I Think I Have a Solid Answer

  • Joeyphx444

    Posts: 2387

    Apr 26, 2014 1:41 PM GMT
    To the question everybody dislikes

    "So, why are you single?"

    My co-worker said why her dates rarely turn into relationships. This answer made me feel the same way and can very well be the answer to this question for me.

    A lot people say, "well, I am picky" or "I have high expectations", etc. This is a very vague and boring answer. What does being picky even mean? You could be picky about a few things or everything. It's like answering "I like nice guys" to the question of what type of guys do you like icon_razz.gif

    So to avoid answering with something stupid, I have decided that the main reason I can identify in myself for being single is the fact that I do not tolerate things like other people seem to. I do not let people walk all over me and if they do, I let them know. I have been described as "intense" and I do agree. I get passionate about things and that shows in my personality. It especially shows when I am being tested. A lot of men don't seem to like that. Most guys want laid-back, chill type guys. Not saying ALL guys are like this but they don't want a strong personality. They want to be able to do whatever they want and not have to worry about being called out on a mistake or something they said. I am quick to call out BS and can sense interest or lack of. I shut it down quick and if I make a mistake in calling it out, I can recognize that and apologize.

    I don't say I have high expectations at all. Damn, if wanting someone who is caring, who has common sense, consideration and can communicate effectively is high expectations, then I am screwed. Those things are simple and should almost be automatic yet so many guys lack that.

    I am definitely not going to change any of this. I may lower the guard down a little with someone I really like, but my senses do not shut down because of that. I think I am strong and guys see that I am not willing to compromise/sacrifice these traits to be with them and they may dislike that. I think it's something I have developed, as do most people as they age. I used to be a good target just because I was small and seemed weak and quiet. Also, I am and still am sensitive and a lover but when you open a relationship with that, it doesn't work in your favor. And that is the reason I am single and have not had a long term boyfriend.
  • jo2hotbod

    Posts: 3606

    Apr 26, 2014 2:13 PM GMT
    Or when you find the guy you like none of that will matter
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    Apr 26, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    I'm still single because I hate to fit other people's molds. I am who I am.
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    Apr 26, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    Your profile says "Moved to AZ for ASU and just stayed ever since!!"

    Given how dramatic the first part of your life was, I think you need to move around a bit more and meet different people. Have some more adventures, see more of the world, develop your career and intellectual pursuits. After that, I'm pretty sure the relationship you desire will appear.

    I would hate to see you spend the rest of your days in Scottsdale. It's a nice place, but it should be a "finish line" and not a "starting gate" for anyone with intelligence and curiosity.