Life Philosophy

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    Apr 12, 2014 2:18 AM GMT
    I've spend a great deal of time during my life watching people and wondering why they do things that they do. I'm always curious about why people behave towards others in certain ways and how they have come to be to think that it's okay to treat someone in a way that is in most instances is damaging to the person.

    Things like lying, being untrustworthy and generally not being what I personally consider to be a good person.

    Of course being a good person to me is very personal and subjective. It's also based upon my life experiences and how I've handled things that have taken place in my life.

    To that end I've developed a few philosophies towards how I treat people and how I expect to be treated.

    One of those is to leave people either better then I find them or as I have found them. So my intention is to either have a good impact or none at all and I approach many things with this idea but don't always succeed but I hope that I'm at least over the 50% marker on achieving that in life with the people around me.

    Along with that I have another that is to be honest even when it's painful in the hope that my words speak as honestly as my actions. Time and again I've found people will say one thing and then act another with the action being the honesty they were unable to utter for fear of whatever it was they were scared of saying but said it via the actions they took.

    I've actually found that the act and the lie tend to be more painful and damaging then the truth straight up even when the truth has been painful but when the action and the words are aligned and true it's been easier to take.

    So my question is, what's your life philosophies? we all have more then one since life is not as simple as a catch phrase.
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    Apr 12, 2014 2:20 AM GMT
    My philosophy of life is to not take things seriously. Humour is the best medicine. If you can laugh at yourself, you'll always have a reason to laugh about. Another thing is to be who you want to be, not what others want to see.
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    Apr 12, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    I think perhaps you have had a fortunate upbringing. You likely had very kind, educated, and maybe even affluent parents that taught you well and showed you a great deal of love.

    Not everyone has such fortune. Some are born into families of poverty and abuse. I think there are number of things that are going to determine the value of a man. Personality, needs, social circles and experiences all figure into how a person acts and treats others. One single experience in life, can change a person's personality and actions for life. The mind is a very strong, yet fragile thing.

    That said, I try not to judge too harshly, I try not lie, I try to be completely honest in all undertakings. I try to be kind to others, especially those less fortunate. But survival is also an instinct, and certain experiences in my life time warns me that no one can be trusted, therefor always use caution when dealing with others, mind what you say, how you act and what you do, because people can use even the simplest kind or humorous actions against you. You never know what is going on in someone elses mind so don't ever assume they are on the same wave length. So I guess my philosophy would be to be kind to others, but be cautious.
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    Apr 12, 2014 2:53 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI think perhaps you have had a fortunate upbringing. You likely had very kind, educated, and maybe even affluent parents that taught you well and showed you a great deal of love.

    Not everyone has such fortune. Some are born into families of poverty and abuse. I think there are number of things that are going to determine the value of a man. Personality, needs, social circles and experiences all figure into how a person acts and treats others. One single experience in life, can change a person's personality and actions for life. The mind is a very strong, yet fragile thing.

    That said, I try not to judge too harshly, I try not lie, I try to be completely honest in all undertakings. I try to be kind to others, especially those less fortunate. But survival is also an instinct, and certain experiences in my life time warns me that no one can be trusted, therefor always use caution when dealing with others, mind what you say, how you act and what you do, because people can use even the simplest kind or humorous actions against you. You never know what is going on in someone elses mind so don't ever assume they are on the same wave length. So I guess my philosophy would be to be kind to others, but be cautious.


    I don't believe this at all. I think that is a big cop out blaming a person's past for their future actions and it's a gross generalisation too.

    Many people have tough pasts and manage to rise above it just fine. Likewise many people who seem to have a relatively free ride turn into complete a-holes.

    Having a tough ride can also make you more empathetic and gives you more reason to be compassionate to others.
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    Apr 12, 2014 3:25 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI think perhaps you have had a fortunate upbringing. You likely had very kind, educated, and maybe even affluent parents that taught you well and showed you a great deal of love.

    I was raised by a mother who was bipolar and a father was was none existent from the age of 6.

    My mother attempted to kill me a few times when I was a teenager during her events with bipolar and I became her guardian from the age of 14. Still no father figure in my life but I was responsible for my mothers well being and for paying the bills and keeping everything safe.

    I was raped by a man named Peter at the age of 12 and attempted to commit suicide at 13. Actually I attempted a few times after that.

    I've been through more then those things, I've lost loves including my best friend, I've watched a ten year relationship with an incredible person crumble and I had no control of it. I've lost friendships through my own actions and the actions of others. I've been hurt by the people I loved the most and hurt others and seen the impact of there love for me. I've done things I regret to such a point that I have never shared them with anyone not out of fear or shame but because it's mine to carry and use to make sure I never do anything like that again.

    I've lived my life and seen, done and experienced things that are more then some have even begun to think of.

    You've pegged the wrong hole mate.

    I'm a byproduct of my experiences but I made a choice a very long time ago to make my experiences into personal growth, to make me better and stronger to help me love more, forgive more and take in more then I'd thought possible.

    I've taken my entire life and worked through everything that has taken place and I've come to be the person I am. Which is strong, compassionate, loving, thoughtful and and considerate of others and where they come from.

    You may judge me however you want I really am not concerned.
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    Apr 12, 2014 3:41 AM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidI think perhaps you have had a fortunate upbringing. You likely had very kind, educated, and maybe even affluent parents that taught you well and showed you a great deal of love.

    I was raised by a mother who was bipolar and a father was was none existent from the age of 6.

    My mother attempted to kill me a few times when I was a teenager during her events with bipolar and I became her guardian from the age of 14. Still no father figure in my life but I was responsible for my mothers well being and for paying the bills and keeping everything safe.

    I was raped by a man named Peter at the age of 12 and attempted to commit suicide at 13. Actually I attempted a few times after that.

    I've been through more then those things, I've lost loves including my best friend, I've watched a ten year relationship with an incredible person crumble and I had no control of it. I've lost friendships through my own actions and the actions of others. I've been hurt by the people I loved the most and hurt others and seen the impact of there love for me. I've done things I regret to such a point that I have never shared them with anyone not out of fear or shame but because it's mine to carry and use to make sure I never do anything like that again.

    I've lived my life and seen, done and experienced things that are more then some have even begun to think of.

    You've pegged the wrong hole mate.

    I'm a byproduct of my experiences but I made a choice a very long time ago to make my experiences into personal growth, to make me better and stronger to help me love more, forgive more and take in more then I'd thought possible.

    I've taken my entire life and worked through everything that has taken place and I've come to be the person I am. Which is strong, compassionate, loving, thoughtful and and considerate of others and where they come from.

    You may judge me however you want I really am not concerned.


    Ah see there you go ... you set me up for the fall .... I tried to be nice and see what it got me icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 12, 2014 3:44 AM GMT
    Just trying not to let past events affect the present like not judging people based on how others have behaved etc and try to give people a fair chance like trusting them until they do something to be not trusted rather than being suspicious.
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    Apr 12, 2014 3:48 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidAh see there you go ... you set me up for the fall .... I tried to be nice and see what it got me icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    I never set you up for anything.

    I asked to know about your life philosophies what guides you in life.

    I didn't ask for your analysis on where you think I came from and who I am as a person. You gave that off your own back and I responded in a way to tell you just a few of my life experiences and only of the bad ones at that.

    If you've taken anything from what I've said and felt that I've attempted to make you the fool you'd be wrong.
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    Apr 12, 2014 4:04 AM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidAh see there you go ... you set me up for the fall .... I tried to be nice and see what it got me icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    I never set you up for anything.

    I asked to know about your life philosophies what guides you in life.

    I didn't ask for your analysis on where you think I came from and who I am as a person. You gave that off your own back and I responded in a way to tell you just a few of my life experiences and only of the bad ones at that.

    If you've taken anything from what I've said and felt that I've attempted to make you the fool you'd be wrong.

    No it's cool, I did not feel you were actually setting me up, I was saying it in jest, however, you did go into quite some detail to express just how wrong I was. Your philosophy is a good and as I stated in mine ... I try ... I'm not perfect. In the words of Jesus Jones
    'Get it wrong get it right
    You can try it as hard as you might
    But there's no such thing
    In the world as the right decision'

    I'm sorry you had such bad things happen to you and am glad that you were bigger than them. The sum of who we are ...
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    Apr 12, 2014 4:07 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI'm sorry you had such bad things happen to you and am glad that you were bigger then them. The sum of who we are ...

    Don't be sorry man, the things that have happened to me have had some good to them. I like who I am, I know who I am and I've had some insanely good things happen to me.

    I wouldn't change a thing in my past what I have now is to precious to me to risk ever changing anything even if the chance existed. It's made me who I am and I really like that icon_smile.gif

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    Apr 12, 2014 4:07 AM GMT
    immunity saidMy philosophy:
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    AMoonHawk saidI'm sorry you had such bad things happen to you and am glad that you were bigger then them. The sum of who we are ...

    Don't be sorry man, the things that have happened to me have had some good to them. I like who I am, I know who I am and I've had some insanely good things happen to me.

    I wouldn't change a thing in my past what I have now is to precious to me to risk ever changing anything even if the chance existed. It's made me who I am and I really like that icon_smile.gif



    That's a great attitude I don't think many people could have such a positive outlook.
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    Apr 12, 2014 8:03 AM GMT
    HamsterCheeks saidThat's a great attitude I don't think many people could have such a positive outlook.

    It's funny that people want to change the past with the expectation it will make the present and future better.

    It's you and your choices, how you handle the good and the bad times that decide how you will be in the future.

    Every time you get beaten down you get up, you get beaten down again and you get up again. You can be bitter about it or you can instead find a way to be happy.

    The realisation that my past made me who I am today means that as much as I went through I like who I am today and so can't change who I was yesterday because yesterday I learnt and today I was happy icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 12, 2014 8:45 AM GMT
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    Apr 12, 2014 12:57 PM GMT
    My philosophies can be summed up in a few quotes

    "Tragedy blows through your life like a tornado, uprooting everything. Creating chaos. You wait for the dust to settle and then you choose. You can live in the wreckage and pretend it's still the mansion you remember. Or you can crawl from the rubble and slowly rebuild."

    "Rely on impulse and not even your thoughts can betray you"

    “Whatever is going on inside your head has everything to do with how well you end up performing.”


    “In the old days we trained Karate as a martial art, but now they train Karate as a gymnastic sport. I think we must avoid treating Karate as a sport – it must be a martial art at all times! Your fingers and the tips of your toes must be like arrows, your arms must be like iron. You have to think that if you kick, you try to kick the enemy dead. If you punch, you must thrust to kill. If you strike, then you strike to kill the enemy. This is the spirit you need in order to progress in your training.”
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    Apr 12, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    tmac saidMy philosophies can be summed up in a few quotes
    "Tragedy blows through your life like a tornado, uprooting everything. Creating chaos. You wait for the dust to settle and then you choose. You can live in the wreckage and pretend it's still the mansion you remember. Or you can crawl from the rubble and slowly rebuild."
    "Rely on impulse and not even your thoughts can betray you"

    “Whatever is going on inside your head has everything to do with how well you end up performing.”
    “In the old days we trained Karate as a martial art, but now they train Karate as a gymnastic sport. I think we must avoid treating Karate as a sport – it must be a martial art at all times! Your fingers and the tips of your toes must be like arrows, your arms must be like iron. You have to think that if you kick, you try to kick the enemy dead. If you punch, you must thrust to kill. If you strike, then you strike to kill the enemy. This is the spirit you need in order to progress in your training.”
    I've always admired these "martial arts" -- mindful -- ways of approaching life. I don't live that way but I respect it, admire it, and occasionally make efforts in that direction.

    I was brought up in an emotionally abusive environment, one where my self worth and value was constantly eroded and I didn't learn how to maintain good personal boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. I began to learn a bit about other 'philosophies' outside of that as a teenager (Zen Buddhism). Also around that time I began to learn how to discipline myself from within… by following my own insights and impulses. Growing up and learning to become responsible, take responsibility for my own life and be more mindful, that was a very long road for me. One I couldn't have travelled without help from others.

    Along the way I've learned a lot of things… My life has been rich with experiences (some horrifying and painful, others wondrous)… And I've met some truly remarkable human beings… and in this way my life has been blessed. Moving into the final phase of my life is proving to be very challenging in lots of ways. But the one thing I make time for is listening to the difficulties those younger and possibly less fortunate than myself are dealing with. I know life can be rough. But I also know that one's attitude toward it counts more than one's circumstances. I value honesty, integrity, finding beauty in even the simple things and a having a sense of humor. It's very important to have fun and not take life *too* seriously, but (in the same breath) to recognize its intrinsic value. It is a precious gift.
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    Apr 12, 2014 4:11 PM GMT
    For me one of the biggest lies about life is that as long as you're a good person and do the right thing, everything will work out for you. Huh?

    My fav quote about this:
    Expecting life to treat you well because you're a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you're a vegetarian.
    -Shari Barr
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    Apr 12, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
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    HamsterCheeks saidThat's a great attitude I don't think many people could have such a positive outlook.

    It's funny that people want to change the past with the expectation it will make the present and future better.

    It's you and your choices, how you handle the good and the bad times that decide how you will be in the future.

    Every time you get beaten down you get up, you get beaten down again and you get up again. You can be bitter about it or you can instead find a way to be happy.

    The realisation that my past made me who I am today means that as much as I went through I like who I am today and so can't change who I was yesterday because yesterday I learnt and today I was happy icon_smile.gif


    You put me to shame because I never went through half of what you have and then I still let my past totally influence my actions
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    Apr 12, 2014 4:23 PM GMT
    Well, most of you won't give a shit about this but, I like this quote. A few on this site really need it.


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    Apr 12, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
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    Xavier92 saidWell, most of you won't give a shit about this but, I like this quote. A few on this site really need it.


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    you can start then


    Says the bipolar psychopath.
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    Apr 12, 2014 10:39 PM GMT
    HamsterCheeks saidYou put me to shame because I never went through half of what you have and then I still let my past totally influence my actions

    Na man that's not the way things work in life. I know people who have had it far harder then me who've suffered more and lost much much more. My life is my life and it's not to be compared to others.

    I have a lot of good memories as well I just shared the worst parts of it, if we all did that we'd end up with a thread where you'd want to off your self but if I started writing about all the good things everything would appear different.

    Your living your life and your past will influence your future but you get to choose how something in your life will influence you. Decide if that event that takes place will help you grow or hold you back.

    And try not to compare your life to others it's not a competition.
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    Should have just called it the DM thread
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    Apr 12, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidI think perhaps you have had a fortunate upbringing. You likely had very kind, educated, and maybe even affluent parents that taught you well and showed you a great deal of love.

    I was raised by a mother who was bipolar and a father was was none existent from the age of 6.

    My mother attempted to kill me a few times when I was a teenager during her events with bipolar and I became her guardian from the age of 14. Still no father figure in my life but I was responsible for my mothers well being and for paying the bills and keeping everything safe.

    I was raped by a man named Peter at the age of 12 and attempted to commit suicide at 13. Actually I attempted a few times after that.

    I've been through more then those things, I've lost loves including my best friend, I've watched a ten year relationship with an incredible person crumble and I had no control of it. I've lost friendships through my own actions and the actions of others. I've been hurt by the people I loved the most and hurt others and seen the impact of there love for me. I've done things I regret to such a point that I have never shared them with anyone not out of fear or shame but because it's mine to carry and use to make sure I never do anything like that again.

    I've lived my life and seen, done and experienced things that are more then some have even begun to think of.

    You've pegged the wrong hole mate.

    I'm a byproduct of my experiences but I made a choice a very long time ago to make my experiences into personal growth, to make me better and stronger to help me love more, forgive more and take in more then I'd thought possible.

    I've taken my entire life and worked through everything that has taken place and I've come to be the person I am. Which is strong, compassionate, loving, thoughtful and and considerate of others and where they come from.

    You may judge me however you want I really am not concerned.


    Wow, some story. I'm impressed that you're not bitter, and I admire your strength.

    My rules for living are:

    Opinions are like assholes, everybody has one, and they usually stink.

    People are funny (strange).

    People do strange things when it comes to money.

    You can't change others, only how you react.

    Be nasty only when you have to defend yourself, otherwise always be polite. I need to work on this one.

    You can't always get what you want

    Nothing lasts forever

    Anything that can go wrong, WILL go wrong.

    The most inconvenient turn of events is the most likely.

    The simplest solution is usually best.

    Not everyone will be your friend

    Everything will work out eventually

    Take a moment to remember the deceased

    People won't remember everything you've said, but they will remember how you made them feel.



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    Apr 12, 2014 11:39 PM GMT
    Blakes7 saidPeople are funny (strange).

    LOL love it icon_smile.gif