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    Apr 24, 2014 4:32 AM GMT
    We have come a long way, baby. I was bullied and beat up in High School, made to feel ashamed for how I was born. Those days are ancient history.

    We have come so far since then. Marriage equality will soon be the law of the land from coast to coast.

    To my peers, guys in their 40s, what words of advice, what wise counsel can you offer to our younger brothers?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Apr 24, 2014 4:49 AM GMT
    Wisdom of the ages is sort of like hindsight 20x20 ... and unless you been there, you ain't gonna listen to it icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 24, 2014 4:50 AM GMT
    Maturity is not an age, it's an attitude.
  • tj85016

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    Apr 24, 2014 5:32 AM GMT
    Xavier92 saidMaturity is not an age, it's an attitude.


    that has absolutely nothing to do with the man's post, but you need to comment on every friggin post anyway

    Anyway, my advice is to never let an injustice go unnoticed, verbalize it and confront the abuser
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    Apr 24, 2014 5:33 AM GMT
    tj85016 said
    Xavier92 saidMaturity is not an age, it's an attitude.


    that has absolutely nothing to do with the man's post, but you need to comment on every friggin post anyway

    Anyway, my advice is to never let an injustice go unnoticed, verbalize it and confront the abuser


    It's advice. Moron.
  • tj85016

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    Apr 24, 2014 5:44 AM GMT
    Xavier92 said
    tj85016 said
    Xavier92 saidMaturity is not an age, it's an attitude.


    that has absolutely nothing to do with the man's post, but you need to comment on every friggin post anyway

    Anyway, my advice is to never let an injustice go unnoticed, verbalize it and confront the abuser


    It's advice. Moron.


    no it wasn't, it was a lame, veiled attempt at criticizing this:

    "To my peers, guys in their 40s, what words of advice, what wise counsel can you offer to our younger brothers?"
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    Apr 24, 2014 6:00 AM GMT
    Moisturize.
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    Apr 24, 2014 6:02 AM GMT
    onejock said what wise counsel can you offer to our younger brothers?


    Date DIN, but marry Sanjose/RaggedyMan...
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    Apr 24, 2014 6:07 AM GMT
    It does not get better.
    You have to MAKE it better.
    Don't take a passive approach to solving challenges in your life.
    Just do it.
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    Apr 24, 2014 6:11 AM GMT
    Never, ever, be afraid to be yourself. For you can never be true to others, unless you are true to yourself, and you can never truly love another, unless you love yourself.
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    Apr 24, 2014 11:26 AM GMT
    Little kids have to stand up to bullies and not listen when the bully threatens to kill you if you tell a teacher or parent that you're being beat up & threatened. In my case at age 9 I was being robbed of my lunch money every morning on my way to school for about 3 weeks. The bully & his two goons would hide behind a huge tree waiting for me. I was relieved of my money under threat of being beaten up. One day I got tired of it all and went to school without any money for lunch. I got the shit beat out of me. I limped home, bloody and bruised, but otherwise not hurt too badly.

    My grandfather was there (I lived with him) and he saw me struggling to walk, some blood oozing out of me here & there. It was Easter vacation so I had a week to recover (and train). A trainer was hired to work with me every day. By the time school resumed I was ready. I did as I was instructed: I walked right up to the bully and his goons and threw my books down (for effect mostly - no backpacks back then). I approached the main bully and hit him as hard as I possibly could - right between the eyes (I'd been trained that I had one shot). The bully went down, shocked, and bloodied. He couldn't get away fast enough. His goons ran for a teacher. They tattled - saying I was "crazy". Hahahaha. Nothing ever felt better! What I learned was to tell a teacher or parent. Don't hold it in and cause yourself an ulcer or sleepless nights. And if you have to - learn to fight and stand up for yourself. I was never bothered again - by anyone. Word got around all over my elementary school. My status went from victim/wimp to brave guy with a back bone.

    I wish I could help every little kid to avoid the Hell I went through for those three weeks. I almost wanted to just end it all and die - - - I was so scared and saw no way out - - - too afraid to tell anyone.
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    Apr 24, 2014 1:21 PM GMT
    xrichx saidIt does not get better.
    You have to MAKE it better.
    Don't take a passive approach to solving challenges in your life.
    Just do it.


    Don't pretend you know me...


    Shut up
  • Destinharbor

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    May 04, 2014 2:49 AM GMT
    Don't pick a career that requires climbing a ladder. Forge your own way. even if it means less money.
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    May 04, 2014 2:52 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidDon't pick a career that requires climbing a ladder. Forge your own way. even if it means less money.

    Forgers can make a lot of money.
  • Twistsstick

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    May 04, 2014 2:56 AM GMT
    Bikethere saidNever, ever, be afraid to be yourself. For you can never be true to others, unless you are true to yourself, and you can never truly love another, unless you love yourself.


    Well said, man.
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    May 04, 2014 3:55 AM GMT
    ok so marriage may become legal?

    that wont change day to day lives of gay kids in school being bullied.
    OP, actin like Dr Martin Luther King came down and declared everyone loves the gays now and all is well.

    gurll, please.