Domination

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    Jan 02, 2009 12:02 AM GMT
    i just want to know just 4 fun do u like to be the dominant one in a relationship.

    i don't because; wwwwwweeeeeeeeeellllllllllllllllllllllllllllll just because
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    Jan 02, 2009 6:48 AM GMT
    Yeah, definitely. I can have an...aggressive...temperament. Ask anyone LOL. That said, i'm not very well matched with submissive or timid guys. My boyfriend is pretty headstrong too, so we're a fairly even match. I think the constant give-and-take is part of what is so rewarding in our relationship. I've always liked a little fight and spunk in a person, whether they be lovers or friends.


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    Jan 02, 2009 7:27 AM GMT
    zdrew saidYeah, definitely. I can have an...aggressive...temperament. Ask anyone LOL. That said, i'm not very well matched with submissive or timid guys. My boyfriend is pretty headstrong too, so we're a fairly even match. I think the constant give-and-take is part of what is so rewarding in our relationship. I've always liked a little fight and spunk in a person, whether they be lovers or friends.

    Indeed, who wants a pushover.. give me a guy who isn't afraid to speak his mind, tell me what he wants...

    And if we butt heads and have wild rough brutal makeup sex... all the better
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    Jan 02, 2009 7:43 AM GMT
    To be fair, I don't automatically equate submission in a relationship with being a pushover. It's all about knowing when to bend (pun fully intended). I'm sure you'll agree, Mr. Tanker, that sometimes there's nothing hotter than having your punk ass put in it's place.
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    Jan 02, 2009 8:22 AM GMT
    zdrew saidTo be fair, I don't automatically equate submission in a relationship with being a pushover. It's all about knowing when to bend (pun fully intended). I'm sure you'll agree, Mr. Tanker, that sometimes there's nothing hotter than having your punk ass put in it's place.

    oh very true, however, I've found, that those who are umm, less inclined i suppose to say what they want, tend to be a push over.

    I'm all for being submissive icon_razz.gif and I'll bend to someones will as much as I'll fight someone, but, guys who immediately just start following there partner tend to be a push over.. difficult to explain, like you, I like someone who is head strong, independent and so on, but being able to give each other what they want isn't being submissive, its more just a willingness to give as much as you get... now, if your talking.. umm.. in the sack, well, all that goes out the window ;)
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    Jan 02, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    I try to put in all that I can into a relationship. So, I like my guy to do the same. I want opinions, challenges, and someone who will divebomb my dinner plans with an urge to make quiche. Even if we are just talking a little power play in the bedroom, I find submission to be dull. The struggle is where the fun is at.
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    Jan 02, 2009 3:22 PM GMT
    I'm ok with compromise in general. There are somethings I am steadfast on, others I don't have an opinion one way or another.
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    Jan 02, 2009 4:26 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    zdrew saidTo be fair, I don't automatically equate submission in a relationship with being a pushover. It's all about knowing when to bend (pun fully intended). I'm sure you'll agree, Mr. Tanker, that sometimes there's nothing hotter than having your punk ass put in it's place.

    oh very true, however, I've found, that those who are umm, less inclined i suppose to say what they want, tend to be a push over.

    I'm all for being submissive icon_razz.gif and I'll bend to someones will as much as I'll fight someone, but, guys who immediately just start following there partner tend to be a push over.. difficult to explain, like you, I like someone who is head strong, independent and so on, but being able to give each other what they want isn't being submissive, its more just a willingness to give as much as you get... now, if your talking.. umm.. in the sack, well, all that goes out the window ;)


    makeup sex is always good
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    Jan 02, 2009 4:42 PM GMT
    I don't want a relationship with a "dominant one." I'd like to date an equal (equal in and out of bed).
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    Jan 02, 2009 4:50 PM GMT
    Outside the bedroom, I'd want to have an equal relationship--Compromise , respect, & understanding... balanced with assertiveness & personal opinions.

    In the bedroom--as a virgin--I think I'd like to be the submissive one.

    I also have a werid fantasy though that is not a necessity but would be nice: In emergency situatuions, I'd want to be the protective one--the stronger one... his Knight in Shinning Armor. If he were in trouble I'd protect him and give my life for him. I'd protect and block him from a gang of thugs for example.

    But that is a heroic fantasy I have for some psychological reason.

    PS: I feel like a weirdo now lol
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    Jan 02, 2009 4:55 PM GMT



    Submission = weakness, push-over, dull.

    It takes a fearsome strength to accede to the whims of another AND be gracious about it. It's all about giving freedoms to each other, and license with each other, not taking or demanding them.

    One thing about some dominant types is that they can forget themselves and the 'dominance' play becomes 'over-bearing obnoxious'.
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    Jan 02, 2009 5:01 PM GMT
    Well I've had one bf and he is a dominant kind of individual.....
    Our issues can be challenging as I'm equally as much and we have real go arounds at times. I don't put up with being pushed and we have a give and take... the real reason for success is that if the discussion at hand isn't important to me, I tend to say so and he does the same. If it is more important, I'm more emphatic.

    Largest issue: We are both used to making decisions, living the way we like and view our practice as the best. We have to compromise.