Questions for Gay Parents

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    Apr 21, 2014 8:34 PM GMT
    How did you explain your kids that you are gay? How did they react? Also, how did your ex-wives react?
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    Apr 21, 2014 8:47 PM GMT
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    Apr 21, 2014 8:55 PM GMT
    Xavier92 saidHow did you explain your kids that you are gay? How did they react? Also, how did your ex-wives react?

    1. I sat each down and told them individually. My ex was there with me to support me. We told them the truth and that although I was gay, I was the same dad they had ever known and I wasn't changing anytime soon.

    2. They reacted surprised and they all reacted differently but their biggest heartache was not that dad was gay, it was that our family was breaking up. My 6'4" son stood up with a tear running down his cheek and told me he loved me. My oldest daughter asked questions about how I knew and things like that. My youngest daughter freaked but my ex assured her that it was OK and she could talk to one of her teachers if it would help (she feared her dad was going to disappear from her lifeā€¦.that didn't happen, however it would have been a lot cheaper for me! HA!).

    3. Every wife reacts differently. I'm the poster child for this. My wife was very supportive. Although she was hurt, saddened, afraid, she was also understanding and wanting me to be happy. Her first words were "You know this isn't your fault right?". Yes, we're still best friends and see each other all the time, with our respective significant others. The new true Modern Family!
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    Apr 21, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    If only my ex would have been as supportive as his. I didn't get a chance to tell my daughter. My ex told her and painted me in such an ugly manner my daughter hasn't spoken to me in nearly 4 years.
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    Apr 21, 2014 9:31 PM GMT
    My kids never didn't know. We each had partners by the time they were 10 and 11.
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    Apr 21, 2014 10:35 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidIf only my ex would have been as supportive as his. I didn't get a chance to tell my daughter. My ex told her and painted me in such an ugly manner my daughter hasn't spoken to me in nearly 4 years.

    That's unfortunate. She did no one any favors, especially your daughter! I totally get the disappointment and anger that goes with being 'the' spouse, but the reality is that, when it comes to children, you both will always be their parents and you only hurt them when your own bitterness blinds you thinking of their wellbeing.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:15 AM GMT
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    UndercoverMan saidIf only my ex would have been as supportive as his. I didn't get a chance to tell my daughter. My ex told her and painted me in such an ugly manner my daughter hasn't spoken to me in nearly 4 years.

    That's unfortunate. She did no one any favors, especially your daughter! I totally get the disappointment and anger that goes with being 'the' spouse, but the reality is that, when it comes to children, you both will always be their parents and you only hurt them when your own bitterness blinds you thinking of their wellbeing.


    Same, my ex told my son ( he was 15) in a fit of rage. Thankfully he and I get along great. Soon after she told him, she attempted to kill herself. He now has a very 'strained' relationship with his mother.