage, etc and they forget about their social life. The older people get, the more boring they become.
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    Apr 09, 2014 9:05 PM GMT
    I've met all of the Gay friends I have now on Grindr, no joke.
    I have quite a bit of gay friends..

    Just start a conversation with someone on RJ or whatever other sites you're on and make plans to meet up. There are plenty of guys looking for the exact same thing.
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    Apr 09, 2014 9:15 PM GMT
    Be ready to roll.
    Today at the gym, when I walked into the men's room, there was a hot black guy with a great body standing around in his underwear. He turned to me and said "Hey buddy" like he knew me.
    Well, we clearly didn't know each other but at the gym people occassionally get confused as to who they know and don't know because we see each other every day. It was kind of funny. I also suspected that our being of different races made it more confusing. Nevertheless, I just played along and immediately acted glad to see him and we had a little conversation.
    Halfway through the conversation though, he seemed to suddenly realize he had me confused with somebody else and his expression changed for a minute... but nevertheless we're friends now and he's stuck with me.
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    Apr 09, 2014 9:18 PM GMT
    Xavier92 saidMaking friends as a kid is relatively easy. When people grow up, unfortunately, they become more interested in work, college, dating, marriage, etc and they forget about their social life. The older people get, the more boring they become.

    Only if they get married and have children.
    I envy them but I really think it sucks the life out of most of them.
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    Apr 09, 2014 11:43 PM GMT
    Ri_Gene saidI've met all of the Gay friends I have now on Grindr, no joke.
    I have quite a bit of gay friends..

    Just start a conversation with someone on RJ or whatever other sites you're on and make plans to meet up. There are plenty of guys looking for the exact same thing.


    I've been messaging people on here and I was too stupid to realise they were just being polite and didn't actually want to talk to me.
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    Apr 09, 2014 11:59 PM GMT
    Put out.
    No, seriously, it works.
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    Apr 10, 2014 2:41 AM GMT
    Learn to be well-rounded in conversational topics. Being able to contribute to a conversation can be an excellent ice breaker.
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    Apr 10, 2014 4:27 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidLearn to be well-rounded in conversational topics. Being able to contribute to a conversation can be an excellent ice breaker.


    I am good at conversations because I have a lot of interests but in a real life conversation I often miss my chance to add something because everyone else is talking and it's hard to find the right moment.
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    Apr 10, 2014 5:10 AM GMT
    Right there with you on that. I think for some of us, it is just dumb luck, especially if you are somewhat introverted. There are people who just seem to make friends really easily. My mother is that way. She's always seemed to have friends. What I see in her is that she is not afraid to ask for a favor, nothing outlandish like asking for money, just simple things, like borrow a cup of sugar or help with lifting a box. I on the other hand hate asking anyone for help, because I find it embarrassing and I don't like to put people out and I don't want people to think ill of me.
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    Apr 10, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    Sharkadelic saidPut out.
    No, seriously, it works.


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