Becoming More Gay

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    Apr 15, 2014 10:34 AM GMT

  • austex85

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    Apr 15, 2014 2:22 PM GMT
    Have buttsecks.

    Otherwise, it means living openly, dating men openly, having other gay friends, not self-hating/disparaging, etc...
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    Apr 15, 2014 2:25 PM GMT
    Being gay doesn't always have to revolve around the fact that you are gay. Sex isn't the only thing to do in life. You can be and do so many things.
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    Apr 15, 2014 2:32 PM GMT
    Xavier92 said...You can be and do so many things.


    But when you're gay you do all those things with a flair! That's something straight men can't seem to manage.
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    Apr 15, 2014 2:32 PM GMT
    my husband has said I am one pixie from being straight. Dont know if this is bad, holding on to the Pixie tho.

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    Apr 15, 2014 2:39 PM GMT
    jock4u20 saidSo, a friend of mine who recently came to the conclusion he is gay now wants to learn how to get more in the lifestyle. I know this is a loaded question...and there can be lots of stereotypes associated with it. But, I am wondering: what does being gay mean to you?

    Here's a few starters I suggested...
    Buying fashion underwear (i.e. Andrew Christian)So overpriced, silly, and pretentious.
    Listen to ShowTunes So uber gay. Should not be attempted by beginners
    Join various online gay dating sites. Yes, because sex with strangers and risking a plethora of diseases is what being gay is all about.


    My advice to your friend is to just be himself. the gay community is a varied as any other and probably even more so.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:20 PM GMT

    "So, a friend of mine who recently came to the conclusion he is gay now wants to learn how to get more in the lifestyle."

    I think you could start by telling him being gay is not a lifestyle.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:33 PM GMT
    Being gay just means he's into other guys. Otherwise nothing else needs to change.

    All he has to do is be himself, be surrounded by good friends such as yourself, join LGBT groups, or the like, and enjoy.

    The stereotypical interest in show-tunes, pricey underwear, etc will come on its own as he learns what the gay world has to offer, and he'll then see what picks his interest. No need to force it onto himself.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:35 PM GMT
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
    I don't understand this whole "concept" like how to become more Gay, and Why should I? when I'm already tune to love men deep down inside.

    Lifestyle isn't anything about, but even worst and sad if it is being seen as "a must" of defining it.

    It is nothing more then my own prerogatives of living as a human being.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:42 PM GMT
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:43 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    "So, a friend of mine who recently came to the conclusion he is gay now wants to learn how to get more in the lifestyle."

    I think you could start by telling him being gay is not a lifestyle.


    This.

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    Apr 15, 2014 3:47 PM GMT
    Hey I am gay and I like most of the gay shit.Thrift shops,garage sales,pride parades,pop music,Ru Pauls's drag race,walking around the gayborhood.It is all about making yourself happy!Ry
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    obviously your pal has now the moral obligation of becoming a hairdresser.

    obviously.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:52 PM GMT
    WickedRyan saidHey I am gay and I like most of the gay shit.Thrift shops,garage sales,pride parades,pop music,Ru Pauls's drag race,walking around the gayborhood.It is all about making yourself happy!Ry


    Hmmm....tons of straight people like all those things....

    ...and they're not gay. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:52 PM GMT
    WickedRyan saidHey I am gay and I like most of the gay shit.Thrift shops,garage sales,pride parades,pop music,Ru Pauls's drag race,walking around the gayborhood.It is all about making yourself happy!Ry


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    Apr 15, 2014 3:53 PM GMT
    Tell him to live his life as he always had...

    Just suck more dick.
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    Apr 15, 2014 3:55 PM GMT
    Why are people obsessed with ascribing to societal stereotypes? Why not just be you?
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    Apr 15, 2014 4:01 PM GMT
    jock4u20 saidSo, a friend of mine who recently came to the conclusion he is gay now wants to learn how to get more in the lifestyle. I know this is a loaded question...and there can be lots of stereotypes associated with it. But, I am wondering: what does being gay mean to you?

    Here's a few starters I suggested...
    Buying fashion underwear (i.e. Andrew Christian)
    Listen to ShowTunes
    Join various online gay dating sites


    Wants to learn how to get more WHAT in the lifestyle? Get more sex? First question, is he hot?? If not, joining gay dating sights and buying designer underwear won't do much. He needs to hit the gym, buff up, and THEN take thousands of hot selfless in the designer undies in various poses.

    As for listening to show tunes, WHAAAA??? Does he *like* show tunes? If so, great. But if not that is a hack-kneed stereotype. We are GAY we can listen to any kind of music that ROCKS our souls, k? If we're REALLY GAY, we'll write some of the greatest music and songs ever written!!
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    Apr 15, 2014 4:16 PM GMT
    It sounds to me like your friend isn't really interested in being 'more in the lifestyle' as he is being more open about who he is. Being more open doesn't mean he has to change who he is or what he does, he just has to be more open about what he use to be afraid of doing for fear someone would tag him as being gay. Usually this was a result of a self inflicted guilt and generally not a reality as most people wouldn't suspect anything unless he was really going from one end of the spectrum to the other (stereotypical).

    Like others have suggested, it's not about becoming more gay or doing more gay things, it's about being yourself and embracing the fact that you're gay but not wearing it on your sleeve. Being comfortable with who you are means putting those fear behind you and embracing the things you love and the people you love, regardless of how gay it may seem.
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    Apr 15, 2014 4:25 PM GMT
    Is it just me, or does the original post sound like a joke to you?

    There is no gay lifestyle. The media-promoted stereotypes are not the gay lifestyle. We can learn this fact, right?
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    Apr 15, 2014 4:33 PM GMT
    jock4u20 saidSo, a friend of mine who recently came to the conclusion he is gay now wants to learn how to get more in the lifestyle. I know this is a loaded question...and there can be lots of stereotypes associated with it. But, I am wondering: what does being gay mean to you?

    Here's a few starters I suggested...
    Buying fashion underwear (i.e. Andrew Christian)
    Listen to ShowTunes
    Join various online gay dating sites
    In other words, fit the stereotype?
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:45 PM GMT
    I don't know about the rest of it, but it seems to me that the whole show-tunes thing is essential.

    "I feel pretty
    Oh so pretty
    I feel pretty and witty and bright
    And I pity
    Any girl who isn't me tonight....."
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    jock4u20 saidSo, a friend of mine who recently came to the conclusion he is gay now wants to learn how to get more in the lifestyle. I know this is a loaded question...and there can be lots of stereotypes associated with it. But, I am wondering: what does being gay mean to you?

    Here's a few starters I suggested...
    Buying fashion underwear (i.e. Andrew Christian)
    Listen to ShowTunes
    Join various online gay dating sites


    Tell him to forget about trying to be gay, it isn't an acquired skill.

    Being gay doesn't discriminate based on whether you like show tunes or wear fashionable underpants. It's about liking guys and the community around it is held together by common concerns about that. Things like marriage, HIV, legal rights. The community isn't held together by Lady Gaga and glitter.

    There isn't a 'right' way to be gay. Tell him to just be himself. If he likes show tunes then more power to him. If he likes hangin' with his bro's and shooting guns then right on.

    He's the same person he was before accepting the fact that he is gay, he just knows himself a bit better.
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    Apr 15, 2014 5:51 PM GMT
    These troll threads are getting worse and worse. At least put some effort in it.

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