Starting Fights For No Reason.

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    Apr 20, 2014 6:11 AM GMT
    Good evening everyone!

    So, this guy just tried to start a fight with me. For literally no reason at all (He was drunk though) i was doing sound for a commercial for about 16 hour today. I was hungry, tired, and ready to get home quickly. I usually never eat past 9 Pm... but i have worked hard in the gym all week I'll have a cheat night icon_lol.gif

    There was this dude at the place i went to that started yelling at me. He claimed i looked his way and gave a ''threatening'' look icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    He even pushed me... but his push was beyond weak. I didn't even budge and stood there very puzzled at this whole thing. His friend then grabbed him and dragged his ass out of there.

    I was amazed how petty the guy was to start a fight over that. Then realized it was like looking at a younger me... i posted here about anger problems before. And how when i was a younger guy... i got in fights all the damn time. I would beat someone up and break their arm for just looking at me funny. I learned to control my anger and frustrations and be at peace with myself.

    It's sad to see an angry young man lash out like this. But i hope he will grow up and find some kind of inner peace soon.

    Has anyone else been in a fight? that happened for almost no reason? did you give in and go hand to hand? or did you solve it through other ways?
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:15 AM GMT
    One night walking down the sidewalk this guy just took a swing at me, I ducked, he kept on walking and so did I. No words were spoken.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:16 AM GMT
    notoriouslyme said
    lifeduringwartime23 saidHas anyone else been in a fight? that happened for almost no reason? did you give in and go hand to hand? or did you solve it through other ways?
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    LOL…these RJ flamefests are not fights. They're just stupid.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:20 AM GMT
    MikeW saidOne night walking down the sidewalk this guy just took a swing at me, I ducked, he kept on walking and so did I. No words were spoken.


    Wow, just randomly swung at you? seriously what the hell is up with people icon_lol.gif that sounds like the knockout game type crap. That stuff kids were doing the past few years. Where they hit random people on the streets and run.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:36 AM GMT
    owl_bundy saidsadly, it's quite common which is why i'm always watching my back. even in the burbs, you have folks looking for trouble. folks think that all that crazy shit goes down in irvington or newark but we have plenty of folks over here on some dumb shit. the mailman got robbed at gunpoint by the park around my way the other day. icon_neutral.gif and before that, another mailman that runs my route almost got stabbed up in the damn apartment complex down the right. folks getting beat up or whatever. shit is crazy.

    i wouldn't even say folks are trying to start a fight with you because that would imply that they know you to a degree or there's a bit of a reason behind that shit. i think whenever a stranger does that, they simply are out to hurt you, rob you or whatever. fuck that. that's just someone out to commit a crime and if they're willing to hurt you, who else knows what they'll do.


    This is very true my friend! in my old town crazy shit happens all the time. It was why i was such a rough young man at the time. But i love Westwood now, over close to UCLA. Almost nothing happens here icon_lol.gif but every one in awhile a fight, or robbery happens.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:38 AM GMT
    I'm not a fighter although I'm more then capable. But people have attempting to pick fights with me a fair bit when I was younger apparently I just looked like someone worth fighting.

    I always felt horrible about it cause I could fight and I'd desperately try to talk my way outta having to throw a punch. Rarely worked though and I broke a few noses.

    Never understood it why the hell did anyone want to feel that kinda pain? Punching someone fucking hurts and your picking a fight with me WTF
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:39 AM GMT
    woodsmen saidI was walking home from the gym. Pretty pumped. Wearing a tight wife-beater. A tough guy, built like a shit house, walked towards me on the same brick sidewalk in downtown Minneapolis. As we crossed each other, he leaned and his shoulder bumped mine. Clearly looking for something more, I ignored him and walked on. (Ouch!)


    This makes me feel hella guility. When i was 14 i did this to quite a few people. I never did to any fellow Asians, but i always did it to white guys. My town in Texas was pretty racists i have to say. They gave a lot of us who were Asian, African American, or mixed a hard time. If i saw a white guy walking by me at night i would purposely shoulder bump him. And try to get him to scrap with me.

    All that fighting was useless and was worth nothing. Hence why i grew up to find hating others, and starting fights for no reason have no purpose. I do believe guys like that were just like me when i was young. Angry, confused, and raging at the world for whatever reason.

    Glad your safe and it didn't turn into anything serious icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:44 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI'm not a fighter although I'm more then capable. But people have attempting to pick fights with me a fair bit when I was younger apparently I just looked like someone worth fighting.

    I always felt horrible about it cause I could fight and I'd desperately try to talk my way outta having to throw a punch. Rarely worked though and I broke a few noses.

    Never understood it why the hell did anyone want to feel that kinda pain? Punching someone fucking hurts and your picking a fight with me WTF


    Some people do it for their stature. I know a lot of guys do it to feel tough, look tough, or feel more in power then other males. I know me being half Asian, and not wanting to look weak in other peoples eyes. Had an effect on me always fighting with people. If someone ever looked at em wrong i'd start a fight and would fight them till they were bloodied up or broke a bone.

    It was beyond stupid and childish. It's good you tried to walk away from it icon_smile.gif and yes punching someone does hurt sometimes. Unless you have on boxing gloves icon_surprised.gif
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:49 AM GMT
    lifeduringwartime23 saidSome people do it for their stature. I know a lot of guys do it to feel tough, look tough, or feel more in power then other males. I know me being half Asian, and not wanting to look weak in other peoples eyes. Had an effect on me always fighting with people. If someone ever looked at em wrong i'd start a fight and would fight them till they were bloodied up or broke a bone.

    It was beyond stupid and childish. It's good you tried to walk away from it icon_smile.gif and yes punching someone does hurt sometimes. Unless you have on boxing gloves icon_surprised.gif

    But they never won. I was the one left standing. Then they'd get up and try again I couldn't believe it and how many bloody times do I have to hit them before they stay the f down and don't bother getting back up again.

    I learnt to fight properly and got into fights at school now as an adult I can handle l my self, now I can box, do a few different martial arts (yay for that one) and I'm strong.

    I will admit most have been drunk but this one guy he kicked me in the freakin shin and that hurt and I lost my temper over that I considered it a low blow.

    Eventually they all just looked like idiots so I never understood it. If your gonna pick a fight pick someone you can at least hold your own against not the big guy who's all smiles and doesn't want to fight.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:51 AM GMT
    lifeduringwartime23 said
    MikeW saidOne night walking down the sidewalk this guy just took a swing at me, I ducked, he kept on walking and so did I. No words were spoken.
    Wow, just randomly swung at you? seriously what the hell is up with people icon_lol.gif that sounds like the knockout game type crap. That stuff kids were doing the past few years. Where they hit random people on the streets and run.
    Yeah, there are a lot of crazy people where I live (Berkeley). I didn't recognize this one but, yeah, he was walking toward me on my right and just drew back and jabbed at me with a right. Now had I been a different kind of person I would have gotten all 'in his face' about it, which probably *would* have resulted in a fight. Not being a fighter type, though, I just felt lucky I was able to avoid his blow and doubly lucky he didn't just keep coming at me.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:53 AM GMT
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    lifeduringwartime23 saidSome people do it for their stature. I know a lot of guys do it to feel tough, look tough, or feel more in power then other males. I know me being half Asian, and not wanting to look weak in other peoples eyes. Had an effect on me always fighting with people. If someone ever looked at em wrong i'd start a fight and would fight them till they were bloodied up or broke a bone.

    It was beyond stupid and childish. It's good you tried to walk away from it icon_smile.gif and yes punching someone does hurt sometimes. Unless you have on boxing gloves icon_surprised.gif

    But they never won. I was the one left standing. Then they'd get up and try again I couldn't believe it and how many bloody times do I have to hit them before they stay the f down and don't bother getting back up again.

    I learnt to fight properly and got into fights at school now as an adult I can handle l my self, now I can box, do a few different martial arts (yay for that one) and I'm strong.

    I will admit most have been drunk but this one guy he kicked me in the freakin shin and that hurt and I lost my temper over that I considered it a low blow.

    Eventually they all just looked like idiots so I never understood it. If your gonna pick a fight pick someone you can at least hold your own against not the big guy who's all smiles and doesn't want to fight.


    Score one for the martial arts! i do kickboxing and Muay Thai myself. Also used to be an amateur boxer my senior year. That taught me how to REALLY fight VS street fighting. Martial Arts give your fighting a purpose, a sense of excitement, and it looks a lot cooler and classy. Versus the street fighting way of it icon_lol.gif

    I'm a big guy myself, and people assume no one ever starts fights with me. This is sadly untrue for the most part.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:56 AM GMT
    lifeduringwartime23 saidI'm a big guy myself, and people assume no one ever starts fights with me. This is sadly untrue for the most part.

    yeah I get people saying that to. Everyone assumes I don't get into fights but apparently I'm the most likely target in the room.

    It still ticks me off that people would do it especially the one who kicked me in the shins cause I lost my temper at him.
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    Apr 20, 2014 6:57 AM GMT
    No, haven't happened to me.
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    Apr 20, 2014 8:32 AM GMT
    It has happened to me but not in a while because I don't generally go to bars where it seems more likely. I'm pretty big and heavily into the martial arts and work out all the time so I feel pretty confident about taking care of myself. I still try not to have an over-confident manner.

    One time I was with some friends at a bar and this guy drunk comes up to me. I assumed he was the tough guy with his friends and they challenged him to confront me. I had an idea he really didn't want a fight but was kind of pressured into it. So before he had a chance to talk trash I was all smiles, told him it was obvious he worked out and asked what exercises he did. It completely disarmed him and we had a friendly conversation. I didn't want him to lose face in front of his friends. (That's when they go out to a car and come back with a gun.) If he had persisted being aggressive, I would have used a compliance hold but as inconspicuously as possible so as to not embarrass him.

    He went back with his friends, probably told them how I complimented him. A while later he comes back, still drunk, this time embarrassed with his hand out to shake. He said, hey thanks man. I realize what you did. I said no problem. I guessed your friends egged you on and with some alcohol strange things happen. It's all good buddy.

    Actually I felt good about the situation turning a potentially bad situation into something good. Probably helped that I knew I could handle things with no problem if it had taken a different course.
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    Apr 20, 2014 11:28 AM GMT
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    Apr 20, 2014 1:08 PM GMT
    lifeduringwartime23 said
    So, this guy just tried to start a fight with me. For literally no reason at all (He was drunk though)...

    Drinking & drugs can cause hostile & irrational behavior in some people. When you think those may be the cause simply disengage from the person, and don't worry about your pride, you'll just make the situation worse if you become confrontational.

    Yesterday afternoon (Sat) my husband & I went to a gay bar to wait for a friend who was meeting us for dinner at 6 (great meal, BTW). It was his treat for our picking him up at the train station late the night before, and driving him some distance home.

    While waiting for him a guy we know started talking to us. Mid-30s, very cute, probably the nicest-looking guy in the place right then, we've enjoyed his company before. Then my husband drifted off (I wonder by design?) and I realized the other guy had too much to drink. Not seriously impaired, but enough for a major personality change.

    He started getting argumentative with me, interrupted my sentences, insulted me, kept repeating himself, just became totally obnoxious. I'd never seen him like that. I don't think he would have struck me, but I wanted nothing more to do with him that day.

    I finally said, smiling: "Please stop interrupting me if you want an answer to your question. May I finish, please?" He got this stunned expression, and when I completed my reply, to HIS original question, he said: "Well, I'm finished talking to YOU!" And walked away (thankfully).

    A minor, non-violent example. But it reminded me how people can change under the influence, something I've seen all my life. Add to that the effect on young men of their youthful testosterone rush, plus any supplements they may be taking, and guys will act unpredictably.

    Keep all that in mind during these spontaneous & inexplicable confrontations, and try not to escalate them. Even what I did yesterday was a bit risky, but in a place I know, with a guy I was pretty sure wouldn't go violent on me. With total strangers you don't know.