Something To Consider The Next Time You're Feeling Down About Yourself...

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    Apr 14, 2014 2:42 PM GMT


    Take a look:

    https://ca.shine.yahoo.com/video/happens-people-confess-deepest-insecurities-012403820.html?vp=1

    Cheers!

  • Apr 14, 2014 3:36 PM GMT
    excellent experiment.
    We judging ourselves way too harshly all the time.
  • confidentcrip

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    Apr 14, 2014 3:52 PM GMT
    I need to do this.
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    Apr 14, 2014 4:26 PM GMT
    My mind is my worst enemy.
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    Apr 14, 2014 4:47 PM GMT
    I agree, we're very hard on ourselves. I could picture being one of those standing in front of the mirror listing all of my imperfections. I would be there for a while and I'm sure that others watching would see many of my more positive traits.
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    Apr 14, 2014 4:54 PM GMT


    #Melu♥s
  • Sportsfan1

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    Apr 14, 2014 5:31 PM GMT
    Many times I can be my own worst enemy. This was very uplifting. I spend a lot of time at the gym and I am careful how I eat. I have what I consider a "nice" build but I always feel it can be better. Great posting!
  • toastvenom

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    Apr 14, 2014 6:02 PM GMT
    this is why I feel (despite the new age self help approach telling us it all starts from within) that what happens on the outside is important in the sense that it does validate assumptions/self-perceptions we have of ourselves. an individual can look at themselves in the mirror every morning and tell themselves until they are blue in the face that they matter and are relevant and worthy of love and success etc. but if they walk out the door and aren't validated on the things they have told themselves this is ultimately what establishes self-esteem. Success, personally, professionally etc. nobody can prove a hypothesis without evidence. Repeated failures/too much of nothing will lead people to be self critical because they aren't where they feel they should be (on a professional and/or personal level.) Being accepted for who you are, what u look like and are capable of (not the idea of becoming "better") is what will motivate an individual to feel they are worthy and capable of larger aspirations should they have any
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    Apr 14, 2014 8:25 PM GMT
    Thanks for sharing.
    I'll try and just be mean to others instead icon_razz.gif
  • wellwell

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    Apr 14, 2014 8:36 PM GMT
    OR:


    ...Just remember, once upon a time, you were the most aggressive, strongest, fastest; and therefore, the victorious "swimmer" out of millions of contestants!
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    Apr 14, 2014 9:01 PM GMT
    Toastvenom saidthis is why I feel (despite the new age self help approach telling us it all starts from within) that what happens on the outside is important in the sense that it does validate assumptions/self-perceptions we have of ourselves. an individual can look at themselves in the mirror every morning and tell themselves until they are blue in the face that they matter and are relevant and worthy of love and success etc. but if they walk out the door and aren't validated on the things they have told themselves this is ultimately what establishes self-esteem. Success, personally, professionally etc. nobody can prove a hypothesis without evidence. Repeated failures/too much of nothing will lead people to be self critical because they aren't where they feel they should be (on a professional and/or personal level.) Being accepted for who you are, what u look like and are capable of (not the idea of becoming "better") is what will motivate an individual to feel they are worthy and capable of larger aspirations should they have any


    Interesting observations, Toast. I was impressed with the hidden viewers that gave feedback. Each had a choice to either make someone's day, or ruin it.
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    Apr 14, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Toastvenom saidthis is why I feel (despite the new age self help approach telling us it all starts from within) that what happens on the outside is important in the sense that it does validate assumptions/self-perceptions we have of ourselves. an individual can look at themselves in the mirror every morning and tell themselves until they are blue in the face that they matter and are relevant and worthy of love and success etc. but if they walk out the door and aren't validated on the things they have told themselves this is ultimately what establishes self-esteem. Success, personally, professionally etc. nobody can prove a hypothesis without evidence. Repeated failures/too much of nothing will lead people to be self critical because they aren't where they feel they should be (on a professional and/or personal level.) Being accepted for who you are, what u look like and are capable of (not the idea of becoming "better") is what will motivate an individual to feel they are worthy and capable of larger aspirations should they have any


    Interesting observations, Toast. I was impressed with the hidden viewers that gave feedback. Each had a choice to either make someone's day, or ruin it.


    It's interesting that the strangers saw what was good in the other person, pretty much off the bat. I also find RJ interesting when some get excited when they tear others down, just to read their reactions and let a flame war begin.

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    Apr 15, 2014 2:40 AM GMT
    I guess, especially on here, that the opposite can be said, in that, some of the men on here may be some of the most beautiful specimens, until they open their mouths. Rather, write their words down for all to read.

    Maybe, the people looking in the mirror were seeing themselves as themselves, and without words or context, maybe the people on the other side of the mirror were forced to look past the image, and see what was within. Assumptions, i know

    cliche icon_rolleyes.gif but, as the song says, "when there's beauty on the inside, the outside there's nothing to ch-ch-ch-change. icon_wink.gif
  • jcd87

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    Apr 15, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    wow, very nice video icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 15, 2014 6:54 AM GMT
    We all have highs and lows. Thing is, tomorrow is a new day. There may be bright sunshine ahead, and if that's the case, follow your path, it's right there in front of you.

    But if tomorrow is gray, or stormy - embrace it. Take the challenge on. Give it your all. Fight your best fight, and build from there. You're stronger than you may think you are.
  • secondstartot...

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    Apr 15, 2014 7:00 AM GMT
    yup great....except none of those people were vaguely bad looking they ranged from above average to quite good looking

    yup keep patting yourselves on the back as long as you feel better about yourselves
  • Kalifornicati...

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    Apr 15, 2014 12:34 PM GMT
    What a lovely way to put things in perspective.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:49 PM GMT
    secondstartotheright saidyup great....except none of those people were vaguely bad looking they ranged from above average to quite good looking




    They didn't think so. icon_wink.gif Observers, however, like yourself, did.
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    Apr 17, 2014 6:41 PM GMT
    Ammon saidThanks for sharing.
    I'll try and just be mean to others instead icon_razz.gif


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