Getting him in bed

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    Apr 13, 2014 3:22 PM GMT
    There's a guy I go to school with, athlete, great body, whole package. He's not out, but his teammates are thinking it.

    Matched up on here and Adam4Adam. He's told me he is interested, and he knows I am as well. We have become friends over time.

    I cannot get him in bed with me because he doesn't want it be with someone he knows since he isn't out yet.

    Any advice? I'm really trying to make this happen
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:25 PM GMT
    Your mother must be proud.
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:25 PM GMT
    Rohypnol
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:37 PM GMT
    Or ketamine if you don't mind having sex with him on the floor.

    Seriously though, didn't you learn the phrase, "no means no" in school?
  • MikeW

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    Apr 13, 2014 3:38 PM GMT
    There are many ways to seduce a guy, especially if he's gay but cautious.

    Obviously you don't want to flirt with a guy in any situation where someone else can see you. So you have to get him alone with you.

    It's good to have some beer or pot or something. Loosen him up.

    Beyond that some creativity is needed. You might try touching him, arm, shoulder, something friendly but not coming on too strong and see how he reacts. You could lead the conversation toward sexual stuff. You could suggest putting on some porn and jerking off together. Then one thing can lead to another….

    Point is, use your imagination. What would get YOU interested if you were feeling cautious?

    Note, being an old guy I haven't tried anything like this in over half a century but back when I was your age, such things worked.
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    Easy peezy..just get him alone for a movie or something. If he is interested one thing well lead to another
  • MikeW

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    Apr 13, 2014 3:41 PM GMT
    shawnathan saidOr ketamine if you don't mind having sex with him on the floor.

    Seriously though, didn't you learn the phrase, "no means no" in school?

    Of course shawnathan has a point, too. If this is a serious 'no', you don't want to go there. That's rape. But keep in mind, even if he does let you *seduce* him, he may come out of the situation feeling afraid, guilty and resenting you. Could totally backfire in any 'friendship' sense of the word.
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
    What's wrong with you?
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:43 PM GMT
    So, you're basically trying to rape him?
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    Apr 13, 2014 3:47 PM GMT
    MikeW said
    shawnathan saidOr ketamine if you don't mind having sex with him on the floor.

    Seriously though, didn't you learn the phrase, "no means no" in school?

    Of course shawnathan has a point, too. If this is a serious 'no', you don't want to go there. That's rape. But keep in mind, even if he does let you *seduce* him, he may come out of the situation feeling afraid, guilty and resenting you. Could totally backfire in any 'friendship' sense of the word.



    Must not have come off the right way. This is NOT rape. We have talked about hooking up before, but he is being very cautious. I thought by saying we were both interested, that covered it but apparently not.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 13, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    How about you just start with asking him out for coffee or study together ... if you can, try taking the same class he is taking
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    Apr 13, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    mpw922 said
    MikeW said
    shawnathan saidOr ketamine if you don't mind having sex with him on the floor.

    Seriously though, didn't you learn the phrase, "no means no" in school?

    Of course shawnathan has a point, too. If this is a serious 'no', you don't want to go there. That's rape. But keep in mind, even if he does let you *seduce* him, he may come out of the situation feeling afraid, guilty and resenting you. Could totally backfire in any 'friendship' sense of the word.



    Must not have come off the right way. This is NOT rape. We have talked about hooking up before, but he is being very cautious. I thought by saying we were both interested, that covered it but apparently not.


    The rape bit is a joke, the point is that if he's not comfortable, there's no point in pressing it. From your OP, it sounds like he doesn't want to have sex with you because he doesn't trust you. My advice is that you back away from the idea of getting him in bed and work on helping him become comfortable with being gay. In the process, you might find that you become close friends and maybe you'll appreciate him as more than a sexual object and maybe, just maybe, he'll start to trust you.

    Oh and you matched "on here"?
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    Apr 13, 2014 4:20 PM GMT
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    Apr 13, 2014 4:23 PM GMT
    Will there be a time when this is sorted out in 7th grade as it is with the breeders?

    Has your "interested" friend heard of friends with benefits?
    Of course he has
    so
    He's just not that into you or he's scared of your enormous appendage
    yeah, that's the ticket...
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    Apr 13, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    His excuse sounds like he's lying. He's probably not into you and is trying to let you down gently.
  • killercliche

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    Apr 13, 2014 5:18 PM GMT
    mpw922 saidThere's a guy I go to school with, athlete, great body, whole package.


    He's rather short. Maybe you are too tall for him.
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    Apr 13, 2014 5:24 PM GMT
    You stated in your post that this guy doesn't want to sleep with you because he's not out. That doesn't make any sense!! Two guys sleeping together doesn't mean they need to come out. You need to walk away and leave him alone because both of you have really whacked frame of thinking.
  • Timbales

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    Apr 13, 2014 5:34 PM GMT
    Maybe he's not looking for a fuck and just wants a friend.

    Maybe he doesn't want to have sex outside of being in a relationship with someone, and doesn't feel like he can be in a relationship because he's not out and comfortable with himself yet.
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    Apr 13, 2014 6:47 PM GMT
    killercliche said
    mpw922 saidThere's a guy I go to school with, athlete, great body, whole package.


    He's rather short. Maybe you are too tall for him.



    Hahahahahahaha wth
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    Apr 13, 2014 7:33 PM GMT
    Oye Faye! *shakes head*

    I think you should back away from trying to bag him and instead just make him feel comfortable about his sexuality.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 13, 2014 7:37 PM GMT
    hellass saidHis excuse sounds like he's lying. He's probably not into you and is trying to let you down gently.

    Very intuitive