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What makes a bottom a good bottom?

  • Sparkycat Posts: 1064
    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    I'm seeking advice. What makes a bottom a good bottom. I assume there's more to it than just passively getting pounded. So, how can a bottom make sex an event to remember?
  • torontoguy222... Posts: 408
    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 6:38 PM GMT
    I have more experience as a bottom, not as a top, but I think it's safe to assume (no pun intended) that a nice, firm, tight ass that's willing to take a dick long, hard and deep are some of the most desirable assets (again no pun intended) a bottom could offer.

    Oh, but beyond this, I think passion's important. If I was topping a guy who just laid there motionless and non-reactive, it wouldn't really be a turn on. A guy who's moaning and squealing passionately as the top slides in and out of his body would be an instant turn-on!

    I think i needa get laid =S

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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 6:39 PM GMT
    Anyone can just lounge about and get pounded. I like an aggressive bottom who tries to chew your dick off. But, not everyone has the same tastes I do. Figuring out what turns your top's crank is key. Maybe they like a little power play, maybe they want their bottom to top from the bottom, maybe they want a vocal guy. There are guys who like it as tight as a virgin. There are guys who like it so loose they can fit a fist or two up there. There are guys who like bottoms who aim to please. There are guys who like them reluctant.

    Talk to your top. Figure them out. Report back with pictures.
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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidAnyone can just lounge about and get pounded. I like an aggressive bottom who tries to chew your dick off.

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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 8:52 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidAnyone can just lounge about and get pounded. I like an aggressive bottom who tries to chew your dick off. But, not everyone has the same tastes I do. Figuring out what turns your top's crank is key. Maybe they like a little power play, maybe they want their bottom to top from the bottom, maybe they want a vocal guy. There are guys who like it as tight as a virgin. There are guys who like it so loose they can fit a fist or two up there. There are guys who like bottoms who aim to please. There are guys who like them reluctant.

    Talk to your top. Figure them out. Report back with pictures.


    Damn, babe... free New Years? Let's talk.
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  • rnch Posts: 10889
    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 9:02 PM GMT
    anal retenitive cleanliness?
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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    being able to cum without touching your dick helps...it always makes me feel good when he can't control it...
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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 10:07 PM GMT
    don't most tops like a loud verbal bottom?
    that's wut i've always been told...
  • Timbales Posts: 13814
    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    I personally don't like someone too verbal. I like to know he's enjoying it, but too much talk turns me off.
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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 10:12 PM GMT
    some affirmation is gratifying, otherwise I just think the poor guy is in pain. I don´t enjoying bottoming and so find it hard to believe that others do. I find too much a bit cheesy, and if he starts on the "yeah f*ck me stud, I want that cock etc" I start to lose interest unless I find them really hot and there´s already chemistry.

    Bodywise.. a nice back, nice ass. But it´s not a prescription... more important is the vibe between the two guys.
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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 10:47 PM GMT
    tommieboiisf saiddon't most tops like a loud verbal bottom?
    that's wut i've always been told...

    Its all about the moans, the breathing, how your body reacts, tensing of muscles in anticipation of whats about to take place..

    You moan loud enough for him to hear, but you also moan softly, just enough that he knows you just moaned but not loud enough for him to have heard it fully, then some more of each, what ever takes your fancy really,.

    Then you got the breathing, now that can be really good, a little heavy breathing, a little panting when you get really excited, even a little under the breath moaning..

    Then your body, if your on your back and you get beg your legs around his chest/waist you can have a lot of fun with him, you can really get your entire body into it, pulling him in harder, forcing him to stay where he is, get your back arching a little maybe run your hand through his hair, keep one if his chest or abs, pull him down to kiss, come up to him, while your up there, maybe a little quiet words ya know, let him know verbally how good he feels, maybe a little harder, or some quiet begging ya know, what ever will do it for him

    on your knees, well, flex your back, push back at him, groan a little when he pushes in, arch your back still, moan some more, make it a touch louder maybe.. if he pulls you up to kneel, if hes tall enough lay your head onto his shoulder, keep a light moan, his ear is right there, you do'nt need to be screaming for him, take one of his hands, move it to places on the front of your body that you like, wrap the other around to the back of his head..

    Hes a top, hes putting in a lot of effort, you gotta put in just as much if not more, let him know where and when hes hitting the right spots, a good top wants to make it just as good for you as it is for him, I've never met a guy who didn't like a bottom that let him know when the right stuff was happening, being a forceful bottom can be hot as can being submissive.. but always know, sex is between two people, it takes two people, you both have to put work into it.
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    QUOTE Dec 30, 2008 11:13 PM GMT
    damn sounds like you know your stuff
    maybe you should teach me sometime


    haha
  • Nayro Posts: 1769
    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 12:12 AM GMT
    tommysguns2000 saidbeing able to cum without touching your dick helps...it always makes me feel good when he can't control it...


    I wanna be ur bottom :O that would be nice!!
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    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 1:05 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    MunchingZombie saidAnyone can just lounge about and get pounded. I like an aggressive bottom who tries to chew your dick off.



    I had a sudden urge to buy a years supply of Preparation H after reading this post.
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    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 3:51 AM GMT
    3 P's:

    Prepared (cleanliness wise)
    Passionate
    Prepared

    LOL
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    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 4:29 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    tommieboiisf saiddon't most tops like a loud verbal bottom?
    that's wut i've always been told...

    Its all about the moans, the breathing, how your body reacts, tensing of muscles in anticipation of whats about to take place..

    You moan loud enough for him to hear, but you also moan softly, just enough that he knows you just moaned but not loud enough for him to have heard it fully, then some more of each, what ever takes your fancy really,.

    Then you got the breathing, now that can be really good, a little heavy breathing, a little panting when you get really excited, even a little under the breath moaning..

    Then your body, if your on your back and you get beg your legs around his chest/waist you can have a lot of fun with him, you can really get your entire body into it, pulling him in harder, forcing him to stay where he is, get your back arching a little maybe run your hand through his hair, keep one if his chest or abs, pull him down to kiss, come up to him, while your up there, maybe a little quiet words ya know, let him know verbally how good he feels, maybe a little harder, or some quiet begging ya know, what ever will do it for him

    on your knees, well, flex your back, push back at him, groan a little when he pushes in, arch your back still, moan some more, make it a touch louder maybe.. if he pulls you up to kneel, if hes tall enough lay your head onto his shoulder, keep a light moan, his ear is right there, you do'nt need to be screaming for him, take one of his hands, move it to places on the front of your body that you like, wrap the other around to the back of his head..

    Hes a top, hes putting in a lot of effort, you gotta put in just as much if not more, let him know where and when hes hitting the right spots, a good top wants to make it just as good for you as it is for him, I've never met a guy who didn't like a bottom that let him know when the right stuff was happening, being a forceful bottom can be hot as can being submissive.. but always know, sex is between two people, it takes two people, you both have to put work into it.





    Oh, my.

    *fans himself*

    Oh, my.

    How much is a flight to Sydney, again?
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    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 5:45 AM GMT
    All of the above... and learn how to milk it.
  • TallGWMvballe... Posts: 1925
    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 6:41 AM GMT
    A good bottom is someone who is passionate and sensitive.
    He should be able to feel the rhythm of each of you and move and change to fit what you BOTH are into... looking into eachother's eyes if you are facing, holding eachother's hens when the top is on top and simply being 100 percent engaged is what makes a great bottom!
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    QUOTE Dec 31, 2008 8:09 AM GMT
    There's really no need to be TOO loud I think. And starting to shout stuff like "fuc*k me hard, oh yeah, that's right etc. " is more likely to be a turn OFF if you ask me, because it almost sounds like a cheap porn movie.
    You can express these ... desires in many different ways (what the guys above me said), but most of all - you should just read your partner. When you try something new, see if he likes it and after some time, you should know exactly how to please him
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    QUOTE Jan 06, 2009 1:36 PM GMT
    BerberKnight saidA good bottom is one who doesn't get penetrated. A good top is one who doesn't need to penetrate to feel sexually satisfied.

    Good sexual partners are those who respect the body and its biological functions. Therefore, they are those who will refrain from any penetrative sex.

    There are alternatives like frottage (penis to penis rowdy, sweaty, hot rubbing).

    However, if the feeling of penetration is necessary for either partner to feel satisfied, the bottom could always lift his balls and let the top go back and forth within the area in between his balls and butt.

    This can be done frontal or from the back. It's very sensual!


    And that is why they make different types of cereal!!!!!!!
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    QUOTE Jan 06, 2009 1:45 PM GMT
    Oh God more of that G0Y crap. Face it you're gay, either you like it in your butt, that your prerogative, but to say that what I do in the bedroom is unnatural and demeaning is offensive.
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    QUOTE Jan 06, 2009 2:48 PM GMT
    My first time bottoming was so great I started pushing back against the top each time he thrust forward (we were doing it doggie style). He really liked that, and was surprised I was so enthusiastic for a virgin. It excited him even more to know that I was hard & jerking myself while he plowed me, and when I asked him to stroke me, too.

    And ever since that first time, most tops I've had likewise prefer enthusiasm over passivity, and for me to give outward signs that I'm really enjoying it, same as I like when I'm the top. But alternatively, too much enthusiasm & stupid talking can be a spoiler. Case in point:

    I was topping a guy, a bartender I'd known for a while, but our first time in bed. We were also doing it doggie, and suddenly he started YELLING that I was the biggest guy he'd ever had, the best, etc, etc, and that he wanted to marry me!

    Not only that, but he started to make plans for me to move in with him the very next day, rent a U-Haul, bring all my stuff over and so on, all the while I'm fucking him! Well I just started to go soft real quick, so I faked an orgasm, pulled out, and while he was in the bathroom, threw my clothes on and literally ran out the door! I never saw him again.

    Different tops want different things, so I guess the best bottom is the one who provides them. Dialogue and being alert to his signals are most important.
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    QUOTE Jan 06, 2009 2:53 PM GMT
    Greygull saidOh God more of that G0Y crap. Face it you're gay, either you like it in your butt, that your prerogative, but to say that what I do in the bedroom is unnatural and demeaning is offensive.


    I'd wager that his perspective is not specifically g0y, but rather a reflection of the sexually repressive culture he's from.
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    QUOTE Jan 07, 2009 12:22 AM GMT
    I used to top more than I do now. Topping just doesn't really interest me anymore simply because too many times the bottom would lie on his stomach and not do anything but lay there holding the pillow. If I wanted that I'd make a hole in my bed's mattress or get a plastic doll which isn't going to happen.

    I also hate it when they 'prepare' for the act. As in making themselves more loose before you get there. No matter how big a guy is punching air just doesn't work. I know what I'm doing and I'll open that ass up enough for me to use.

    Guys who think they are just a hole bore me.
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    QUOTE Jan 08, 2009 5:39 AM GMT
    Lostboy76 saidsome affirmation is gratifying, otherwise I just think the poor guy is in pain. I don´t enjoying bottoming and so find it hard to believe that others do.


    wow, believe me when I say, I love bottoming. So yes, there are guys who definitely enjoy it and luv the feel of every inch sliding in...