How did you now you were gay

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    Apr 15, 2014 5:07 AM GMT
    Im new to all this and was wondering how did you now you were gay
    Me I was in karate and had A huge crush on my sensei and dreamed about his if you now what I mean ;) hahaha
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Apr 15, 2014 8:06 AM GMT
    WhiteWolf18 saidIm new to all this and was wondering how did you now you were gay
    Me I was in karate and had A huge crush on my sensei and dreamed about his if you now what I mean ;) hahaha


    *know*
  • tj85016

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    Apr 15, 2014 8:43 AM GMT
    when I fell in love with Will Robinson on Lost in Space lol (yeah I'm old)
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    Apr 15, 2014 10:05 AM GMT
    tj85016 saidwhen I fell in love with Will Robinson on Lost in Space lol (yeah I'm old)


    My love experience was with John Schneider when he was in the Dukes of Hazard. I was all about Bo Duke! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 15, 2014 11:15 AM GMT
    when I started to develop sexual attraction to attractive muscular guys in my early teens then started having wet dreams about them.
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    Apr 15, 2014 11:28 AM GMT
    Sexyislandguy saidwhen I started to develop sexual attraction to attractive muscular guys in my early teens then started having wet dreams about them.


    +1

    I still see the main object of my teenage lust every few months, he's changed a lot - much nicer guy now but about 150lbs heavier (not muscle).
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    Apr 15, 2014 11:57 AM GMT
    When I had a huge crush on Tommy from the Power Rangers.
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    Apr 15, 2014 1:52 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidwhen I fell in love with Will Robinson on Lost in Space lol (yeah I'm old)


    He was always such a kid to me. Nonsexual. I was into his dad and Judy's boyfriend.

    Gigantor accounts for my muscles fetish but my real love has always been and still is Racer X.

    I knew I liked guys from my pre-k days when I had a crush on a neighbor boy but I don't recall consciously differentiating my being attracted to the same sex while others were attracted to the opposite sex probably until I noticed people putting gay people down. So whenever that was, probably grade school, that's when I knew I wasn't in the same camp as the offenders.
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    Apr 15, 2014 2:24 PM GMT
    i determined i was a gay man at age 40

    Might not go over well at realjock but it was just that way. Very smart geek so I could ignore people and still get by. I could fix things (software hardware) by just being in the same room, real easy no effort.

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    Apr 15, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    theantijock said
    tj85016 saidwhen I fell in love with Will Robinson on Lost in Space lol (yeah I'm old)


    He was always such a kid to me. Nonsexual. I was into his dad and Judy's boyfriend.

    Gigantor accounts for my muscles fetish but my real love has always been and still is Racer X.

    I knew I liked guys from my pre-k days when I had a crush on a neighbor boy but I don't recall consciously differentiating my being attracted to the same sex while others were attracted to the opposite sex probably until I noticed people putting gay people down. So whenever that was, probably grade school, that's when I knew I wasn't in the same camp as the offenders.


    lol well I was 8 or 9 years old, so he was "older"
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:31 PM GMT
    After My third anniversary with My second husband...I got suspicious...
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:32 PM GMT
    I just always knew, I believe those guys who start liking boys when they are already like in high school and before that did not like boys, are not actually gay, just confused

    you are born gay
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:50 PM GMT
    I've always knew. I didn't really think much about it though.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 15, 2014 6:04 PM GMT
    I was a bit naive in high school. I know my crushes were all on guys but I didn't know what gay or queer meant. I just knew that the world and society looked at queers as something to make crude jokes about and beat up people for and was something that was a sin.
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    Apr 15, 2014 6:13 PM GMT
    WhiteWolf18 saidIm new to all this and was wondering how did you now you were gay
    Me I was in karate and had A huge crush on my sensei and dreamed about his if you now what I mean ;) hahaha


    I do taekwondo myself and while I have no attraction to our instructor or his assistants, I do have a lot of respect for him for everything he's taught me and our class. Great guy.

    In my case, I knew I must be gay when I was 12 and I used get hard when arm wrestling or wrestling against other boys. I also started having wet dreams about a couple of my friends that I wrestled against.
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    Apr 15, 2014 7:07 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidlol well I was 8 or 9 years old, so he was "older"


    Oh, I see I have 3 or 4 years on you which back then was half a lifetime. I never fantasized the Little Rascals either but Slip Mahoney and Colonel Hogan probably lead me later in life to the bad boys.

    bonapart01 saidI just always knew, I believe those guys who start liking boys when they are already like in high school and before that did not like boys, are not actually gay, just confused


    I'm forever working on understanding consciousness, how some are awakened in their nightly dreams, while others sleep walk through daily life. How we can be mindful in meditation yet know not how we drove five miles on autopilot from place to place only to find ourselves suddenly there.

    With regard to awareness of sexual attraction, there seems a significant minority of those of us who recall being gay from our earliest memories, even if we didn't have a name for it at the time. But there's such a greater number of people who say they didn't know until later in life yet become comfortable with their sexuality such that it doesn't seem to matter when sexuality comes into consciousness as to determine who might be the real gay. That's just silly.

    I've a dear friend now in his 50s first coming to terms with his sexual orientation as polysexual. Try finding acceptance in the str8 world or gay world or bi world when you are turned on by drag and trans. And how would he even have experimented with that as a child to know himself then. Did anyone ever fantasize Uncle Miltie?

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    That he's only now coming to terms in his 50s with his true sexuality doesn't make him confused. Being turned on by trans certainly doesn't make him str8.
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    Apr 15, 2014 8:35 PM GMT
    theantijock saidDid anyone ever fantasize Uncle Miltie?

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    OMG, Uncle Miltie and Aunt Cleo… damnn that was so far down the memory hole I'd completely forgotten (or repressed it, LOL).

    In answer to the OP… The word "gay" hadn't been invented (or widely known, anyway) when I was a boy. In fact, it didn't become "the word" to use until I was a young adult. Prior to that, one was just a faggot, cock sucker, fudge packer, or homo. But I knew *very* early on… like before age 6. Didn't really think much about it until I was a teenager, though, and was *expected* to show interest in and date girls. That's when it began to become a "problem" for me.

    I didn't know there WERE other gay people… I figured that out around age 16 while reading a magazine article about the "homosexual problem" in LA and it blew my mind. My god, there are other guys out there getting arrested for having sex in parks and public toilets!?! icon_eek.gif

    Still took years for me to come to terms with it. I was fortunate to meet my first out gay man (30) when I was a freshman in college. He was a great guy, funny, intelligent, knew 'the scene' and didn't press himself on me (sexually) at all. Just sort of took me under his wing and showed me some of the ropes. Forever grateful for that.
  • 1AlanZSky

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    Apr 15, 2014 8:40 PM GMT
    I had a huge crush on this man. I so wanted to meet him, know all about him.

    Before all this though, I was always in the company of girls and although it seemed natural to be with a girl I had a stronger pull towards men. Newspapers and magazines with muscular men and human anatomy I was always interested in dicks.

    I thought I longed for a male companion, but no.
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    Apr 15, 2014 8:42 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidwhen I fell in love with Will Robinson on Lost in Space lol (yeah I'm old)

    I knew I was a nerd when I fell in love with the robot.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 15, 2014 8:49 PM GMT
    I think a better question is: "How could you NOT know you were gay?" icon_biggrin.gif
  • MikeW

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    Apr 15, 2014 8:54 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    tj85016 saidwhen I fell in love with Will Robinson on Lost in Space lol (yeah I'm old)
    I knew I was a nerd when I fell in love with the robot.
    I was quite fascinated when Robot B-9 (from Lost In Space) hooked up with Robbie (from Forbidden Planet)

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    Apr 15, 2014 8:57 PM GMT
    owl_bundy said... i rejected that side of me and went into denial for 12 years, trying to "fix myself". at 24, i realized that i failed at that. all that dumb shit simply because i thought that being gay was a bad thing.
    Yep, that's what just about all of us are taught directly and indirectly, which is why it messes with us and, I think, in some ways, leaves permanent scars.
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    Apr 15, 2014 9:58 PM GMT
    I was in my final year in high school as a senior and had about two women wanting to go with me to my prom.

    The first was my high school sweetheart and longtime friend Cassandra but i found out at the last minute that she had to work from my brother whom she called crying about it. The second was my own mother who insistingly expressed interest but i kindly told her no so then i asked then straight friend Joseph would he go with me which he agreed to.

    He was a total gentleman and absolutely handsome. We drove to our prom in his truck and the first thing we did was sit down and talk and joke around with friends, take photos, etc.

    He then asked me would i dance with him and i was very nervous at first but he said ain't nobody watching you but me bro it's gonna be alright so i then got up with him to the dance floor with the DJ turning on Usher/Monica's Slow Jam as our song and we begin dancing for a little bit. Then in the middle of it he leaned in and kissed me which was very unexpected because i thought he was straight so i told him that we needed to talk after the prom.

    We went to a hotel and i asked him why he kissed me at the prom and that is when he told me he was actually bisexual and was always attracted to me he then asked me did i like him kissing me and i told him why you wanna do it again?

    He then said Oh i wanna do more than just that and before i knew it the clothes were off and we were making love for almost an hour to some quiet storm jams

    I really miss him alot and thought we had something going on for a minute there but we both moved on with our lives but i still credit that moment on how i knew i was into dudes.

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    Apr 15, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    I realised when I wanted to play with a penis... that wasn't my own. That got me excited and I preceded to play with my penis while thinking of someone else's penis.

    As it turned out I later got to play with that penis. It was a lot more fun then my imagination.
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    Apr 15, 2014 10:04 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidI think a better question is: "How could you NOT know you were gay?" icon_biggrin.gif

    It was easy when you grew up in a culture that only referred to it in a purely negative and condemning way. I thought my attraction to men was some "quirk" that would go away when I got married; luckily I never went that far but lots of guys did. I'd been having sex with guys for 2 years before the light bulb finally lit up over my head at age 21 when I saw some gay porn.