Dating-How Frequently to See Guy

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    Apr 25, 2014 1:51 AM GMT
    So I've been dating a guy for almost 10 months now. He's a very busy professional (even busier than me) and about 10 years older than me. Occasionally he makes the effort to see me once during the week (but usually not). Rather, visits are limited to Friday and/or Saturday evenings, despite the fact that we live quite close. We do text everyday. Should I be worried about this? It seems that at this point, more time together would be normal, but I'm not sure.
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    Apr 25, 2014 2:04 AM GMT
    10 months is a really long time to be dating someone.

    Seeing each other once a week while dating is usually OK. But after 10 months... I don't know..

    You should ask and see what he considers you.
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    Apr 25, 2014 2:05 AM GMT
    Try meeting for lunch on a week day
    Cook him diner at his place again on a week day

    If he asks why you are doing this tell him what you posted here



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    Apr 25, 2014 2:33 AM GMT
    Once a week is perfect, for the first 2 months, but maybe it's under kill after the first 2 IMHO. Very busy professional or not, can't he make time to grab a coffee with you and see your face? Just a bit of time? Even 1 or 2 hours only?
    I see my date once a week now, but I don't call him a BF yet because it's too early atm to see the pattern of the relationship, because this won't work with me in a couple of months from now.
    My point is, if he wants to see you, he will make time. Excuses to me are bullshit.
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    Apr 25, 2014 12:45 PM GMT
    You have a pen pal, not a boyfriend. It sounds like he's content just having someone there to chat with. Tell him you would like to move the relationship towards a more romantic level and see what he says.
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    Apr 25, 2014 4:25 PM GMT
    willocdh saidSo I've been dating a guy for almost 10 months now. He's a very busy professional (even busier than me) and about 10 years older than me. Occasionally he makes the effort to see me once during the week (but usually not). Rather, visits are limited to Friday and/or Saturday evenings, despite the fact that we live quite close. We do text everyday. Should I be worried about this? It seems that at this point, more time together would be normal, but I'm not sure.

    Successful professional people have very busy lives - and often work long hours. I assume this is the case with your date. If you are spending most weekend nights together, and you have only been dating for a month - that's not such a bad average. "He makes an effort to see me during the week." Do you make an effort to see him? Is he traveling? If not, how does he react to your asking to sleep over at his place during the week? (If he has a busy life, I'm sure it is easier for him to have you spend the night there than vice versa.) Or maybe his work schedule is just so tight, that he needs to spend more time working at home in the evenings as well? I would give that a try, and not worry much at this early stage of dating.
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    Apr 25, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    Didn't you post another thread with the same question?

    Not sure why need to post the same thing again and again

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3794073