So, I've decided that if I can'tgget what I want , that I'll remain alone...

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    Apr 13, 2014 6:24 AM GMT
    Am I nuts? Hehe
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    Apr 13, 2014 6:27 AM GMT
    It's up to you. Your sense of happiness and peace of mind is what you define it.
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    Apr 13, 2014 7:19 AM GMT
    No you're not because I am exactly the same as you. I keep my life really busy so I don't even think about trying to look for what I "want". The gay community is too complicated and is involved with things that are overly dramatic. So I prefer just staying away. Live your life icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 13, 2014 9:22 AM GMT
    As opposed to? Are you saying that you're not "settling for less" or just being pessimistic?

    In addition to what the others have said, I agree that you have to create your own happiness in life; love ultimately comes from within. The more you love, the more you will be loved - although the forms may not always be the way you had planned.

    As I get older, I realize that I've spent a lot of time obsessing over trying to find the perfect guy without realizing what a loving group of family I have and what lovely circle of friends I've collect, as well as people I've met. It's understandable to become frustrated and numb with going to bed every night, but I hold the belief that the more love you cultivate within your heart, the more love seems to find you; the less you'll scour dating websites online and attempt date after date with no success in anything long term or sustainably gratifying.

    If all you're saying is that you've chosen to not settle for less - standards have their pro's and con's. I feel like a lot of the time, people (including myself)are too picky and pass up good opportunities. There are some I wish I could go back to and give another chance to.

    It's all about finding the happy balance, I guess.
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    Apr 13, 2014 11:51 AM GMT
    2 factors;
    isn't it all about the "what I want" vs how much you want it.

    i mean you can adjust what you want till it becomes obtainable... at any time in your life.
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    Apr 14, 2014 8:02 AM GMT
    If you are talking about a list of a perfect guy, then good luck with that. The guys that go that route that I know are still single 20 years later.
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    Apr 14, 2014 6:46 PM GMT
    It could be a recipe for loneliness.