Workout Buddies

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    Apr 30, 2014 6:25 PM GMT
    I have had a workout buddy since October. We had always coordinated when we would be hitting the gym together at our previous gym. We made a switch to a new gym together and decided to make it official. We started working out monogamously with each other, we became swole mates. And despite him being a 26 year old straight guy we have a really tight bond. A true bromance. In regards to working out sometimes it's a little tough because he gets off an hour before I do but he usually runs before I get there. Our schedule is pretty set so we know what we will be lifting when we get there.

    Well Tuesday is our chest day. I think chest day is the most important day to have a buddy to spot you. To me it is like The Perk, the reason why you choose to extend your time in the gym.

    When I got to the gym last night, of course he was already there however he had already started a chest workout with another regular at the gym. I am not sure if he saw me but he should have known that I was coming. One of the cardinal rules of working out with someone is that if you can't make the workout you should call/text the person. I think it's completely rude to bale on a person and then to add insult to injury to be doing a chest workout with someone else in the gym at the same exact time. What really sucks about yesterday is that I even left work early just so I could make it there a bit earlier so we could have a great lift.

    So needless to say this really pissed me off. A part of me feels like I shouldn't be considering how I never approached him at the gym. Instead I chose to wait til he approached me, which he did after he had finished. At that point, I told him to walk the fuck on. A few other words were said to that effect. I will add that this is not the first time this has happened, the first time I just let it go. Last night he finally admitted that he was in the wrong.

    So my questions are.

    Has this ever happened to you?

    Would you have reacted the same way that I did?

    Would you still considering working out with him?
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    Apr 30, 2014 8:14 PM GMT
    I think your feeling for your gym buddy are stronger than just lifting
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    May 01, 2014 3:43 AM GMT
    Dolce_Gabbana saidYou're being overly dramatic.


    possibly, however in the real world it has been resolved. I just shared in the realjock world to vent some frustration.
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    May 01, 2014 3:44 AM GMT
    _Behemoth_ saidI think your feeling for your gym buddy are stronger than just lifting


    There are stronger feelings involved but not in a sexual way.
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    May 01, 2014 3:53 AM GMT
    sunjbill saidYou're not attached at the hip (at least you haven't told us that) so just bang the chest routine out on your own. Plenty of exercises to get a good chest workout by yourself.


    I do my 2nd chest day of the week on Friday by myself, so I have kick ass routines readily available. But Tuesday night is bar night, on bar night you need a spot. To lift heavy the bar is a necessity. And sure can get someone else to spot me, but that's kind of why I have a work out partner.

    We are not attached at the hip but there is a verbal commitment. Maybe I just expect more out of that arrangement. but that is how I was taught.
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    May 01, 2014 3:59 AM GMT
    Just make sure he's ready next week
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    May 01, 2014 4:15 AM GMT
    He's a fool, move on sexy.
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    May 01, 2014 5:05 AM GMT
    I probably wouldn't have put so much anger behind the "break-up". I would have just shrugged it off, and ignored the guy from that point forward. If he has a previous pattern of being flaky, then move on.

    I can't have a workout partner. Sometimes I get home late from work, so my gym time varies. So it's just better to be friendly with a few guys at the gym and ask them for a spot when needed.
  • mmmship

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    May 01, 2014 5:21 AM GMT
    This totally sounds like the bromance was for real between you two if you took that as a form of cheating and/or throwing tantrums.

    If it's just any other gym buddy, you would've been like "that's cool, how was working out with him?" But no, in this instance, both of you overreacted while missing the whole meaning of working out together. Ease up big guy! No bros get mad over small petite crap like this. Or, maybe you have now grown so reliant on him so much that without him, your workouts just aren't complete.
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    May 01, 2014 5:27 AM GMT
    As soon as I read this I thought of this video icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

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    May 01, 2014 5:56 AM GMT
    The best thing is to be direct. When you see him working out with someone else just casually go up to him and say; "Are we working out together today?" If he shrugs it off or dismisses your concern ask him if you getting to the gym later isn't working out for him and maybe you guys need to work something else out.

    Maybe he was waiting for you and another guy asked for his help and he didn't want to be a dick and say no to him? I doubt it's personal.
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    May 01, 2014 6:03 AM GMT
    ACRO_Slim saidAs soon as I read this I thought of this video icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgcn-DsPe40&feature=youtube_gdata_player



    That was one of the cutest things I've seen ;)
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    May 01, 2014 6:29 AM GMT
    Rejection always hurts...

    Perhaps the bond is not as strong for him?
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    May 01, 2014 6:51 AM GMT
    I have my workout buddy too. We text each other before to go to the gym, he is straight but it doesn't matter, he is my pal and we always go together. I think if I saw him workout with another man, maybe it's because the other man needs help, so I don't even bother, I think you just pissed because you wanted the perfect day at gym, and it didn't happen.
  • tuffguyndc

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    May 01, 2014 8:27 AM GMT
    okay dude, you over=recacted big time. i mean why didn't you just go up and workout with them? i mean you acted like a complete woman. in addition, you came off as if you two were dating and you clearly are not. anyhow, i think you owe him an apology. that was totally uncalled for
  • chadwick1985

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    May 01, 2014 8:45 AM GMT
    You are gym buddies, not partners or sexually involved. Is he not allowed to have other friends? Is he not allowed to workout with someone else if you aren't there? Just because he was working out with someone else doesn't mean he was trying to diss you. You completely acted out of line and definitely owe him an apology. You also need to get yourself in check. Throwing a tantrum over seeing a 'gym buddy' working out with another dude sounds completely like a jealous spouse who thinks seeing their significant other with someone else means they're cheating.
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    May 02, 2014 7:36 PM GMT
    That is probably one of the many reasons i would never head to the gym with someone and work out with them except for my trainer, i go for me and myself only, on the other hand it would be nice for that other person to be there to give you that push and motivate you with help and words, but as i don't have friends in the real world why would i go with anyone, maybe if someone offered i would try but not too sure as i lose concentration easily but if what happened to you did to me yes i sure would be hurt.