Where you a member of an LGBTq organization in college? Is it just for hook-up?

  • pharmstudent

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    Apr 24, 2014 5:16 AM GMT
    If so, what did you like bout it? What did you guys do? Is it just another hooking up spot?

    I'm asking this because a student on my campus, who's actually str8, wanted my help in starting the organization.
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    Apr 24, 2014 5:19 AM GMT
    Im about to be my senior year and I still haven't gone to my uni's lgbt organization. Ain't got time for that. #too much studying
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    Apr 24, 2014 5:23 AM GMT
    Never heard of them.
  • pharmstudent

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    Apr 24, 2014 5:30 AM GMT
    leafgreen saidIm about to be my senior year and I still haven't gone to my uni's lgbt organization. Ain't got time for that. #too much studying


    I don't either but i feel like it's an important organization to have on campus
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    Apr 24, 2014 5:43 AM GMT
    pharmstudent said
    leafgreen saidIm about to be my senior year and I still haven't gone to my uni's lgbt organization. Ain't got time for that. #too much studying


    I don't either but i feel like it's an important organization to have on campus


    I barely have time for the organization that's related to my major, LOL
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    Apr 24, 2014 5:49 AM GMT
    leafgreen saidIm about to be my senior year and I still haven't gone to my uni's lgbt organization. Ain't got time for that. #too much studying


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    Apr 24, 2014 7:44 AM GMT
    When I was an undergrad, I did go to an lgbt meeting and there wasn't many people there. This was in the 90's. I'm sure that now, the meetings have grown with a lot more in attendance. With that said, don't be surprise if the attendance is low at first. People are usually hesitant to attend new organizations specifically related to lgbt.

    Oh, and hot gay/bi guys attending these meetings are rare. I think they'd rather go party with the frat boys.
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    Apr 24, 2014 10:34 AM GMT
    "Identity" organizations on campus filled a need up until about the '90s. Now, between all of the Gay/Gay-friendly groups based on interests to be found in the major cities - and the boundary-free reach of the Internet - they seem pretty superfluous to me. For about ten years or so there's even been a social fraternity for Gay/bi guys, DLP, in existence at many schools.

    In their heyday (at least in Massachusetts) identity organizations attracted two specific and distinctive types: the club kids and the political activists. And in terms of the latter, there were often separate groups for lesbians because "that's how they are." icon_rolleyes.gif The majority of college men kept it on the low and hit the bars and/or scored by way of gym/tearoom cruising. And that was IF they'd acknowledged their orientation or preference. Even now that can be a big "if," especially in Bible Belt cities or any rural area.

    My reco would be to not launch an identity-based group, but rather to organize something around a specific issue like marriage equality. You could put more of a social spin on it by sponsoring events such as a "Meet Your Future Fiancé - Of Either Sex" dance party instead of sticking to meetings and info tables. The club kids would still have an outlet, the activist types would obviously be happy, and the closet cases would blend in with the straight allies. Win-win-win!
  • stratavos

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    Apr 24, 2014 2:31 PM GMT
    ... it's not for hook-ups. It's for being social. (hook-ups may happen, but don't walk in expecting to get some)
  • wellwell

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    Apr 24, 2014 2:56 PM GMT
    Always thought it aught to be; but actually, it's for bitching about heteros.
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    Apr 24, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    I wasn't out at university so no but the lgbt society was hugely influential in the student union and had a lot of representation on the student council. I would argue they had too much influence. One thing they did was create none gender specific toilets everywhere including in the student bar which was weird because I felt awkward weeing in the cubicle knowing it may be a woman in next one lol.
  • Fable

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    Apr 24, 2014 3:16 PM GMT
    I was in my uni's one. It's a great way to meet friends and socialise with other homos. icon_smile.gif

    I didn't hook up with anyone in it although you can if you want to. Do what you will.
  • Sportsfan1

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    Apr 24, 2014 6:29 PM GMT
    I was one of the founding members of my university's LGBT group. It was fairly radical at the time. It was not a pick-up place. We had lots of issues to fight, violence against us, discrimination, ignorance, fear, religious persecution and hostility in general. I am so happy to see that so many universities have LGBT groups and that they have endured. We only had a few brave straights even acknowledge us. We had to fight the university administration to even get recognized as a legitimate campus group. Times have indeed changed for the better. Best of luck to you!
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    Apr 24, 2014 6:37 PM GMT
    Its actually pretty great to be a part of my school's LGBT community. We have discussions about whats going on in politics.
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    Apr 24, 2014 7:05 PM GMT
    I belonged to the gay and lesbian group at my university. Gay and lesbian is what we called it back then, not lgbtq. Yes, we got together to discuss life, had parties, went to the bar together, but it was more than just a social group. We offered support to those just coming out and questioning. We protested to get a nondiscrimination policy for students and employees implemented at the school. We then protested the exemption given to the ROTC and protested to have the group removed from campus. We protested when Dan Quayle came to campus in 1988 to campaign, but most of our work was about gaining equality on campus and the local community because back them we didn't really imagine we'd ever see things like marriage equality. I made some good friends from in the group and all these years later still occasionally talk to a couple of them.

  • Apr 24, 2014 8:38 PM GMT
    pharmstudent saidIf so, what did you like bout it? What did you guys do? Is it just another hooking up spot?

    I'm asking this because a student on my campus, who's actually str8, wanted my help in starting the organization.


    Well there's one at my school and I'm a member of it. To answer your questions in order.

    1. I like the small close community they have evolved into. Granted, I'm hardly active in their events, meetings, etc. because of other things but that's one thing I do like about them.

    2. We do meetings (duh), events to spread awareness (also done in our Facebook group), that sort of thing.

    3.) I think that goes w/o saying for any organization. Just about any organization a person joins can be grounds for "hooking up" but as far as our group goes, I don't think it really is. If it is however, it's kept hidden pretty nicely lol
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    Apr 24, 2014 8:58 PM GMT
    I was a member of my college's GLBTQ group.

    I thought it was a great way to meet other GLBTQ students (and allies), participate with other like-minded people, help the GLBTQ community (as well as the campus community), and interact with others.

    I never viewed the group as a so-called "hookup" opportunity and if someone is in the organization just to hookup, then they need to find another group or download an app like Grindr or Scruff. I'm not saying that it never happened, but for those who joined the group, hooking up was never the main/primary purpose or focus.
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    Apr 24, 2014 8:59 PM GMT
    I was not out either during my bachelor's-collegiate years. But while a leader in my Black Student Union, I was the first to jointly arrange meetings with our Pride Student Union group (their office was right next door the whole time, but we generally avoided one another for years), and invited them (along with other student groups) to every one of our group meetings.

    Our town's human rights council chair was black and a gay male, and jointly holding meetings where he was the lead speaker made coordination easy. We also did coordinated posters honoring Barbara Jordan and Bayard Rustin during Black History and Women's History Month.

    I took a little internal flak and/or ribbing from a couple BSU members for "spending so much time" coordinating with Pride. But when our Black Student Union group was rewarded with the largest annual budget on campus because of our cross-campus outreach, the fussing died down quickly.
  • CSPYNY

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    Apr 24, 2014 10:00 PM GMT
    I was. And I was the Vice President at one point.

    Apparently *I* was just a big joke as I was "faking" being a straight acting gay guy. No socializing in it for me as I wasn't accepted as part of the group.
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    Apr 25, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
    cspyny saidI was. And I was the Vice President at one point.

    Apparently *I* was just a big joke as I was "faking" being a straight acting gay guy. No socializing in it for me as I wasn't accepted as part of the group.


    I would accept you X_X

    omg, what's with gays separating each other?
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    Apr 25, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    Fable saidI didn't hook up with anyone in it although you can if you want to. Do what you will.

    I'd have thought they'd have had you tied down to the table to be used at will.

    Not exactly hooking up I suppose more a "mascot"
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    Apr 25, 2014 1:11 AM GMT
    There actually is no lgbt community at my university. But I've met the some of the gay guys here.

    Unless you love unnecessary drama, they aren't the type of guys you would be friends with. It seems that almost every gay guy here is either extremely out or so down low that they overdo the whole masculinity thing.
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    Apr 25, 2014 5:09 AM GMT
    I wasn't really active on at my organization on campus. I came out a little late, 22, but yeah it was there. I did some volunteer with Frameline and the SF LGBT center for a while.
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    Apr 25, 2014 5:20 AM GMT
    I don't remember there being a gay group when I was first in college in the 70s, though a bunch of us were out at the time. We had at least two, maybe three gay bars near campus. At the time I was involved in environmental and peace groups. Also I remember hanging out with the Hare Krishna's. They used to serve a delicious lunch.

    I just looked up my old school's history of gay groups and found possibly why we had no gay group on campus back in the good ol' days...

    http://lgbt.multicultural.ufl.edu/about/history/
    ...Another important factor appears to be the legacy of the infamous Johns Committee, a Florida state senate committee that spent time between 1957 and the early 1960's at the University of Florida attempting to identify persons who were thought to be homosexuals. Homosexual behavior was illegal, and Committee members also believed that such persons were reprehensible and should not be part of the University of Florida....

    ...Finally in the early 1980's a group of lesbian and gay students formed the University of Florida Lesbian and Gay Society (UFLAGS) and became a registered student organization. When the group requested office space at the Reitz Union, members encountered much harassment and hostility. UFLAGS finally received limited office space, but members experienced on the general campus blatant discrimination, harassment, and homophobic acts such as derogatory posters and other printed materials. After unrelenting harassment and loss of office space, several members decided to form an off-campus organization entitled Gay and Lesbian Student Union (GLSU)....


    I went back to school in the mid 80s, so there probably were gay groups by then but my involvement took the form of one of the section editors on the student newspaper.

    At my 30-year high school reunion a bunch of us took a walking tour through town and hit the high school after hours. And we found a door open so of course we let ourselves in. What I found there made me so happy, an office decorated with rainbow flags. It was their gay-str8 alliance housed right on the main corridor. I couldn't have felt more proud of my old town.

    OP, if you've an opportunity to start a gay organization at your school, particularly if none yet exist there, I think that would be a wonderful experience.
  • CSPYNY

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    Apr 26, 2014 12:20 PM GMT
    leafgreen said
    cspyny saidI was. And I was the Vice President at one point.

    Apparently *I* was just a big joke as I was "faking" being a straight acting gay guy. No socializing in it for me as I wasn't accepted as part of the group.


    I would accept you X_X

    omg, what's with gays separating each other?


    Thanks icon_biggrin.gif

    The LGTBQ community is very divided.

    Gay people often don't accept bisexuals.

    Trans people never seem to get along with gay people.