Natural Aggression During... Sexual Activities.

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    Apr 25, 2014 8:56 AM GMT
    I'm a little embarrassed to ask this. Since i try to not get too crazy on here. But what are opinions on aggressive sex?

    Something deep down i love, is aggressive sexual activity. I mean like the kind where a guy would let me pick him up, horse play with him, talk filthy, wrestle him, pin him down and make it like a gym session.

    I had to ease into telling my last bf about this. I didn't want to heavily pressure him or anything. Cause he was a 5'2 a slim Vietnamese guy... and me being a 6'5 monster compared to him. I could see why he would say no icon_lol.gif

    Eventually he learned to really get into it and let me be an animal. And we had fun with it and had some good laughs as well.

    Do y'all think it's bad to be overly aggressive in sex?? how would you talk to your partner about it? in a way that doesn't make it sound scary or crazy. Whenever i do have another relationship someday. I want to have a healthy discussion about it.

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    Apr 25, 2014 9:04 AM GMT
    What ever makes your boat float and is consensual is kewl by me.

    I run the whole range when it comes to sex, from gentle and passionate, aggressive and all the way down to cheap filthy whore.

    Sex is suppose to be fun and liberating not a narrow perception.

    So if it does it for you and the other guy is into it and wants to do it as well then bloody well go there.

    Just don't hurt anyone or force anyone in the process.
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    Apr 25, 2014 1:27 PM GMT
    You're doing everything right like you said you discuss it first with any partners so have fun icon_smile.gif

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    Apr 25, 2014 4:00 PM GMT
    I want it to be a fun experience for both. Only thing is i can REALLY get into it, and i know some guys can't handle or don't like that.

    Not to be tMI, but i love yelling and doing practically a drill sergeant thing lol icon_redface.gif But making love is nice! as well of course.

    How would you talk to this with a partner though? with my last bf it was kind of awkward. I was basically like ''so would you be ok with me being a beast every once in awhile?'' icon_redface.gificon_lol.gif
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    Apr 25, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    I just read a Kindle book called "His Roommates Pleasure"....take a look at it, OP.
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    Apr 25, 2014 9:25 PM GMT
    lifeduringwartime23 saidHow would you talk to this with a partner though? with my last bf it was kind of awkward. I was basically like ''so would you be ok with me being a beast every once in awhile?'' icon_redface.gificon_lol.gif

    hahaha I have yet to meet a guy who wasn't turned on by my aggressive side.

    But then I don't tend to talk about it before hand because it's not exceptionally extreme.

    In your case I'd probably just tell them I like being rough in these particular ways and then slowly ease them into it until they are squealing for more.

    My experience has been guys are a hell of a lot more willing to try things in bed then what I've heard of the ladies. Especially when it isn't gross hahaha.
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    Apr 26, 2014 5:40 AM GMT
    Sounds like you guys are really having good loving fucking.

    I recommend grapeseed oil lube, to get it started, then turn on the music.

    Tommy
  • takashi

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    Apr 26, 2014 6:10 PM GMT
    Uhh...I love it when my man gets aggressive.

    I am like your bf, 5'3" and slim.
    Some of my men when I see them they just pick me up and sling me over their shoulder and carry me to the bedroom. They take my clothes off and if I resist, then its really on!
    I love it when a big man dominates me. I love their strong arms. I love it when they squeeze me so hard that I almost can't breathe.
    But its not like that all the time and once we finish off that aggressive sex, we calm down and get into love making, which is wonderful.
    There have been times though, when he had his big hands on my neck. He doesn't squeeze but still...
  • TaurusBoy21

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    May 10, 2014 7:47 PM GMT
    That sounds pretty hot OP.
    I would love some aggression in the bed, but the guys I've messed with seem to treat me as a fragile doll or something and lack any aggressiveness
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    May 10, 2014 9:16 PM GMT
    TaurusBoy21 saidThat sounds pretty hot OP.
    I would love some aggression in the bed, but the guys I've messed with seem to treat me as a fragile doll or something and lack any aggressiveness


    Have you ever asked them about it? or told them you would like them to be more aggressive?
  • TaurusBoy21

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    May 10, 2014 10:57 PM GMT
    I have, even say "fuck me harder" during intercourse..
    But nothing changes. I gave up on him and moved on.
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    May 11, 2014 1:34 AM GMT
    I'm into aggressive sex and even aggression alone tends to get me fired up. The animal inside is the same one that comes out when training, sparing or sex.

    Spent a lot of time when I was younger getting embarrassed about it and I had some worries that getting hard from aggression and guys squaring up was abnormal and deviant. It's just another aspect of sexuality and there is not anything wrong with it. Size difference is no problem and is a big plus in a lot of hookups. I'm not tall but often 2 to 3'times heavier than the other guy.

    There are loads of guys who are into being taken very roughly, but the key is to be open about it from the start. Then you tend to only deal with the guys who are into similar and it's just a matter of sorting out limits - which can be a lot more difficult. Really important to be crystal clear before you meet up. Also be very careful with people who are survivors of abuse as they can be a little mixed minded when it come to what they really want. Very young inexperienced guys need a little caution too as they often seem to have seen some aggressive porn but don't understand what it feels like.

    I draw the line at not injuring people (that would be lasting and non cosmetic beyond a few days - bleeding noses, minor cuts or bruises are fine) yet I have been approached by guys wanting me to visit more serious damage on them - broken bones, etc. I have had a few bleeding noses, trips to hospital for stitches and the odd one or two bite injuries.

    Just embrace what you are and enjoy, be upfront and open with guys from the outset, establish each others limits ( amber and red zones ) before meeting and then unleash the beast.