Came out to my parents yesterday

  • Nayro

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    Apr 12, 2014 12:03 PM GMT
    Hey guys,

    most of my friends on RJ already know this, but I came out to my parents yesterday. Few of you may be thinking, gosh another coming out story but I think it's a good thing that we share these kind of stories with eachother because it may inspire other people. I for one got very inspired by the stories some of the members here shared about coming out and it motivated me to come out as well.

    I've been struggling with my sexual orientation for a long time. I chose to go to Australia for a year to discover and develop what/who I really am and was hoping I could find a solution to finally accept that I am gay. I'm definitely getting there, and learned a lot about myself since I came here.

    My parents decided to visit my for 3 weeks. I told one of my close friends who lives here and is actually from the same town as I am, that I am gay. She took it extremely well and has been there for me ever since. She kind of motivated me as well to come out to my parents. So last week my parents arrived in Sydney and we did some sightseeing. I was ofcourse feeling the burden that I had to tell them. so after 2 days I decided I would tell them. We were sitting in their hotel room and I was texting with my friend saying that I didn't really want to and I would do it some other time, she said no do it now, you can do it it'll be fine. You can do it. So I put away the phone, took a deep breath, closed my eyes and said what I had to say...

    My mom began to hug my right away and she was crying, saying that she felt so sorry for me that I had to go through this all by myself and my dad agreed with her. They said they already considered it an option but were never sure. They told me they wished I told them earlier so I didn't have to go through this all by myself, they felt guilty they couldn't be there for me. I told them I was not ready to tell them and had to figure out for myself and I was never completely alone because I had RJ, and a lot of friends here especially the last few months who made me realize that being gay is normal and there is nothing wrong with it. It was time for me to accept that. My parents said nothing changed and they will welcome my future boyfriend (if I ever get one but thats a whole different issue lol icon_razz.gif) as their son in law, no different from the boyfriend of my sister and the girlfriend of my brother. Which was nice to hear. A huge weight fell of my shoulders and it is such a relief. I wish everyone who came out to his parents would get a reaction like this, but I know that is not the case, which is too bad..

    I hope my story along with all the stories motivate other guys on here to come out as well, and I hope you all get the same reaction.

    TL;DR: I came out to my parents and they were extremely understanding and helpful
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    Apr 12, 2014 12:50 PM GMT
    That's awesome! Congratulations. Be proud of yourself. Enjoy the rest of your parents visit.
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    Apr 12, 2014 1:37 PM GMT
    Good for you, J! I'm delighted that it went so well. Multiple hugs.

  • Apr 12, 2014 1:45 PM GMT
    That's awesome!

    Beats my dad telling me I should go to a strip club and get a lap dance when I came out.
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    Apr 12, 2014 1:47 PM GMT
    Congrats.

    Thought you came out over a year ago; when you put up a face picture?
    "considered it an option"icon_lol.gif
    Funny how that happens when you're not dating woman.

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    Apr 12, 2014 1:52 PM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidCongrats.

    Thought you came out over a year ago; when you put up a face picture?
    "considered it an option"icon_lol.gif
    Funny how that happens when you're not dating woman.

    I think what he really may have wanted to convey wasn't that his parents considered it an "option" but a "possibility".

    Very cool parents.
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    Apr 12, 2014 5:05 PM GMT
    Man that is SO AWESOME! Super happy for you and congrats for having amazing parents
  • Karl

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    Apr 12, 2014 5:24 PM GMT
    omg I'm crying now, congratulation.
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    Apr 12, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    Glad to know it turned out well, congrats!
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    Apr 12, 2014 5:41 PM GMT
    Congratulations. Thanks for sharing your beautiful story!
  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Apr 12, 2014 7:42 PM GMT
    That is awesome! I am glad they took it well.
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    Apr 12, 2014 8:37 PM GMT
    Congratulations! icon_biggrin.gif YAYAYAY! *gives high fives with hands above my head*
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    Apr 12, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    Congrats man, I always chicken out even though I'm sure they know and they'd be supportive as well!
  • Farmboy8

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    Apr 12, 2014 10:55 PM GMT
    Congratulations on your good news of your coming out to your parents. I AM glad you shared your story and it helps me personally as I am traveling a nearly identical path. The only difference being that I will be addressing my brothers and sister (Dad passed away and in Mom's condition I'm not sure it will really register). I am having a better appreciation for what "coming out" means now after having gone thru a very similar self evaluation. Your story truly hits home for me. Thank you for sharing and best of luck moving forward.
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    Apr 12, 2014 11:07 PM GMT
    OMG congratulations!!!!

    AND OMFG YOU GOT FACE PHOTOS UP!!!!!!!!
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    Apr 12, 2014 11:13 PM GMT
    Congratulations, it's wonderful to hear a happy outcome to a coming out story!! I'm so happy for you!! icon_biggrin.gificon_cool.gif
  • starboard5

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    Apr 12, 2014 11:48 PM GMT
    Congratulations. I wish everyone could have your experience.
  • RaggedyMan

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    Apr 12, 2014 11:55 PM GMT
    YAY!
  • Nayro

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    Apr 13, 2014 12:04 AM GMT
    Thanks all icon_smile.gif

    I've had face pics up for a while already. Was a step in the right direction for me icon_smile.gif

    @ AD: Yes I meant possibility, literal translation from Dutch to English doesn't always work out icon_razz.gif
  • Nayro

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    Apr 13, 2014 12:06 AM GMT
    S34n05 saidCongrats man, I always chicken out even though I'm sure they know and they'd be supportive as well!


    I've had this feeling multiple times, the nerves building up and then chicken out. This time I was texting with a friend who knew I was planning on coming out so she kind of said, just do it, get it over with, it'll be fine. That did help. And childish as it may seem, closing my eyes and just saying what I wanted to say did help icon_razz.gif
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    Apr 13, 2014 12:10 AM GMT
    Way to go, man.

    Don't know if some random person on the internet being proud of you is something you want, but you got it anyway!
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    Apr 13, 2014 12:11 AM GMT
    Congrats man. Sorry for being late to the party icon_redface.gif

    You are one of the kindest and wisest people I know. You deserve to be happy and I'm glad your parents are supporting that.

    Always here for ya buddy. And best of luck moving forward.
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:00 AM GMT
    S34n05 saidCongrats man, I always chicken out even though I'm sure they know and they'd be supportive as well!
    You're not out? They obviously don't have instagay


    And to the OP, congrats! Life for me has been so much better since coming out. Trying to keep all that gay innuendo to yourself is no fun at all.
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:21 AM GMT
    This sounds very nice
  • mybud

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    Apr 13, 2014 3:25 AM GMT
    All the best to you and your family....