Commitment , is it bit early?

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    Apr 26, 2014 6:26 AM GMT
    I dated this guy thrice now. No kiss no sex yet. Found him on grindr. His profile was decent and so he is. Now he talks about commitment and relationship. Ofcourse he is not pushing hard for it but thats what he want. I am not saying that I am not open for relationship but I am confused if its the right the time to say yes? What if we dont find eachother compatible on bed. Please advise how should I deal with this guy?
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    Apr 26, 2014 12:09 PM GMT
    Be frank with him and say a committed relationship includes sex and sleeping together. And since that hasn't happened yet you can't go further than remaining friends with him. He may think that's a ploy to have sex, but I honestly think it's a fair thing to expect. Maybe not immediately, but before you go on to a commitment, otherwise you're putting the cart before the horse.

    I've actually encountered some bedroom situations that turned an otherwise "possible" guy into a "no-go". You have a right to get the full picture first. And if he resists the idea you must consider the possibility that he's got something like HIV he's keeping from you.
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    Apr 27, 2014 4:07 AM GMT
    Thats correct! In fact I am worried about the same. I have told him all about myself. That included the bad and good both. I asked him about his past for which he said that he had a normal past. Later, he said that he dont want to mess up the present so he don't want to talk about his past. Now thats more complicated. .
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    Apr 29, 2014 10:57 AM GMT
    leo_ saidI asked him about his past for which he said that he had a normal past. Later, he said that he dont want to mess up the present so he don't want to talk about his past.

    ..... That sounds...reassuring... Anyway, this is something i've never really understood, the pressure on sex to build a commited relationship. Come on dude, this is a new relationship, still in the early stages. I don't think you should be so hung up on sex yet. Yes, it's an important aspect of the relationship, especially if you want things to go longterm. But be careful not to fixate on it so much you end up missing out on a great guy just because he felt pressured into bed after a few weeks of knowing you. In anycase, his not wanting to bring up the past just yet doesn't necessarily mean he's has something, there's a bunch of legitimate possibilities. All in all, take it one day at a time and dont worry so much. Just enjoy what you have.
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    Apr 30, 2014 6:12 PM GMT
    Hey that was a cool advice. So... he told me about his past. Was nothing more serious than an one sided live. N.. I am ofcourse dating him. (Without sex). Lets see where it ends.