Just came out of the closet

  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 6:33 AM GMT
    I recently told my family I was gay. I am 24 and they were really accepting of it surprisingly. It was a shocker to my mom at first but she said its your life and do what you want type of deal. She's very supportive of me. I had a girlfriend and when I had sex with her it just didn't feel right. I know I have been attracted to men as well as women since senior high school which was back in 2008. So I finally got a girlfriend 2 years ago and had sex and wasn't what i was expecting. my penis shrunk during sex and I was thinking about men during that time as well instead of being with the girl. Where do I go from here?

    I have identified it with most of my family who is my mom, bro, and sis. my dad doesnt know yet and he will never know until he meets my boyfriend when i get one. He lives in cali. I signed up on okcupid and that hasnt been working out and same with POF.

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    Apr 18, 2014 6:37 AM GMT
    You've taken the biggest step by coming out, and it's also the hardest one, so you can really just go with the flow from here. It's fine to have dating profiles, but always expect the minimum, as pickings are slim out there.
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 6:40 AM GMT
    pickings were even slimmer when i was in denial of being gay. I had so much trouble with finding a girlfriend just to test to see if i was gay or not. I am glad i found out early on, but I am used to getting no love. I want a man to accept me for who I am. I want my room to be pink and green and i love pink fur and fuzzy pink and purple pillows. they make me smile icon_smile.gif
  • Nayro

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    Apr 18, 2014 10:12 AM GMT
    Congratulations!! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 18, 2014 12:45 PM GMT
    Congrats buddy. That is a big step and take your time to go ahead from here.
    You will meet the right guy when the time is right.
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    Apr 18, 2014 12:56 PM GMT
    As the others said, youve done the hardest step, and it all gets better from here. Congratulations.
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    Apr 18, 2014 1:00 PM GMT
    Welcome home
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    Apr 18, 2014 1:10 PM GMT
    Congrats. I came out in the Seattle area myself, I found it a great place to be gay. The Cap Hill district is still a very gay place, easy to meet guys there. Lots of bars & clubs, but also other gay events & social activities, many groups to join. Check the local gay rags, you'll find them along Broadway and in the bars.

    I also had a BF in Issaquah, so I know that area, too. Not as gay-intense as Seattle. In fact, not intense in any way. Do you live with family? Family living really limits your options.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 18, 2014 1:18 PM GMT
    Good for you. It is better to be honest about yourself than hide behind phony facades and end up suffering long term psychological problems. Consider this event the first day of the better, freer, happier part of your life.icon_smile.gif
  • Farmboy8

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    Apr 18, 2014 1:44 PM GMT
    Congratulations!! I'm nearing that step as well and your story only reinforces the fact that we all NEED to do it. I lived in denial for way too long and dated women as well. Never connected emotionally, spiritually etc. but rather than facing the truth, I kept telling myself "you just haven't met the right one".
    Thank you for sharing your story and best of luck moving forward.
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 2:58 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidCongrats. I came out in the Seattle area myself, I found it a great place to be gay. The Cap Hill district is still a very gay place, easy to meet guys there. Lots of bars & clubs, but also other gay events & social activities, many groups to join. Check the local gay rags, you'll find them along Broadway and in the bars.

    I also had a BF in Issaquah, so I know that area, too. Not as gay-intense as Seattle. In fact, not intense in any way. Do you live with family? Family living really limits your options.


    I live with my sister and she is very accepting of my lifestyle. She is moving out in four months to go to Eastern Washington University then I will be living on my own except when my sister comes home for vacations. I have been trying okcupid and it seems like no attractive guys want to take on the challenge of teaching a young person the ways. I want to have a partner who is clean and loves to be in a pink bed icon_smile.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Apr 18, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    Armymanis saidpickings were even slimmer when i was in denial of being gay. I had so much trouble with finding a girlfriend just to test to see if i was gay or not. I am glad i found out early on, but I am used to getting no love. I want a man to accept me for who I am. I want my room to be pink and green and i love pink fur and fuzzy pink and purple pillows. they make me smile icon_smile.gif

    Congrats, man, but don't think you have to now slide into some archetype of what the media portrays as gay (and a lot of gay guys, too). Just be yourself.
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    Apr 18, 2014 3:02 PM GMT
    Your story sounds very exciting. I hope it all goes well with your dad. It went very well for me. icon_smile.gif
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 3:03 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    Armymanis saidpickings were even slimmer when i was in denial of being gay. I had so much trouble with finding a girlfriend just to test to see if i was gay or not. I am glad i found out early on, but I am used to getting no love. I want a man to accept me for who I am. I want my room to be pink and green and i love pink fur and fuzzy pink and purple pillows. they make me smile icon_smile.gif

    Congrats, man, but don't think you have to now slide into some archetype of what the media portrays as gay (and a lot of gay guys, too). Just be yourself.


    I know. I just love Green and pink. I don't care what the media says.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 18, 2014 3:08 PM GMT
    Well congrats and be very proud of yourself. I would just encourage you to lets things go along naturally. Don't fret about meeting someone immediately.

    In the meantime, be proud you took the initiative, you'll remember it the rest of your life!

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  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 3:55 PM GMT
    Thanks icon_smile.gif

    I ordered this on Wednesday. I was super excited to be able to finally express myself the way i want icon_smile.gif

    http://www.ebay.com/itm/370611918647?ssPageName=STRK:MEWNX:IT&_trksid=p3984.m1497.l2649

    I have been dreaming about a pink bed for awhile now since high school and when i was dating women they did not understand why i liked women's things as well as guy things. I also felt more like a bottom and submissive type of person and my dick kept going down during sex with women. I just wasn't attracted to my ex as much as I thought. I was in complete denial and I am super happy I came out icon_smile.gif Now I can have fun and enjoy myself icon_smile.gif Plus I can't wait to find a guy who wants to be in my pink bed with me and have a serious relationship icon_smile.gif

    Sorry if this is graphic icon_smile.gif

    I watch gay porn too and its awesome icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 18, 2014 3:58 PM GMT
    Congrats! icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 18, 2014 4:08 PM GMT
    Some guys come out quietly and others come out blazing! Good luck on your blazing pink celebration.
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 5:07 PM GMT
    About to tell my best friend this morning. We will see if hes supportive or totally freaks out and doesn't want to be my friend anymore.
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 5:41 PM GMT
    Armymanis saidI recently told my family I was gay. I am 24 and they were really accepting of it surprisingly. It was a shocker to my mom at first but she said its your life and do what you want type of deal. She's very supportive of me. I had a girlfriend and when I had sex with her it just didn't feel right. I know I have been attracted to men as well as women since senior high school which was back in 2008. So I finally got a girlfriend 2 years ago and had sex and wasn't what i was expecting. my penis shrunk during sex and I was thinking about men during that time as well instead of being with the girl. Where do I go from here?

    I have identified it with most of my family who is my mom, bro, and sis. my dad doesnt know yet and he will never know until he meets my boyfriend when i get one. He lives in cali. I signed up on okcupid and that hasnt been working out and same with POF.



    Just announced it on facebook icon_smile.gif We will see how many friends I have after this. Who knows.
  • Sportsfan1

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    Apr 18, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    All the best to you! You have taken the hardest step and that was coming out to yourself. Everything else will fall in line. Do not worry so much about "finding" someone, it will happen when it happens. Right now enjoy being yourself and if that means a pink bed well so much the better!
    Glad to hear your family has been supportive. That is very important in the long run. If your "friend" cannot accept you then he never really was your friend. Have fun, be safe, enjoy life remember this is not a dress rehearsal.
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 18, 2014 5:56 PM GMT
    All my friends accepted me for who I am icon_smile.gif A lot of people are very accepting which is good icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 18, 2014 7:20 PM GMT
    It's the latter part you need to hear. Enjoy.

  • SDOMAN1

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    Apr 19, 2014 2:13 AM GMT
    chuckystud saidIt's the latter part you need to hear. Enjoy.



    The last few seconds: It couldnt be a plain simple and better way say it; and that should apply to everyone starting to ourselves. If we want to see a change, we need to change orurselves first. Those values among many other ones could make a real change on all of us, in everyone.
  • Armymanis

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    Apr 19, 2014 3:32 AM GMT
    Just a little update. I am seeing the counselor on Monday and letting her know that I came out today and am very happy with myself icon_smile.gif I am able to express myself and who i want to become and who i want to be with icon_smile.gif After saying it on facebook, I got a lot of support. All of my friends kind of knew that i was gay and they all supported me icon_smile.gif I have 168 friends on facebook and have not lost any of them icon_smile.gif I have 12 likes on my status so far and 5 comments including my own so I am glad I came out and didn't wait any longer icon_smile.gif I can now be myself icon_smile.gif I really want tight women jeans, and a pink bath robe and pink towels. icon_smile.gif I hope i find a man whose turned on by a guy wearing pink icon_smile.gif