Was he intimidated

  • Matthew56

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    Apr 18, 2014 4:59 PM GMT
    So I was all ready to go on this date from someone off growlr who was pretty keen to meet up. As we have been chatting for a few months beforehand then he sent a text saying " on second thoughts I am gonna bottle it and cancel" . After sending text about my muscles would look after working out as I have just worked out

    So was he intimidated by my appearance or something else ??
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    Apr 18, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    Is there a British word for "flake" or is it the same term?
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    Apr 18, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
    if it makes u feel better to think so, yes.
  • Matthew56

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    Apr 18, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Davidolce said[/cite]if it makes u feel better to think so, yes.[/quote

    It does not really I was looking forward to meeting him
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    Apr 18, 2014 6:12 PM GMT
    Really an old man
    Really a fat man
    Really a woman
    Really someone you know
    Terrified about being seen by someone he knows
    "Happily partnered"
    Terrified you would walk in, see him and walk out
    Too good for you


    ...pick one of them
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    Apr 18, 2014 7:00 PM GMT
    I don't know if someone would be intimidated by seeing your muscles pumped. You don't look scary to me. Was this the first face to face date? Have you heard from him since?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 18, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    I can't imagine being intimidated on a first meet up, but maybe his perceptions didn't jive with what you were telling him, but maybe it had nothing to do with you at all.
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    Apr 18, 2014 8:14 PM GMT
    It can consume a lot of time and energy trying to figure out what people are thinking, and the bottom line is that we can't ever really know.

    There are a lot of worthy guys out there who won't lose heart (or interest, or whatever) last minute. Best to forget about this guy and move forward with your life.
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    Apr 18, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    He changed his mind and didn't like you that much to meet up, not intimidated by your appearance.
  • TaxiYellow

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    Apr 18, 2014 8:28 PM GMT
    Most of what everyone said is possible, but I'd just like to add that an anxiety disorder is also possible.

    Even going out for pizza with a buddy can upend my life; I always want to back out of plans without a logical reason. Just fear.

    If that's the case, you're probably better off anyway. Too stressful.
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    Apr 18, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    This thread is really intimidating - there's so much muscle
  • BillandChuck

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    Apr 18, 2014 9:36 PM GMT
    ElectroShark saidIs there a British word for "flake" or is it the same term?

    Twat. And sounds like that might be it. He could have been exaggerating his own state of fitness. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    Lol all I know is you drew attention to your physique which like everything, can make a person uncomfortable.

    :3
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:14 PM GMT
    Who knows? Who cares? Shit happens. Move on.
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:17 PM GMT
    Don't worry about whether or not he was intimidated.

    Go find out who You intimidate in RL, then get back to Us.
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:22 PM GMT
    If you were chatting for a few months and hadn't already met ...then he "just wasn't that much into you".... Simple...move on and find someone more secure, confident and eager to meet sooner than chatting a few months first.
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:49 PM GMT
    Call him and ask if you want to know.
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:54 PM GMT
    EUjock2 saidIf you were chatting for a few months and hadn't already met ...then he "just wasn't that much into you".... Simple...move on and find someone more secure, confident and eager to meet sooner than chatting a few months first.


    Maybe?

    I vote call him and ask!
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    Apr 18, 2014 10:54 PM GMT
    TerraFirma saidCall him and ask if you want to know.


    This so goooood
  • Matthew56

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    Apr 18, 2014 11:21 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI can't imagine being intimidated on a first meet up, but maybe his perceptions didn't jive with what you were telling him, but maybe it had nothing to do with you at all.


    We never met face to face
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    Apr 19, 2014 12:09 AM GMT
    Lol maybe he found you to be shallow... Sitting on a date with a guy that's so into himself where it all about him, is quite dreadful.

    I doubt he was intimidated by your muscles lmao. Does he also avoid action films if the guys are too buff lol?
  • LJay

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    Apr 19, 2014 12:22 AM GMT
    Give him the benefit of having a plain case of nerves. It is why I do not try to contact people online. In my particular case it is is also because I am really pre-internet and the idea is still hard for me to get used to. Old fuddy duddy, yes, but that is just the way it is.
  • Import

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    Apr 19, 2014 2:32 AM GMT
    what exactly is to be bottled??
    I'm gonna bottle it and cancel...... ? Like bottle the idea? bottle the date itself? bottle you? why is a bottle even part of the equation?

    You should say something like "well, I suggest u take that bottle and pound it up your fat ass you cunt"....

    see what he says..
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    Apr 19, 2014 2:36 AM GMT
    Ohno saidReally an old man
    Really a fat man
    Really a woman
    Really someone you know
    Terrified about being seen by someone he knows
    "Happily partnered"
    Terrified you would walk in, see him and walk out
    Too good for you


    ...pick one of them


    that was what I was thinking
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    Apr 19, 2014 2:53 AM GMT
    Yes, he figured you were way out of his league.