For me it's all about chemistry which I can't really define. I tend to keep my mind and heart open to options and really just try to be the boyfriend I want from someone else.
It's amazing how my attitude on this all has changed over the past few years. I'm truly embarrassed that I placed such a high value on "pretty" looks for so long and didn't give a damn about anything else. This is what I did and I was wrong.
I'd have to say that I'd like someone who believes in wellness as passionately as I do. Physically, someone who I can work out opposite of or with and who can push me as I push him to reach our goals. One of my friends at the gym came over the other day with a huge grin on his face and told me how he'd just achieved a new max bench and how great he felt. Seeing that joy made my day. I'd like to share such an achievement with a boyfriend.
Someone who believes in being genuinely friendly, outgoing and who has his own personality, complete with quirks. A sense of silliness, whimsy and humor is mandatory. This guy would have no shortage of "guy humor" and be willing to dish it and take it all in fun.
I'd like someone who values loyalty and trust, and who is willing to build a friendship and relationship on the foundations of mutual respect and admiration. My ideal guy would be someone I could give total capability to destroy me but trust him enough to know he wouldn't.
Someone who is passionate about giving back, being compassionate to younger guys who (like we all were once) don't know their ass from their elbow and those who are decidedly more vintage who not only blazed the trail, but paved the roads we now enjoy.
I'd like a guy to share a bowl of popcorn with, to annoy the hell out of and who will annoy me back. Someone to whom the words "compassion" and "meaningful" aren't just buzzwords.
Someone with a sense of adventure and open-mindedness, who'd be willing to ride roller coasters one day and go to a nude beach the next.
I don't look for all of these things, just some of them. And it's truly a frustratingly fun process to meet new people and see who's out there.