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    Apr 29, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    Let's face it. Guys aren't that good at sex. We didn't learn it in school. We don't like to talk about it. We hate having to prepare for it. We just know we want it.

    It's time to change all that. Time to create a generation of great fuckers. So, let's get started.

    Bottoms, what was the absolute best experience you've ever had with a top? What made your eyes pop out of your head with pleasure? What did he do that left you begging for more? How did he get you to shoot all over the ceiling? Was he dominant? Gentle? Aggressive? Passive? Did he stimulate you in places you didn't know were places?

    In short, bottoms, what did the best top you've ever had do to thrill you?

    See also companion thread:
    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3800815
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    Apr 29, 2014 7:03 PM GMT
    Yes, I know. This topic has been covered before. But I think we have much more to say. Here are some of the best old posts to get you started:

    iHavok saidThe secret to being a GREAT top is paying attention to your bottom.
    Listen to his breathing, be aware of how he's moving his body, facial expressions, his hard on, anything that gives u subtle clues as to how you are doing, and adjust accordingly.

    No one technique works well for everyone, but if you pay attention you will do well and have fun.

    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidOne that's willing to toss my salad for half an hour before he sticks it in.

    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidDifferent things get different people off. Some people like their tops to whisper sweet things in their ear, other people like to be roughed around and called a pig. If you have a steady partner, figuring out what they like, being open to new experiences, and an imagination will all make you a great top. If we are just talking about one offs, confidence and attentiveness will serve you well when servicing others.

    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidA good top is dominant, aggressive and takes charge of the encounter without being a jerk. You tell the bottom what you want, what you're going to do and what you want him to do for you.

    rezdylan saidThe best tops I've been with know how to relinquish control when the bottom wants the power.

    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidThe anus's largest concentration of nerves are around the sphincter. Deep is good but girth or special attention to that region will win every time. The ol grind N swirl'll is a great seigway into some hard core action. Abruptly stop thrusting, then slowly pull out, and teast with your head. Then *painstakingly control yourself upon SLOW full re-entry, and then press in and grind and kinda roll your hips in circles. I gurantee you'll see some hella response!! Remember variations in speed, angle, depth, and pressure are very important for a happy bottom!

    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidA good lover is someone that works with you to get the two (or more) of you off. Maybe that means hitting the bottom's prostate from a certain angle, maybe that means having tacos before shitting on a glass coffee table. The only universal rule is pay attention.

    Ironman4U saidIt's really simple, I think...you give the bottom exactly what they need, want and crave. You fulfill the fantasy...you find out and pay attention to what turns them on and then you deliver (whether it's hard, pounding sweaty fucking or slow and passionate lovemaking...whether it's dominant and aggressive or sensuous and mutual...)

    It all boils down to being focused on making sure your partner is having the time of their life. I, personally, love making sure that I'm giving them something that they aren't going to get from a more selfish or less-experienced lover. Being able to last for hours and hours always helps too!

    Guy101 saidPay attention to your bottom. Listen to the sounds that are being made and don't just make it about you. Make it about him. If you do that he'll be eager to please.

    There is no one technique that will guarantee you success but it really helps if you switch your positions up and your pace. Know how to tease, be playful, be dominating, be submissive (some bottoms like to be in control) and above all show confidence in your ability.

    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidAs a top, you need to do a bunch of things.

    1) Take control when the bottom wants you to take control. As in, don't assume your bottom wants to get taken control of the whole time. If you have discussed with your bottom before sex about who should be taking control and the bottom says that he wants you to be in control the whole time then go for it. However, if you did not talk with your bottom before hand, then you need to be aware of his mood during certain phases. I know with my bf, he likes to be in control during some phases when he is bottoming.

    2) React to the expressions and emotions the bottom is giving you. If you find your bottom moaning when you are in a certain position then you know they are enjoying that position, if their dick is erect then you know you are hitting the spot. You really need to experiment with this and eventually, you will find out that your bottom prefers certain positions over other ones.

    3) Communicate your satisfaction with moans and kisses! Moan when you feel pleasure and kiss your bottom frequently. It will make the bottom enjoy bottoming even more.

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    Apr 29, 2014 7:06 PM GMT
    A Hidden/Deleted Member saidDefinitely vary the speed and depth of your thrusts. One technique I like to do is to go all the way in, then pull out really really slowly, an inch at a time until just the head is still inside, then pump forward several quick shallow thrusts then finish off with another really deep, grinding thrust. You'll really enjoy that too!

    Also, as others have said, switch up positions! Different guys are going to like different things and a lot depends on the angle and size of your dick when hard, if you don't want them to cum too soon then don't start with a position that heavily stimulates their prostate.

    Again, already been said but don't just fuck a guy like you are pumping an inanimate object - stimulate them all over, touch their dick, their balls, their nipples, run your hands up and down their body, kiss/lick/bite their neck and earlobes - go to town! If you can't quite get the hang of doing some of these things while still thrusting then just rest inside him for a minute while you do, no harm in that.

    Another thing that I've found drives bottoms wild is when you're all (or most) of the way in, squeeze your PC muscles so your dick does a bit of a flex/swell - I have strong PC muscles as I train them up daily and this goes down well - you can just slide in and pulse away while you enjoy their body, or you can thrust, pulse, pull out, thrust, pulse, pull out to drive them wild.

    Aside from all that, being a good top is reliant on you being able to read your bottom - their body language, signals and vocals, so you know what they are enjoying and when it is uncomfortable/painful for them. Unfortunately this is just down to practice! Not all bottoms will enjoy you grabbing their thighs and jackhammering their assholes into oblivion.

    Also, practical advice - make sure you have decent lube and condom to hand so you are ready to rock and roll when the time comes. And if you're not used to putting a condom on yourself, practice! It should only take a few seconds from packet to penetration.


    Have fun!!
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    Apr 29, 2014 7:27 PM GMT
    Bottoms: what's the best experience you've ever had with a top?

    Answer: A marriage proposal.

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    Apr 29, 2014 7:41 PM GMT
    shortbutsweet saidLet's face it. Guys aren't that good at sex.


    HUH? I think you might be doing something wrong or meeting the wrong guys. It's rare I have sex that isn't good and quite often it's phenomenal.
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    Apr 29, 2014 8:18 PM GMT
    ^^^ All the sex I have is toe-curling, mind-blowing, shoot-the-ceiling phenomenol. But I'm a Taurus. We invented lovemaking. This thread is for the other 11/12 who aren't so lucky. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 30, 2014 1:47 AM GMT
    shortbutsweet said^^^ All the sex I have is toe-curling, mind-blowing, shoot-the-ceiling phenomenol. But I'm a Taurus. We invented lovemaking. This thread is for the other 11/12 who aren't so lucky. icon_wink.gif


    Bitch paaaaaleazzze.....I'm the Scorpio! icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 30, 2014 2:37 AM GMT
    ^^^ I should have known. Scorpios invented passion. Taureans invented intimacy. Together they're off the charts. Trust me.

    So, this thread is for the other 10/12.