What is a "good man"?

  • Eli_jah

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    Apr 29, 2014 1:16 AM GMT
    More importantly, what kind of man are you looking for?

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    Apr 29, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
    See previous thread
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    Apr 29, 2014 1:17 AM GMT
    A good man is a man that's good. Duh
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    Apr 29, 2014 1:19 AM GMT
    I've heard he's hard to find.
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    Apr 29, 2014 1:22 AM GMT
    Roseanne's husband.
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    Apr 29, 2014 1:23 AM GMT
    Snaz saidSee previous thread


    Which one, snaz? No link?



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    Apr 29, 2014 1:24 AM GMT
    Dopeamine saidMore importantly, what kind of man are you looking for?



    Here's one Dopeamine. I think this is what snaz was referring to:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3765150
  • Eli_jah

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    Apr 29, 2014 1:31 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    Dopeamine saidMore importantly, what kind of man are you looking for?



    Here's one Dopamine. I think this is what snaz was referring to:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3765150


    Cool.
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    Apr 29, 2014 1:32 AM GMT
    I read the OPs username like Dopamine.
  • Eli_jah

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    Apr 29, 2014 2:31 AM GMT
    kevex saidI read the OPs username like Dopamine.


    Yeah, it's a pun. Dopamine is an excitatory neurotransmitter and also a drug. So... Dopeamine, lol.
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    Apr 29, 2014 3:14 AM GMT
    I write from a tablet fffff no linking tilI get laptop
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    Apr 29, 2014 3:29 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidRoseanne's husband.

    I honestly wouldnt mind having someone like Dan Conner as a husband. . .just like 200 lbs skinnier.
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    Apr 29, 2014 4:33 AM GMT
    Snaz saidI write from a tablet fffff no linking tilI get laptop

    touch hold copy
    touch hold paste
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    Apr 29, 2014 4:54 AM GMT
    Import said
    Iceblink saidRoseanne's husband.

    I honestly wouldnt mind having someone like Dan Conner as a husband. . .just like 200 lbs skinnier.

    I have a Don Conner. Doesn't look like him, but is good man like him and kind of rough around the edges.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 29, 2014 5:06 PM GMT
    I think of a "good man" as someone who is grounded, friendly, reliable, thinks of others, honest, hard working,
    flexible, communicative and open minded. Lots of words that point to someone who I want to be around.

    Notice that "looks" don't figure in, imagine that...lol

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    Apr 29, 2014 7:24 PM GMT
    If we're talking about traits alone, honesty and loyalty are probably at the top of my list. The honest ones tend to have the longest shelf-life.

    The rest is really up to chemistry. I've dated a few different types of guys and while some worked better than others, I wouldn't say that I have a strong preferable 'type', as all of them were different in some way.
  • Kinneticbrian

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    Apr 29, 2014 11:04 PM GMT
    For me it's all about chemistry which I can't really define. I tend to keep my mind and heart open to options and really just try to be the boyfriend I want from someone else.

    It's amazing how my attitude on this all has changed over the past few years. I'm truly embarrassed that I placed such a high value on "pretty" looks for so long and didn't give a damn about anything else. This is what I did and I was wrong.

    I'd have to say that I'd like someone who believes in wellness as passionately as I do. Physically, someone who I can work out opposite of or with and who can push me as I push him to reach our goals. One of my friends at the gym came over the other day with a huge grin on his face and told me how he'd just achieved a new max bench and how great he felt. Seeing that joy made my day. I'd like to share such an achievement with a boyfriend.

    Someone who believes in being genuinely friendly, outgoing and who has his own personality, complete with quirks. A sense of silliness, whimsy and humor is mandatory. This guy would have no shortage of "guy humor" and be willing to dish it and take it all in fun.

    I'd like someone who values loyalty and trust, and who is willing to build a friendship and relationship on the foundations of mutual respect and admiration. My ideal guy would be someone I could give total capability to destroy me but trust him enough to know he wouldn't.

    Someone who is passionate about giving back, being compassionate to younger guys who (like we all were once) don't know their ass from their elbow and those who are decidedly more vintage who not only blazed the trail, but paved the roads we now enjoy.

    I'd like a guy to share a bowl of popcorn with, to annoy the hell out of and who will annoy me back. Someone to whom the words "compassion" and "meaningful" aren't just buzzwords.

    Someone with a sense of adventure and open-mindedness, who'd be willing to ride roller coasters one day and go to a nude beach the next.

    I don't look for all of these things, just some of them. And it's truly a frustratingly fun process to meet new people and see who's out there.
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    Apr 30, 2014 5:54 AM GMT
    Probably someone our own high standards blind us from getting to know.
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    Apr 30, 2014 5:59 AM GMT
    A good man is not a man who's gay.
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    Apr 30, 2014 7:53 PM GMT
    A good man:

    Out of the closet
    Great, awesome guy
    has a job, career, stable
    great, kind, sweet, non-judgmental, non racist
    preferably cultured, educated and close with his family

    These are some general traits I tend to look for in a man. But it's hard to find a gay dude like this.


  • JustaRealMan

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    May 02, 2014 2:09 AM GMT
    I am a good man

    Tommy
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    May 02, 2014 5:46 PM GMT
    ElectroShark saidI've heard he's hard to find.
    But good to find hard.
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    May 02, 2014 5:54 PM GMT
    canadian_stud saidA good man is not a man who's gay.

    You are in Berlin, about the gayest city in europe, seeking a boyfriend, and you think gay men are not "good." I suppose there must be some evil gay guys in Berlin that could accommodate you. Du bist schwul, aber auch ein bißchen verrückt?