Bottoming- seeking advice from tops & other guys

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    Sep 24, 2007 8:50 PM GMT
    Hey, I've really gotten into bottoming in the last few years. It started with a friend of mine giving me a couple dildos. Never had bottomed before but hadn't really had fun as a top. After I tried the dildos I got hooked. Started using them a lot and met another friend that kinda helped train me doin sessions with toys n him.

    Since then I've been hooked lol. Love to bottom and take all kinds of toys, etc. What I wanted to find out is as a top or a bottom with experience, what do you find the best things in a bottom and do you think it is different depending on how strong the guy is as a bottom?

    I found that strong guys seem to top really well and get into it in ways other guys don't seem to. I'm just starting to work out, was never strong. Just average, not skinny, not fat. I'm just learning how to work out and build strength for my health, a better body, and maybe a better bottom.

    Thanks
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    Sep 26, 2007 9:32 PM GMT
    Ya I've def become more a bottom than vers anymore lol. But seems that some guys aren't necessarily into guys who just get into bottoming or topping. I kinda like just being more into bottoming tho. Almost any kind really, dick or toys. lol.
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    Oct 02, 2007 1:48 PM GMT
    fascinating how this thread has received so little interest. is it because not many people have seen it yet or is it because we're all tops at real jock?icon_lol.gif
  • NickoftheNort...

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    Oct 02, 2007 3:28 PM GMT
    A similar thread began on May 16:
    Sex & Adult> Question for you TOPS out there

    I am an inexperienced bottom myself and have not yet learned how to properly use dildos. I suggest that you simply pay attention when you bottom, and that you make yourself aware of what any particular top enjoys (and deduce a more general pattern from those experiences). Keep in mind that persons don't always know how to express what they like verbally, and that you may have to take initiative in finding out what any individual likes.

    As for myself, I exercise my sphincter on occasion with a squeeze-and-release exercise; I intend to get better at squeezing so that I keep myself tight on command (beyond that, the tightening is pleasurable in itself).
  • BlackJock79

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    Oct 02, 2007 5:59 PM GMT
    Well, I've always wanted to bottom more but I have only had a dick in my ass a few times. Only about two times has it felt good. I haven't bottomed in a looooong time, I have great fun as a top. I always thought that bottoms were born to be bottoms because most of the guys I've fucked have taken a dick in them like it was no big deal and I have a hard time putting my finger in my ass it's so tight. Then if I do get my finger in my ass I'll have to go to the bathroom right after I take it out or my stomach will feel queesy. I brought a butt plug and a didlo (both small) to try and practice but I haven't been practicing. I tried to let this hot guy I hooked up with last weekend fuck me because I fucked him but he couldn't even get his finger in my ass. He tried to put his dick in but I was way to tight. I dunno... maybe I should just stick to being a top. Bottoms look like they have so much FUN though. LOL
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    Oct 02, 2007 7:55 PM GMT
    there is nothing beter than being a bottom. the feeling when you cum while somebody is inside you is the most earth shattering orgasm in the world.
  • BlackJock79

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    Oct 02, 2007 7:59 PM GMT
    Now I'm really gonna have to try it more often. LOL
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    Oct 03, 2007 10:17 AM GMT
    I personally like to bottom.
    I mean, I think i'm the only bottom type of guy (lol)
    but it's difficult to answer your question, because it really depends on who's fucking you (that was gross lol)...
    sure you have to make some practice with dildos, it's more or less necessary because even even if ideally anus can be opened a lot, we are not always relaxed and comfortable by the idea of being penetrated by that huge cocumber lol
    In my long (but now sadly stopped) bottom career I just noticed that tops tend to like "strong" bottoms, meaning they preferr the idea of someone who can take it all up his ass. the bigger the better, of course.
    I can really say that is not the best sex I had, when happened, because for me the best is in pulling in and out, instead that pumping like a train but staying inside. But I guess is a matter of tastes.

    The fact is you have to be excited, relaxed, and you have to try to understand (or ask) what the other guy wants.
    That's the best advice I could give. >,>
  • Timbales

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    Oct 05, 2007 1:30 AM GMT
    I like both and tend to throw myself into whichever position I'm in.

    For me when I'm on top, I have to know he's comfortable and enjoying it. I like to know I'm doing what feels good for him. I can kind of get lost in that sometimes, same when bottoming.

    If I think I'm hurting him (in a bad way ;)) it's a major turn-off.
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    Oct 12, 2007 10:33 AM GMT
    i think a lot of tops are 'turned on' if they they think they are hurting their bottom.
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    Oct 21, 2007 11:49 AM GMT
    can you tops tell a bottom who has used toys a lot? or taken big cocks more than smaller ones? i've found that my ass has gotten used to taking larger thicker dildos and cocks. i feel more taking bigger thicker than smaller and get off more. using bigger dildos has really helped in making it easier in taking hung guys and i find that i get off better with hung guys now than before or using bigger dildos than before.

    a friend of mine that got me into bigger dildos said that if i can take them i can handle any size guy. i definitely found that true/
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    Oct 23, 2007 6:17 PM GMT
    the guy I'm with now loves to be the top, and I have tried to get used to being a bottom. Although it hurts like a mutha. Any advice?icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 23, 2007 6:34 PM GMT
    Using lots of lube and a buttplug, stretch the sphincter to allow more comfortable bottoming. Also, work out the muscle with contractions to increase its strength so that you can really clamp down on your top.
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    Oct 25, 2007 12:24 AM GMT
    Well, from my experience...

    If your top has an upward, curvy penis, doggystyle makes for easier entry. If you get a chance to see the cross section of the male anus cavity in a medical book, you'll see that the chamber moves upward toward the spine.

    Also, the sphincter has many pressure points that connect to different parts of the body. That is why when you are being penetrated, your nerves will send numbing sensations throughout your inner thigh, and to separate parts of the foot.

    It is good to now that you've trained your butt to accept large tops, but keep in mind that some guys still love a little challenge. To be a bottom is to accept pain AS pleasure. Then when the motions become evident and buttons are pushed at the right time, the pleasure aspect becomes Oh SO LOVELY!

    You can easily squat on a dildo, and adjust your own pace. Depending on the position you give your top, he will ultimately take control and proceed with his pleasure. Being submissive can be fun both mentally and physically, as long as the first pain goes away within 30-40 seconds. If you feel burning after 30 minutes, take a break--- then continue with more lube.

    I recently had a cowboy do me three times in one night. He was VERY long and VERY curvy and he reached places I NEVER felt before. I was such a loud fuck. But you can't hold it back, if yearns to be let out!
  • zakariahzol

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    Oct 25, 2007 4:12 PM GMT
    Two nite ago I do anal sex (top) for the first time in
    15 years. I was in a sauna and this kid follow me in one of the dark room. He was giving me a blow job and suddenly roll a condom on my dick and sitting on it. I tought of resisting but then decided why not. It safe sex and I am horny and this kids is asking for it. I just got a sexual satisfaction just looking at his face like he really enjoying the ride. He cum right there on my belly while my dick is in his ass.

    For bottoming I have not re-doing it yet. Probablty I will with a person I love and not some one nite stand I pick up in gay sauna. He got to be worth it, for me to let him to fuck me.
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    Oct 27, 2007 5:56 PM GMT
    Another problem is that he's never had to be the bottom (except once when I pinned him down, man was he pissed!) and he doesnt really get that you cant just throw me on my back and shove it in. Sometimes he tries it without any lube! Once he gets in he starts pounding away, and not gently. It's kind of a turn on to be dominated (cause I never let anyone dominate me)but It hurts too. How do I get him to understand to be a lil more gentle.icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 30, 2007 8:25 PM GMT
    You really to need to be vocal about that kind of situation.

    I knew a guy that was gay, but felt that his lover should be VERY fem and VERY submissive. His demeanor was the exactly the same:

    He expected sex his way, as an aggressive Top and his bottom should never complain or refuse sex.

    Amazingly, this is a real catch for bottom guys. But turn ons are often a mental state of mind. A physical turn-on may not have the same outcome than when we imagined it on our heads.

    Strongbolt, if being dominated feels good to the mind and not the body, then I suggest you talk to your beau and let him know that you need more time to prep when you have sex. It only takes mere seconds to apply lube.

    If you want to continue the rough sex, then perhaps you can prepare yourself by having pump style lube readily available next to the bed or other places you do the act. If he sees this, his primitive mind will eventually get the clue.

    This will make it easier, but finding someone else who listens to your feelings would solve that problem like that! *snap*!
  • Timbales

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    Oct 30, 2007 10:40 PM GMT
    Strongbolt, I saw in the other thread that he's divorced and has kids. Maybe he's still dealing with some masculinity issues?

    Be vocal and tell him what you like and don't like, but do it soon ans before anything sexual starts to happen. You don't want to kill the mood, but you need to look after yourself.

    Guys who are having trouble bottoming need a good, patient guy to help them. I was dating a guy who wanted me to be his first, so over the course of a week or so I got him used to it a bit, playing with his ass, fingering, and blowing him while fingering him. After a couple of orgasms like that under his belt, he took it fine and loved it.
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    Oct 31, 2007 9:33 PM GMT
    I have been a top for 25 years but only after starting into gay life for a few weeks my drunken roommate fucked me and made my ass bleed. It hurt like I would imagine having a baby would hurt. Plus, I have been fucked two other times in those years by one night stands after I had fucked them and came and both times were unpleasant feeling and somewhat painful. I can’t imagine why anyone likes to be a bottom but I am very happy that they do as I do love to fuck especially if the guy has a nice rear and can take all of me. I have two areas on my cock that are very sensitive. One is at the underside of the glans and the other is at the top of ball sac where it meets the cock. It is because of the latter sensitive area that I like to have a guy take all of me. I like the feeling of my ball sac slapping the end of the spine or the other guy’s balls depending on the position. It is because of the first sensitive area that when I start fucking I like to go in and out through the sphincter, then, slowly go deeply. I find that bottoms seem to like this a lot and I am in total ecstasy. I don’t like fucking like a rabbit

    The following quote from dakuk is certainly accurate at least for me: “I think a lot of tops are 'turned on' if they think they are hurting their bottom.” I do not consider myself a sadist but an expression of pain from the bottom does seem to make me harder. However, I am not in to doing any permanent damage or hurting the guy past an indefinable line, which I seem to have a good sense for. I want the bottom to enjoy it and if he is it makes me even harder. I also like the bottom to be an active partner. It is a turn-off to have a guy just lie there like a dead piece of meat especially if were doing it doggie style, therefore, I can’t see his eyes. By active I mean for the bottom to do part of the fucking. The best fuck I have ever had was from a guy who moved his hips in such a way that he was fucking my dick with his ass.

    If you like really big guys then by all means use your toys to adjust yourself but realize that if you go one night with a guy who is less than a foot you might be a loose fuck and that can be a turn-off for the top. There are not that many things in sex that are a bigger disappointment than a sloppy fuck. Also, if your going to use toys, than be sure to keep them clean so you don’t inject yourself with a bacteria that is unfriendly towards your normal flora. Speaking of being clean it is always better for me if I don’t get poop in my pupes. My husband almost always uses a duche when he thinks I am going to be interested. However, forget it if it messes with the spontaneity.


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    Apr 21, 2008 12:56 PM GMT
    dakuk saidfascinating how this thread has received so little interest. is it because not many people have seen it yet or is it because we're all tops at real jock?icon_lol.gif

    Completely false 'cos I just read this today, 21st of April 2008!

    alexander7 said The following quote from dakuk is certainly accurate at least for me: “I think a lot of tops are 'turned on' if they think they are hurting their bottom.” I do not consider myself a sadist but an expression of pain from the bottom does seem to make me harder. However, I am not in to doing any permanent damage or hurting the guy past an indefinable line, which I seem to have a good sense for. I want the bottom to enjoy it and if he is it makes me even harder. I also like the bottom to be an active partner. It is a turn-off to have a guy just lie there like a dead piece of meat especially if were doing it doggie style, therefore, I can’t see his eyes. By active I mean for the bottom to do part of the fucking. The best fuck I have ever had was from a guy who moved his hips in such a way that he was fucking my dick with his ass.


    I am that active a bottom. I rape with my assicon_wink.gif
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    Apr 21, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
    dakuk saidfascinating how this thread has received so little interest. is it because not many people have seen it yet or is it because we're all tops at real jock?icon_lol.gif


    hopefully there are
    good on my end (no pun intended)
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    Apr 26, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    I can't believe that I'm posting on this string as my first. I guess I'm just in the mood for it right now icon_twisted.gif While I'm versitile. I usually end up the top. I don't know, maybe it is how I carry myself. However, if I am with somebody who I love, I would be willing to be whatever I needed to be in bed to satisify my him. If that means that he likes to top and only top, I will do it gladly.
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    Apr 29, 2008 10:11 AM GMT
    wow it's been so long since i started this thread. so funny to still see it going
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    Apr 29, 2008 11:08 AM GMT
    tornsprocket saidwow it's been so long since i started this thread. so funny to still see it going

    Glad to see you're still aroundicon_wink.gif
  • rique692002

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    Oct 18, 2013 3:23 PM GMT
    cut his ass off a while, unless you enjoy being hurt put a stop to iticon_exclaim.gif