The "Rocket Scientist" VS the "Tomato Seed Intellect ".

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    Apr 19, 2014 11:26 PM GMT
    The dating game can really put us through a myriad of test, mostly when we are least conscious of it.
    Would it be fair to say that a man's intelligence on some unconscious level, may command a heightened respect and deeper admiration from us. Can intelligence or lack of it, make the guy we are sleeping with seem less attractive?
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    Apr 19, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
    Absolutely
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    Apr 19, 2014 11:30 PM GMT
    It used to. Then I met someone a few years ago who wasn't very smart but had the biggest heart I'd ever known.

    Changed my thinking quite a bit.

    Now it's the person with a heart and soul that makes me pay attention. You don't have to be "smart" to be worth my time but you need to be good.
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    Apr 19, 2014 11:31 PM GMT
    Yes. People that find intelligence sexy are sapiosexuals.
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    Apr 19, 2014 11:45 PM GMT
    It's never going to be exclusively one trait or another but a combination of a bunch that makes the person who they are. The question was put "can" intelligence or lack there of make someone more or less attractive and the answer is yes. It's asking about intelligence exclusively
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    Apr 20, 2014 11:02 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidIt used to. Then I met someone a few years ago who wasn't very smart but had the biggest heart I'd ever known.


    This.

    OP, I think you've nailed it and I think that's exactly what makes the "dating game" for me seem so dry and narrow - this notion that intelligence makes or breaks a person. It sounds like a dominance thing, where guys feel that they will be more respected and admired for showing that they are more intelligent or successful.

    I find that this all makes a good date but not a good relationship. People like that are never happy because they'll always be looking for someone who is smarter, but not smarter than them.

    It's when you find someone that lets all of that stuff go and is modest about their smarts and/or achievements is when you know you've found someone real. I've never felt more alive and electrified than I have dating someone who was very empathetic and got to know me for me. I truly felt understood and respected as a human being - regardless of where my intelligence level was, and vice versa. And the sex, forget it.

    I tend to go for more modest, laid back and smooth guys than flashy, high-profile and entitled guys anyway. I just find most tact in the former than the latter.