Grindr, A4A and Love.

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    Apr 30, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    Okay, so you've been dating a guy for a few weeks, things are going great, eventually you guys have the dreadful "Exclusivity Talk" and before you know it, it's a official.

    How do you feel about your partner now going on Grindr/A4A "just to look" or "just for friends"? Are these indicative signs of a loving relationship or can they coexist with one? Do you yourself feel that it's alright for you to peruse Grindr while you're in a relationship?

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    May 02, 2014 1:28 AM GMT
    No one?
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    May 02, 2014 1:49 AM GMT
    Rolfron saidHow do you feel about your partner now going on Grindr/A4A "just to look" or "just for friends"? Are these indicative ...


    no both of you should remove these apps, avoid the obvious hook up sites. Difficult to quit old habits/
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    May 02, 2014 2:16 AM GMT
    pellaz said
    Rolfron saidHow do you feel about your partner now going on Grindr/A4A "just to look" or "just for friends"? Are these indicative ...


    no both of you should remove these apps, avoid the obvious hook up sites. Difficult to quit old habits/


    I'm speaking hypothetically, but I agree with you.

    I've encountered a range of varied opinions on this issue. Some say no harm done and others say it is a direct violation. I'm just curious of what the substance is on these convictions.
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    May 02, 2014 2:30 AM GMT
    a good way to do a relationship
    Live a simple life. You should be able to give your cell or computer to your partner at any time. If you are afraid of what he might find you are cheating.
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    May 02, 2014 2:51 AM GMT
    Something is wrong if he is using the app. I deleted both mine (Scruff and Grindr) after meeting my current, though we are not very serious. He can't make friends on non hookup apps? Sounds like bull.
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    May 02, 2014 5:37 PM GMT
    To each his own. I haven't heard of guys making "just friends" on these apps, but if he isn't hooking up, and just messaging, what's the harm? OTOH, it might indicate that you are not enough in his life, and he needs to find an outlet for fantasizing about other guys. I'd keep using condoms.
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    May 03, 2014 2:50 AM GMT
    I've had shit luck dating someone over Grindr...Then again I have shit luck of having any dates at all!

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    May 03, 2014 6:06 AM GMT
    Who would date anyone who used grindr or any of the other digital bathhouse apps?
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    May 03, 2014 12:30 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidWho would date anyone who used grindr or any of the other digital bathhouse apps?


    "Digital Bath-house"

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    May 03, 2014 4:45 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidTo each his own. I haven't heard of guys making "just friends" on these apps, but if he isn't hooking up, and just messaging, what's the harm? OTOH, it might indicate that you are not enough in his life, and he needs to find an outlet for fantasizing about other guys. I'd keep using condoms.


    Whenever I would go on it, I could count at least 3 or 4 profiles that said "Only looking for friends!" or "*partnered*" status.

    I get the whole notion of wanting friends or wanting to venture out and socialize. It just seems unlikely to me though, that platonic friendship is their only motivation and that there would never be any degree of physical attraction involved.

    I'd really like to hear from people who think that this sort of think is "okay" or justifiable.
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    May 04, 2014 10:21 PM GMT
    I think that would be a little much. I mean, especially since those sites are definitely hook-up sites. I'm not saying that there aren't any guys who are honestly looking for friends, there are, but it's pretty rare on a site with so much temptation.

    I'd advice going to a meetup or something that is centered around something you like to meet platonic friends but again, I know it's hard for some people to talk face to face with strangers.

    Now, if I was in the situation. It would honestly depend on the guy. If I felt I could trust him and know he is sincere, I'd try not to let it get to me. I'll just go with the "You can have your app but if you cheat on me, well it just means i'm not what you're looking for and you can meet all the guys you want but, we're done." or something like that.