What Does It Mean to Be Happy?

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    Apr 15, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    NYT: One of the most remarkable findings in this area of psychology, for instance, is just how many poor people say they are satisfied with their lives — very often a majority of them, even in harsh environments like the slums of Calcutta.

    I would suggest that when we talk about happiness, we are actually referring, much of the time, to a complex emotional phenomenon. Call it emotional well-being. Happiness as emotional well-being concerns your emotions and moods, more broadly your emotional condition as a whole. To be happy is to inhabit a favorable emotional state.

    On this view, we can think of happiness, loosely, as the opposite of anxiety and depression. Being in good spirits, quick to laugh and slow to anger, at peace and untroubled, confident and comfortable in your own skin, engaged, energetic and full of life.

    What does it mean for you to be happy?

    http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/04/13/happiness-and-its-discontents/?_php=true&_type=blogs&hp&rref=opinion&_r=0
  • Timbales

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    Apr 15, 2014 12:40 AM GMT
    I think it has something to do with clapping and feeling like a room without a roof.
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    Apr 15, 2014 12:53 AM GMT
    Not sure but definitely don't ask this guy...


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    Apr 15, 2014 1:02 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI think it has something to do with clapping and feeling like a room without a roof.




    Hahaha best response ever!
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    Apr 15, 2014 1:03 AM GMT
    Living to ones full potential.
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    Apr 15, 2014 1:10 AM GMT
    Timbales saidI think it has something to do with clapping and feeling like a room without a roof.
    Giggles, but I don't get it!
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    Apr 15, 2014 1:40 AM GMT
    Happiness is just an emotion so it's fleeting and not a state of mind so nobody is permanently happy. The closest thing to that is probably being for the most part content with life.
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:09 AM GMT
    woodsmen said
    Timbales saidI think it has something to do with clapping and feeling like a room without a roof.
    Giggles, but I don't get it!


    It's only been on the radio every hour lol -- it's a song! Usually I don't listen to the radio that long (Beyoncé playlist is usually on), but the beat caught my attention right away and I love that song.

    No worries Woodsmen icon_smile.gif I'm so out of the loop on "pop culture and what's new". This past weekend my friend showed me this new show called Orange Is the New Black. We watched 6 or 7 episodes. I want to say we watched the one after the chicken, but we became distracted.
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:15 AM GMT
    Here's the music video link: http://youtu.be/y6Sxv-sUYtM
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:28 AM GMT
    The first reply was hilarious!!!

    Seriously though...happiness is difficult to define and as human beings we tend to never be satisfied. There is always something that we find wrong with our lives.

    Overall, happiness SHOULD be a roof over your head, food to eat, and knowing that someone loves you. Unfortunately that's almost never the case!
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:29 AM GMT
    AnOriginal saidHere's the music video link: http://youtu.be/y6Sxv-sUYtM



    you came back icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:34 AM GMT
    beating the shit out of somebody makes me feel happy
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:39 AM GMT
    AnOriginal saidHere's the music video link: http://youtu.be/y6Sxv-sUYtM
    Thank you B.
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    Apr 15, 2014 6:23 AM GMT
    woodsmen said
    AnOriginal saidHere's the music video link: http://youtu.be/y6Sxv-sUYtM
    Thank you B.


    icon_biggrin.gif I recently found another gay Asian raised as an Italian and that made me HAPPY! He's married and lives in Hawaii now.
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    Apr 15, 2014 6:32 AM GMT
    Sustenance saidHappiness is looking back on your life knowing you made so many longterm friends that love and care about you. No it wasn't the 80K I use to make annually. No it wasn't the desolate streets I walked in L.A. homeless for three years. It was that no matter what situation I was in, the love of my friends guided me through it in my subconscious mind. Sure, I could and did stay with them at times but left because I didn't want to use them. It wasn't about what others could do to help me survive but about the confidence they gave me that I COULD survive.

    I am very psychologically impaired. I am "troubled" beyond repair. But looking back on my life, I am happy. I am happy that the love of this world has gotten me to a safe place where I can die now in peace.


    I actually read a letter and it reminded me of you. It's an interesting read I hope you read it.

    http://m.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/it-happened-to-me-my-twin-sister-begged-me-to-let-her-kill-herself-and-i-said-yes

    I agree 100%, it's the people we love that make life so meaningful. It's also the way we love ourselves and spread joy to others. I really think you should look into other treatments -- not for your physical health (although I would've done dialysis), but your mental health. I'm not saying that in a mean way, in ways I'm sure you've been dealt a really crappy hand at times. That can take a toll on any human, and I just feel like you deserve the feeling of wanting to live.
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    Apr 15, 2014 7:48 AM GMT
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    Sustenance saidHappiness is looking back on your life knowing you made so many longterm friends that love and care about you. No it wasn't the 80K I use to make annually. No it wasn't the desolate streets I walked in L.A. homeless for three years. It was that no matter what situation I was in, the love of my friends guided me through it in my subconscious mind. Sure, I could and did stay with them at times but left because I didn't want to use them. It wasn't about what others could do to help me survive but about the confidence they gave me that I COULD survive.

    I am very psychologically impaired. I am "troubled" beyond repair. But looking back on my life, I am happy. I am happy that the love of this world has gotten me to a safe place where I can die now in peace.


    I actually read a letter and it reminded me of you. It's an interesting read I hope you read it.

    http://m.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/it-happened-to-me-my-twin-sister-begged-me-to-let-her-kill-herself-and-i-said-yes

    I agree 100%, it's the people we love that make life so meaningful. It's also the way we love ourselves and spread joy to others. I really think you should look into other treatments -- not for your physical health (although I would've done dialysis), but your mental health. I'm not saying that in a mean way, in ways I'm sure you've been dealt a really crappy hand at times. That can take a toll on any human, and I just feel like you deserve the feeling of wanting to live.


    My God that story made me cry. I'm not going to have a miracle like that happen though. I don't believe in miracles much happening in my life anymore other than the time left to spend with my friends and my Mother. My Mother is definately NOT going to give me a kidney because she is too afraid of surgery. She would rather die than go through that and I don't blame her for being so frail. Well, the truth is we have never talked about it but I would NEVER ask her for such a thing. Still, it is a beautiful story. I don't expect much though. Kidney dialysis is also not a direction I can consider. I lived on chemotherapy in a hospital for 4 months and all I know is being hooked up to needles all the time is hell.


    Besides your physical issues, have you resolved any anguish that lingers in your mind? Are you able to forgive everything in the past and leave this world in a peaceful state? I know we've talked before and I honestly don't know what to say... When was the last time you were truly happy? It's just sad. I hope your judgements aren't being clouded by sadness or depression and stealing your desire to live. You're worthy of love and I hope you don't feel less of a human for what you're going through. I won't get into sprituality on here, because that seems to be a touchy subject. I just hope you realize you're more than your disease.
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    Apr 17, 2014 9:06 PM GMT