The straight guy needs help!!

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    Apr 12, 2014 5:59 PM GMT
    Guys,

    I really need some help and advice about anal penetration. It would be nice if you were serious about it too. I have an issue, that after years of dealing with, I need to get educated from the professionals (real gay men).

    Bare with me through my boring background information, I just want to get it all out in case any of it matters. I am a straight man, and I have been married to my wife for 8 years. I had always, since like 9 years old liked anal stimulation. Of course, identifying as straight and feeling ashamed through my child hood, adolescence, and young adulthood I self penetrated on rare occasion with random toys or objects alone.

    Once I met my wife, lo and behold she loved anal play both ways. Her preference was my cock, my preference was as many of her well lubricated fingers in my ass that I could stand. Enjoying this with her, I wanted more. It was an enormous hurdle for me to verbalize to her that I wanted the strap on, but I did. And God damn, do I love it.

    But here is the problem, I work offshore for 28 days at a time, and when I am home she only pegs me rarely because after we are done, the next day my sphincter is really irritated, and sometimes I get the tiniest drops of blood on the toilet paper. It heals on its own, but I usually have to wait every other month for my wife to fuck me again.

    It's just the irritation that is the problem. The soreness the next day from her brutally taking what she wants is awesome, but the rawness isn't.

    I want more, but I need expert advice. I feel like we are using enough lube, and this issue even happens if she is gentle. So how can I start to troubleshoot this issue?

    Sincerely,

    Raw1
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:01 PM GMT
    A straight guy on a gay site asking for help? How meta


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    Apr 12, 2014 6:02 PM GMT
    Xavier92 saidA straight guy on a gay site asking for help? How meta


    Be nice, he's a guest
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Well, this is a new twist on trolling. Have fun.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    JarIan said
    Xavier92 saidA straight guy on a gay site asking for help? How meta


    Be nice, he's a guest troll.

    Fixed. You're welcome.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:07 PM GMT
    Sharkadelic said
    JarIan said
    Xavier92 saidA straight guy on a gay site asking for help? How meta


    Be nice, he's a guest troll.

    Fixed. You're welcome.


    Exactly

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    Apr 12, 2014 6:08 PM GMT
    O.K., apparently I have started a mess. It's like I want to apologize,but I am asking this question in earnest. If anyone would like to email me help me in private let me know. When I find someone to email with (privately) I will delete this post.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    Raw1 saidO.K., apparently I have started a mess. It's like I want to apologize,but I am asking this question in earnest. If anyone would like to email me help me in private let me know. When I find someone to email with (privately) I will delete this post.


    Too late. We're gonna have a party.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:09 PM GMT
    You can't delete it. Too many replies already. And you're somebody's sock account. You'd think you'd have better things to do than troll. But to each his own.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:11 PM GMT
    Raw1 saidGuys,

    I really need some help and advice about anal penetration. It would be nice if you were serious about it too. I have an issue, that after years of dealing with, I need to get educated from the professionals (real gay men).

    Bare with me through my boring background information, I just want to get it all out in case any of it matters. I am a straight man, and I have been married to my wife for 8 years. I had always, since like 9 years old liked anal stimulation. Of course, identifying as straight and feeling ashamed through my child hood, adolescence, and young adulthood I self penetrated on rare occasion with random toys or objects alone.

    Once I met my wife, lo and behold she loved anal play both ways. Her preference was my cock, my preference was as many of her well lubricated fingers in my ass that I could stand. Enjoying this with her, I wanted more. It was an enormous hurdle for me to verbalize to her that I wanted the strap on, but I did. And God damn, do I love it.

    But here is the problem, I work offshore for 28 days at a time, and when I am home she only pegs me rarely because after we are done, the next day my sphincter is really irritated, and sometimes I get the tiniest drops of blood on the toilet paper. It heals on its own, but I usually have to wait every other month for my wife to fuck me again.

    It's just the irritation that is the problem. The soreness the next day from her brutally taking what she wants is awesome, but the rawness isn't.

    I want more, but I need expert advice. I feel like we are using enough lube, and this issue even happens if she is gentle. So how can I start to troubleshoot this issue?

    Sincerely,

    Raw1
    you just gotta do it more often when you are together..its just like any bottoms first Time..if you fuck him 3-4 times a week he doesn't get sore anymore
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:15 PM GMT
    Behemoth,

    Really, I appreciate that. I had a feeling it would be something along those lines but wasn't sure. And seriously, any sage advice on lubes. What really works the best?
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:16 PM GMT
    Raw1 saidBehemoth,

    Really, I appreciate that. I had a feeling it would be something along those lines but wasn't sure. And seriously, any sage advice on lubes. What really works the best?


    Lubes work best when mixed with hot sauce. It makes things hotter.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:22 PM GMT
    Why are you so angry Xavier? God damn, don't you realize that if I wasn't surrounded by homophobic neocons at work and at home that maybe I would have some gay friends to ask these kinds of questions? Instead, I have to put my neck out and get torn down. Could you at least give me credit for ignorance. Now I see that I should have just said I was gay to begin with, and said I just lost my virginity.

    Wait, no, that would be misleading. Hell I figure that's more troll like.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Apr 12, 2014 6:33 PM GMT
    I'm sure being off shore 28 days at a time drilling for oil you could find someone who would be happy to drill you
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:35 PM GMT
    Raw1 saidBehemoth,

    Really, I appreciate that. I had a feeling it would be something along those lines but wasn't sure. And seriously, any sage advice on lubes. What really works the best?
    I like wet platinum the best I never gotta reapply cause it lasts a while, swiss navy silicon is ok too but I prefer wet.. stay away from the water based it just gets sticky and dries out
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:43 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidI'm sure being off shore 28 days at a time drilling for oil you could find someone who would be happy to drill you


    O.K., even if I was gay, none of these guys I work with look like you. You have a fantastic body.
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    Apr 12, 2014 6:44 PM GMT
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  • rugbyjockca

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    Apr 16, 2014 1:53 PM GMT
    This post reminds me of a text my boyfriend got on the weekend from his best friend's sister. She sent it just after midnight saying "Hey, I need your help. I have a question about anal sex. Get back to me ASAP."

    My bf saw the message the next morning and texted back, and got the response: "Nevermind. The relationship is probably over now anyway."

    And now we have so many questions ourselves. What did she need to know? Did the relationship end because we didn't answer soon enough? Why did she think my bf was the right person to ask?

    I really hope straight people get their shit together one day so they can ask each other questions like this. Or else, we should just start a pay service for "Ask A Gay" so we can make a buck.
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    Apr 16, 2014 2:43 PM GMT
    OP, google 'my girlfriend pegged me' and you will get scores of results that you can click on. They take you to topics where people are talking about this and where you can get advice.

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    Apr 16, 2014 8:31 PM GMT
    Straight guys having anal butt play is nothing new. Ben Wa balls were invented by the Chinese a millennia ago.

    You shouldn't bleed. Too big or too fast or whatever.
    Fingers and small toys first, just to relax. Do straight women rim a man's ass? That helps to relax and is pleasurable on it's own.