Confusing man from the Internet

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    Apr 22, 2014 6:01 AM GMT
    Hey just to start I apologise to those who are sick of me going on about this guy I met after speaking to him online but he is a bit of a head fuck!

    The back ground is we met twice I then didn't hear from him for nearly 6 weeks and he didn't return any attempts at contact I made. Then he called me and we had a drink. The long and short of it is he said he was a couple of leagues above me and his friends would rip on him if he continued with me. I was confused by this as discussed in another thread but whatever.

    Fast forward to now. The past two days he has sent me dirty pictures and 3 videos of himself doing rude things and he keeps saying they're presents which has is really confusing because I don't know if he is actually trying to tell me he does like me really. I've asked if he wants to go for a drink but he didn't reply to the question and just sent another image. What does that mean?

    I'm wondering if maybe he wants to see me secretly so he doesn't get embarrassed but I don't want to suggest in case I have misjudged it. I've been in a bad mood about it all yesterday!
  • Bunjamon

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    Apr 22, 2014 6:12 AM GMT
    It means he's an asshole whom you shouldn't contact anymore. He's not good for anything except forgetting, sounds like. Move on. There will be more, trust me.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:13 AM GMT
    This guy sounds like he's just being a validation whore and a tease.

    HamsterCheeks saidI'm wondering if maybe he wants to see me secretly so he doesn't get embarrassed but I don't want to suggest in case I have misjudged it. I've been in a bad mood about it all yesterday!


    Is your self-esteem so low that you would even consider this? You really need to just lose all contact with this guy before he drags your self-esteem down even lower.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:14 AM GMT
    He's probably sending you the videos because he's horny.

    And because he's an A-Hole. Don't think too much into it. Doesn't sound like he's interested in anything more than a hookup.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:17 AM GMT
    Bunjamon saidIt means he's an asshole whom you shouldn't contact anymore. He's not good for anything except forgetting, sounds like. Move on. There will be more, trust me.


    If he was an asshole though he wouldn't have contacted me after 6 weeks to explain why he didn't want to see me anymore. Thats why I think he might be nice but pretending to be horrible.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 22, 2014 6:21 AM GMT
    Why would a nice guy pretend to be horrible. That makes no sense.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:24 AM GMT
    MikeW saidWhy would a nice guy pretend to be horrible. That makes no sense.


    Well because he might want to show off to his friends. When I was with him he was nice each time except for when he was explaining why he didn't want to hang out any more even though I respect him for telling me.
  • kew1

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    Apr 22, 2014 6:25 AM GMT
    HamsterCheeks said
    Bunjamon saidIt means he's an asshole whom you shouldn't contact anymore. He's not good for anything except forgetting, sounds like. Move on. There will be more, trust me.


    If he was an asshole though he wouldn't have contacted me after 6 weeks to explain why he didn't want to see me anymore. Thats why I think he might be nice but pretending to be horrible.


    The long and short of it is he said he was a couple of leagues above me and his friends would rip on him if he continued with me. He's an asshole, block his emails/texts/calls.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:28 AM GMT
    Lose him and his e-mail address NOW.

    His contacting You to say He is above You is ABSURD!!!

    NO ONE worth a grain of salt would EVER do something like that. EVER!!!

    Your a good looking Guy and You seem very genuine and kind. Learn to own who You are and work with Your assets - and You have MANY.

    There are MANY amazing experiences ahead of You if You will see in Yourself what anyone with half a brain can see in You.

    You seem like one of the truly decent Guys out there and You deserve someone that not only makes Your heart race every time you hear His voice -- but who can appreciate the prize that You are.

    Yer a good Kid - don't sell Yourself short for some lonely boy with an inflated ego, dipshit friends and too many pics of his dick.
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    Apr 22, 2014 6:42 AM GMT
    I probably should lose his phone number and block his emails etc.

    I was just wondering if anyone could explain things from his point of view so I understand it because obviously I can only see things from my perspective and I don't want to be completely unfair if he potentially has his reasons for what he is doing.

    It's possible I am just reading too much into it and he may have just been drunk lol.
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    Apr 22, 2014 8:14 AM GMT
    HamsterCheeks saidI probably should lose his phone number and block his emails etc.

    I was just wondering if anyone could explain things from his point of view so I understand it because obviously I can only see things from my perspective and I don't want to be completely unfair if he potentially has his reasons for what he is doing.



    We can't explain things from his point of view since we don't know him. We would need to hear his side of the story instead of yours.
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    Apr 22, 2014 8:36 AM GMT
    Erik101 said
    HamsterCheeks saidI probably should lose his phone number and block his emails etc.

    I was just wondering if anyone could explain things from his point of view so I understand it because obviously I can only see things from my perspective and I don't want to be completely unfair if he potentially has his reasons for what he is doing.



    We can't explain things from his point of view since we don't know him. We would need to hear his side of the story instead of yours.


    HC's side of the story says more than enough. I don't think we need to hear the other guy's side.
  • buddycat

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    Apr 22, 2014 9:01 AM GMT
    I agree, he is an asshole. You need to run from the guy. You are probably two leagues above him.
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    Apr 22, 2014 9:18 AM GMT
    leave him in his confusion
  • venue35

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    Apr 22, 2014 9:27 AM GMT
    He doesn't sound crazy to me he sounds like a jerk.
    He has already insulted you once. Stop looking for excuses i have done that many times before too.. You need to find someone who makes you feel good about yourself not the opposite. You're still very young...
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    Apr 22, 2014 11:59 AM GMT
    He has a controlling personality. One of the things that controlling abusers do is to attack your self-esteem so that when you finally do wind up with them you come to believe you're lucky to have them since no one else will want you.

    Do not fall into this trap. Ignore, block, lose his phone number.
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    Apr 22, 2014 1:36 PM GMT
    th3ro said
    Erik101 said
    HamsterCheeks saidI probably should lose his phone number and block his emails etc.

    I was just wondering if anyone could explain things from his point of view so I understand it because obviously I can only see things from my perspective and I don't want to be completely unfair if he potentially has his reasons for what he is doing.



    We can't explain things from his point of view since we don't know him. We would need to hear his side of the story instead of yours.


    HC's side of the story says more than enough. I don't think we need to hear the other guy's side.


    In that case, answer his questions.
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    Apr 22, 2014 1:37 PM GMT
    That sounds eerily similar to a few dudes on this site.
  • Import

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    Apr 22, 2014 3:03 PM GMT
    ugh, this guy sounds like a total cunt.

    Stop communicating with him. He basically told u he was embarrassed to be seen with u. How fucking rude is that?

    Now, he sends u dirty pics and only responds when he feels like it. I'd just totally stop communicating with him. Like he did to you, just out of the blue, stop talking. . .

    I mean, he even said he thinks he's a coupleof leagues above u? Who says that?
  • MikeW

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    Apr 22, 2014 3:08 PM GMT
    Import said...I mean, he even said he thinks he's a coupleof leagues above u? Who says that?

    Narcissistic assholes Hamster Cheeks should keep as far away from as possible, that's who.

    Hamster, I know you're horny and lonely for loving attention but this douce is not the one. He's giving you all the *danger, danger, stay away, stay away* signs. You CAN and WILL do better than this rat trap. Be patient. Understand your personal boundaries. Being insulted and then toyed with is not acceptable behavior.
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    Apr 22, 2014 3:09 PM GMT


    "The long and short of it is he said he was a couple of leagues above me and his friends would rip on him if he continued with me."

    Eww.

    If guy had said that to me, I'd have left so fast he'd be left looking at this...

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    Apr 22, 2014 5:24 PM GMT
    Cheers everyone.

    It's possible he'll explain himself but in the mean time I am going to ignore him. I hope I haven't given a too one sided account because he's actually quite decent for the most part and nicer than some guys I've had the misfortune of meeting icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 22, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    Don't ignore him, what are you, 5?
    Just tell him to fuck off.
    He sounds like he doesn't like you, btw.
    I date whomever I want, my friends have no say in deciding or judging.
  • MikeW

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    Apr 22, 2014 6:05 PM GMT
    HamsterCheeks saidCheers everyone.

    It's possible he'll explain himself but in the mean time I am going to ignore him. I hope I haven't given a too one sided account because he's actually quite decent for the most part and nicer than some guys I've had the misfortune of meeting icon_smile.gif
    If you weren't making excuses for him, I'd say that is damning with faint praise. Ok, so there are worse guys you've encountered, that doesn't make him "decent". What you've reported isn't "decent" behavior.
  • killercliche

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    Apr 22, 2014 8:12 PM GMT
    HamsterCheeks saidCheers everyone.

    It's possible he'll explain himself but in the mean time I am going to ignore him. I hope I haven't given a too one sided account because he's actually quite decent for the most part and nicer than some guys I've had the misfortune of meeting icon_smile.gif


    You must find him really physically attractive.