Have you ever offended some one on a dating website by JUST messaging them?!!

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    Apr 28, 2014 12:09 PM GMT
    So, this has happened to me. When i was in India, i messaged this guy on a gay dating website and it was just a simple 'hi how r u' kinda message.

    He got so offended that 'some one like me' messaged him. In other words, 'i cannot believe i got a message from a person as ugly as you'. He abused me and blocked me. and i got very hurt.

    I got so upset that i deleted my profile then and have never been able to muster courage to go to a dating website again.

    Has this ever happened with you? That when you message some one and they tell you 'look at me , look at you, seriously?' or messages on these lines, where they get offended just because you messaged them because they consider you damn ugly.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 28, 2014 12:22 PM GMT
    I've never had that kind of experience and I'm sure few here have. The only thing "ugly" can be tagged to is this prick's behavior.. which is atypical.

    You need to try again, don't let this unfortunate experience dictate your views on sites like this..
    I say, get in there and give it a shot, put the negative behind you.
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    Apr 28, 2014 12:36 PM GMT
    Did he actually say "someone as ugly as you" or are you putting words in his mouth due to low self esteem?
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    Apr 28, 2014 4:52 PM GMT
    He sounds like a jackass.

    Unfortunately, there -is- a pretty decent collection of jackasses out there in the world.

    That said? There's also a very respectable collection of awesome people out there too.

    Don't give up cuz one jackass decided to do what they do best, man. It's his loss and it's his malfunction, not yours.
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    Apr 29, 2014 4:33 AM GMT
    It's not always a jackass thing to do. I often prefer someone to be honest with me instead of someone chatting to me and thinking of ways to put me off or get rid of me. Plus I'm not overly looks driven so if someone else is we are unlikely to be compatible.
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    Apr 30, 2014 2:04 PM GMT
    I messaged someone who mentioned on his profile that he had a profile on Guardian soulmates. I asked if he liked reading the Guardian (because I do). He actually changed his profile to say that he didn't read the Guardian icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Apr 30, 2014 2:17 PM GMT
    Ohno saidI messaged someone who mentioned on his profile that he had a profile on Guardian soulmates. I asked if he liked reading the Guardian (because I do). He actually changed his profile to say that he didn't read the Guardian icon_rolleyes.gif
    wtf is that
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    Apr 30, 2014 2:44 PM GMT
    _Behemoth_ said
    Ohno saidI messaged someone who mentioned on his profile that he had a profile on Guardian soulmates. I asked if he liked reading the Guardian (because I do). He actually changed his profile to say that he didn't read the Guardian icon_rolleyes.gif
    wtf is that


    It's a British newspaper and website for liberal pansies icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 30, 2014 3:26 PM GMT
    Of course!icon_lol.gif

    I'm considered unworthy because of my age. I swish when I walk and my hair is too long. You just need to get a thicker skin and move on when you're turfed.
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    Apr 30, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    No...
  • craycraydoesd...

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    May 01, 2014 2:36 AM GMT
    it happens when I hit on younger guys at clubs, which is disappointing because they think I'm one of those older men who hit on less-attractive young guys in the hopes that they are easier, when the truth is that I simply think they're attractive, and am not necessarily looking for the most masculine guy in the room either.
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    May 01, 2014 2:42 AM GMT
    If he did really said that, then you obviously met a wrong Indian!

    Coming to me, I never got those kinda msgs.
    On second thought, I think that's because I rarely text a stranger unless I find them interesting or I know something about them.
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    May 01, 2014 4:05 AM GMT
    It's never happened to me, but I can tell you one thing for sure, without even seeing your picture. It's not about your looks. It's about his ugly personality.