Rejection Karma!

  • Prototypex

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    Apr 10, 2014 9:49 AM GMT
    If you once were rejected by the guy you had feelings for, then he says, sorry you are not my type to your face!
    Few years later working hard at the gym, diet, style.. He comes to you admitting that you are his type and he wants you!
    Would you give him the chance or just tell him the same that he isn't your type?

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    Apr 10, 2014 9:52 AM GMT
    I've had that happen a few times.

    I take it all in stride and let them know I'm flattered that I appreciate the honesty but I've moved on and they no longer hold my interest.

    In honest truth it's probably best they did reject me then cause more then likely they were nothing but a notch in the bed post.

    Well it was quite possible that it was more definite that it was just a notch.
  • buddycat

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    Apr 10, 2014 10:06 AM GMT
    No, I don't play games. If I was no longer interested and most likely I wouldn't be I would tell him that.
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    Apr 10, 2014 10:24 AM GMT
    He had his chance. Too late.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Apr 10, 2014 10:35 AM GMT
    are you still interested? sounds to me like he's being kinda shallow, only liking you after diet/gym, so for me it would be a no. but maybe you're the type of guy that gives people the benefit of the doubt.
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    Apr 10, 2014 1:30 PM GMT
    If he is smoking hot why not? You really can't expect him to be attracted to unattractive guys can you?
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    Apr 10, 2014 1:42 PM GMT
    Use his own words against him. Tell him he is not your type. Don't be ugly about it; just be matter-of-fact. Remember the old adage: Revenge is a dish best served cold.

    My very first love rejected me after nearly 8 years of sneaking around together and meeting clandestinely. Every time he tried to get back with me I had to remind him of the decision HE made all those years ago using the EXACT words he used on me. He eventually realized his mistake was irreparable.
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    Apr 10, 2014 1:48 PM GMT
    Oh, this happens to me all the time now since i hit gym and lost all the weight i had. Its really just made me realise how shallow most gay men are. At least the ones i use d to find attractive! :/
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Apr 10, 2014 1:48 PM GMT
    This would be where I would laugh in his face and say so it is all about looks for u, well look at me now because all u will be doing is looking;-)
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    Apr 10, 2014 2:55 PM GMT
    Happened a few times and it was nice to see them coming back but I can't take them back because they are in for just the physical part and it won't last.
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    Apr 10, 2014 3:25 PM GMT
    Nope . Why be interested in someone who didn't like you in the first place.

  • BLucky

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    Apr 10, 2014 3:27 PM GMT
    I would have to nicely say. "Thanks but I'm not interested." If it didn't work the first time then going back there is not a good idea. It's not just a gym thing, it can also be a time thing where I have had people interested in me after a long time because I haven't changed much over the years. Attraction is part of the equation, but shallowness is something I don't have time for. icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 10, 2014 4:36 PM GMT
    Had this happen a few times & it just lets you KNOW how incredibly shallow gay people are; I had one guy that I thought would be worth knowing, he relayed to a friend that I need to lose some weight, albeit, he thinks he's hot shit because he's got the blonde/blue working in his favour. My weight came off & he didn't recognise me. When he saw me again after I lost the weight, he tried again & I had to break his face & I did it HARD. He did what he does best: handing me some tired excuse for his behaviour & to not be so "cold" about it, it went in one ear & out the other. He gave me his #, I never called & he had the NERVE to call me a douchebag(: it brought a real smile to my face to see him get a dose of what he can dish. It was even more satisfying to know he would become a laughingstock of the men's AND the women's locker rooms at what used to be the home gym...

    This happens to be one of the key reasons as to why I really don't wanna fuck with the gay community around me...-Respinto- Italian for dismissed icon_cool.gif

    You diss this, by every means, you can miss this(:
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    Apr 10, 2014 4:37 PM GMT
    If you reject him just because of pride then you are no better than him, in fact you are worse because you are cutting your nose off to spite your face.

    I guess this is the part where I say I would do things differently because I am more mature...
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    Apr 10, 2014 5:06 PM GMT
    Ohno saidIf you reject him just because of pride then you are no better than him, in fact you are worse because you are cutting your nose off to spite your face.

    I guess this is the part where I say I would do things differently because I am more mature...

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    Very good point...
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    Apr 10, 2014 5:10 PM GMT
    But then...
    Gotta admit, it's kinda fun having him come back to you and now it's Your turn to give them the face palm, haha!

    LOOKING
    HOOOOOOOOT!
    IS THE BEST
    REVENGE.
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    Apr 10, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    Yes if I still have feelings for him.
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    Apr 10, 2014 6:24 PM GMT
    Chances are I moved on already, probably no, he had his chance. Things change, people change.
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    Apr 10, 2014 6:55 PM GMT
    My response would be hell no. Those modifications, hours at the gym, and overall change in my physique should be saved for someone who would be with me through thick and thin.

    That is where this song "Now I'm That Bitch" comes to mind:

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    Apr 10, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    Ohno saidIf you reject him just because of pride then you are no better than him, in fact you are worse because you are cutting your nose off to spite your face.

    I guess this is the part where I say I would do things differently because I am more mature...
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    This is sooooooooooo off base it isn't even funny.
  • bishop65

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    Apr 10, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    Nope. Why go backward? It was their loss in the first place. Life's all about moving forward. You had your chance and you blew it. ... Sorry.
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    Apr 10, 2014 7:43 PM GMT
    Lol, of course no!
  • Rene_Aensland

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    Apr 10, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    Prototypex saidIf you once were rejected by the guy you had feelings for, then he says, sorry you are not my type to your face!
    Few years later working hard at the gym, diet, style.. He comes to you admitting that you are his type and he wants you!
    Would you give him the chance or just tell him the same that he isn't your type?

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    Fuck no.
    Go fuck yourself.

    Is what I would say. =]
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    Apr 10, 2014 9:02 PM GMT
    Prototypex saidIf you once were rejected by the guy you had feelings for, then he says, sorry you are not my type to your face!
    Few years later working hard at the gym, diet, style.. He comes to you admitting that you are his type and he wants you!
    Would you give him the chance or just tell him the same that he isn't your type?

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    Actually, this is a true statement it happened to me, but online dating site. This guy rejected me and said I was overweight, that I did not have a 6-pack...blahahah, I continue working hard on myself, diet, exercise, etc. I then posted new photos and he said he wanted to get together. I said NO, I said you rejected me once why would I want to go out with you. He could not recall...I said "Man that is okay- its the gay memory- 0 to 60 seconds and it goes in a flash,..but I do remember you"..He then apologized...I said there is NOTHING to apologize there is a buyer for every merchandise out there, but obviously you are looking on a perfect body to have a relationship." I left it like that.
  • BloodFlame

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    Apr 11, 2014 1:56 AM GMT
    This happened to me before but it wasn't because of my body but my hair. lol Before it got to the length is is now, it was relatively short on me and needless to say, it looked rather bad (I always prefer long hair on myself). I remember asking a guy online just to chat and he pretty much rejected me. Year later, my hair grew and this same guy tried talking to me (I think he forgot who I was). I kindly told him I wasn't interested and well, that's the only time I can recall something like that happening to me.

    But in general, if a guy i liked who rejected me later wanted to get to know me after I have changed physically, I wouldn't get with him. Attraction is important, I know that but I could never go with someone who thought I wasn't worthy in the beginning.

    This is why I don't give false hope to the few guys who happen to be attracted to me but the feelings aren't mutual. Like for example, a lot of overweight/obese men seem to find me attractive and I'm flattered though I'm not attracted to overweight/obese guys. I remember one time, this larger gentlemen expressed how he thought I was attractive and when I kindly turned him down, he told me that he has been losing weight. But I personally don't feel I deserve someone in that situation. He should find a guy who would find him attractive in both forms instead of one and like I mentioned, I'm not attracted to overweight men so it would be horrible to just wait for someone to lose weight, then get with him.

    I have seen a few guys who I thought weren't attractive to me at first, but become attractive years later but I'd never go for them because it'd be wrong. That would be like someone rejecting me for my stature only to find me attractive if I changed. It's not a good feeling at all so why would I do that to someone?