Sydneyrugbyjock73 said Not being into Dom and submissive roles myself wondering what motivates you to role play and is there pleasure in it or did you just play along to please the other guy
I'm not sure if I understand it fully, but I used to get boners when doing ground work in judo as a kid - some of my earliest sexual memories. It caused a lot of problems, confusion and stress at the time, with other guys at the club calling gay, but with some help from a different club and as I got older I was able to control things a lot more, and accepted it as being just a quirk. Was quite motivating to push me to up my game & my training
Locks, pressure points, chokes and any of the other compliance work all has a similar effect on getting a lob on. Strikes give a much smaller reaction, mainly because they are over so quickly, and as you get older you realise the serious injuries and devastating effect they can have. Partners who fight back are far more fun than lads who just take it IMO, but I know doms who are far more into boys who have had the spunk knocked out of them already.
On the dominance side of things, I am a believe in taking personal charge if you want to see change in anything in life, otherwise you end up waiting around for others to step up and it often doesn't happen. Its just a character thing, and I guess it rubs off into the bedroom a bit, but mainly in the type of guys that are attracted to me. Lots of lads have said they like my confidence and that I take control., which in turn affects what happens in the bedroom.
I don't go doing compliance work or hurting anyone I go to bed with - if someone isn't into that, I can be as gentle as a lamb. If a guy is into it, then I can usually make them squirm. I always agree limits on that type of thing first and regardless of what they want, I don't do things that I feel are going to cause serious injury.