The words "I love you!"

  • Mccrae

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    Dec 30, 2008 3:30 PM GMT
    Do you still say I love you to your partner at the end of a phone conversation? My sibling, cousin and friends don't because according to them it's cheezy. I think it is romantic. Am I alone on this view?
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    Dec 30, 2008 3:45 PM GMT
    Love is....
    never feeling like saying, "I Love You" is chessy. icon_wink.gif

    Although, if you feel you must say it every-time you part or end a phone conversation it will come across about as meaningful as the word "good-bye" or even possibly sound froced.
    Say it when you mean it and want to express it... When you do that, it will always be received as it was "felt".
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    Dec 30, 2008 3:50 PM GMT
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    Dec 30, 2008 3:51 PM GMT


    This is going to sound bad. Apologies. Having seen the amount of sudden death that we have, we always say it to each other, it's always heart-felt, as you never know if it's the last time you'll be able to say it.

    Bear in mind we don't dwell on it this way. It's usually just a brief verbal hug we give each other; a momentary affirmation of how lucky we are.

    With others I care deeply about, like family etc. it's often simply 'bye, love', or 'hello love'..


    -Doug





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    Dec 30, 2008 3:57 PM GMT
    Timberoo said


    LOL, and that Robbie Williams is HOT and could make me say a few stupid things icon_eek.gif
  • Delivis

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    Dec 30, 2008 3:57 PM GMT
    I certainly plan to say it if and when that connection should happen with someone.
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    Dec 30, 2008 3:59 PM GMT
    Mccrae saidDo you still say I love you to your partner at the end of a phone conversation? My sibling, cousin and friends don't because according to them it's cheezy. I think it is romantic. Am I alone on this view?

    We say it on the phone most times, except maybe when it's a hasty "I'm on my way, see you in a few minutes" sort of call.

    I also always say "Hello, my love!" when I come home. And I often add it to everyday conversation: "Yes, my love" "No, my love" "Tell me more about it, my love" and so on. Nothing cheesy about using the "love" word often with your partner, in any situation. And here in the Fort Lauderdale area, that extends to public settings for us, too, where gay PDAs are seldom a problem.
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    Dec 30, 2008 5:40 PM GMT
    We usually say it once a day to each other
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    Dec 30, 2008 5:43 PM GMT
    I actually say it EVERY TIME I end a conversation with my baby brother, but he;s 30; does that count as baby brother????
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    Dec 30, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    I say it all the time to friends and family and when I had a partner I always said and I had no problem when he did not say it back or when they did not say it back. Even after a heated arguments I said it. I say what I feel always.
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    Dec 30, 2008 7:49 PM GMT
    Mccrae saidDo you still say I love you to your partner at the end of a phone conversation? My sibling, cousin and friends don't because according to them it's cheezy. I think it is romantic. Am I alone on this view?


    there is such thing as overkill... people get desensitized if you tell them you love them over and over.
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    Dec 30, 2008 8:40 PM GMT
    jrunner25 said -
    there is such thing as overkill... people get desensitized if you tell them you love them over and over.



    unless your legs are wrapped around him at the time and he's drving it home!!!
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:01 PM GMT
    Delivis saidI certainly plan to say it if and when that connection should happen with someone.


    Ditto with this guy
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:04 PM GMT
    Once I get to the point of saying "I love you," I'm still selective as to when I say it. However, I do fall into the habit of saying "I love you" when I get off the phone with loved ones (friends, family, and partners).
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:09 PM GMT
    My family used to say it as a goodbye, which used to bother me. Now I make sure I mean "I love you" when I say, "I love you." I almost ended a call with my boss one time with "I love you" - luckily I caught myself in time! My boyfriend always makes kissing noises when we say goodbye and I've almost done that to other people on the phone - I really have to watch myself! I almost did it to my dad the other day.
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:17 PM GMT
    jrunner25 saidthere is such thing as overkill... people get desensitized if you tell them you love them over and over.

    That's true with some things. I believe it's not true with love. Love needs constant reinforcement and validation.

    And guess what? I smile every time I add "my love" to a sentence directed to my partner. It makes ME feel good.

    It reminds me how much he means to me, how much I truly love him, and how no one else on Earth but him hears those words.

    In love, there really is no overkill.
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:18 PM GMT
    I usually end phone calls and say goodbye with "I love you" to my close friends and always with my family.

    I even use it with my ex of six years. Even though there is no desire on either of our parts for reconciliation there was no love loss and "I love you" is as natural and sincere with him as it is with anyone in my family and any of my best friends.

    Love can be cheesy, but I think loving someone means not giving a shit. icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 30, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    i usually say it at the end of phone calls...especially with my bf, we are kinda mushy like that...we say it every day and really mean it.
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    Dec 30, 2008 10:06 PM GMT
    Nawww, not all the time. He knows I love him. I'll say it every now and then when one of us is out of town, but not every time I end the conversation.
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    Jan 01, 2009 6:14 AM GMT
    love a wonderfully sticky affair, lasting anywhere from 3 to 5 glorious minutes..
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    Jan 01, 2009 6:26 AM GMT
    Feeling a little bit sentimental this evening on the new year, I think it can be immensely sweet when said or being said to me, especially during a heartfelt moment (or after a special night with someone).
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    Jan 01, 2009 7:30 AM GMT
    Well, I don't have a partner...and have only had boyfriends up to 6 months, so I'm not sure if I'm just missing something in the concept, but I've always told those that I love, whether it's "in love" or just caring love, that I love them when saying goodbye - this means family AND friends. I don't see what's cheezy about it...it just reminds those that you care about just how much they mean to you.
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    Jan 01, 2009 12:33 PM GMT
    I've seen guys saying I love over the phone to their wife as casually as if they were just saying bye. And guys who actually mean it. The first is forced habit, the second is cheesy... but oh so romantic. icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 01, 2009 12:55 PM GMT
    I'd never say that casually, so it's not a sentence I've said a lot in my lifetime... then I think that's true for most scandinavian men, we're just not mushy like that. we save it for the really special moments icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 01, 2009 1:23 PM GMT
    I never say the *L* word unless I mean it. I sometimes catch myself starting to say it - and then I quickly amend it - so it goes something like this: "I love - what you're doing right now - don't stop!"