Newly Single Etiquette

  • Joeyphx444

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    May 01, 2014 1:32 AM GMT
    You obviously don't want to be a rebound or anything and most guys, especially if they are out of a long term relationship, are kinda emotional. So how do you approach a guy you been talking to that was in a relationship and is single now or if it's just a guy you see online who has never been online because he was in a relationship, or he has been online and his status changed?

    Besides saying yay inside
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    May 01, 2014 1:35 AM GMT
    Talk to him as a friend.
    Give him time to figure out if he wants to be in a relationship (again).
    Let him have some space.
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    May 01, 2014 3:06 AM GMT
    Wait a month or two. That's usually the time frame that a broken up couple decide to get back together. Or to do some jealous stalking.
  • theob

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    May 01, 2014 1:15 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidYou obviously don't want to be a rebound or anything and most guys, especially if they are out of a long term relationship, are kinda emotional. So how do you approach a guy you been talking to that was in a relationship and is single now or if it's just a guy you see online who has never been online because he was in a relationship, or he has been online and his status changed?

    Besides saying yay inside


    Oh my god, I'm totally in this boat right now. I met an amazing guy who just came out of a two year relationship.

    At first, it was really hard for me to accept that I alone couldn't heal the wound left by his ex. It actually hurt me because I thought I wasn't good enough for him. So I gave him some space and he eventually came around. He even said he missed being around me icon_biggrin.gif.

    You have to let him grieve, and you can't get too emotionally connected. As hard as it is, you have to just be a friend. If he feels anything for you at all, he will let you know.
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    May 01, 2014 1:52 PM GMT
    I think as long as you know the situation and approach it non aggressively you are fine. I was in a LTR and it took some time to reset my bearings.
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    May 01, 2014 1:58 PM GMT
    I'd say wait a while ... I have fallen for these guys a number of times - They always hurt me.

    You can always be a sincere friend though.

  • HndsmKansan

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    May 01, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    I'd certainly talk to them, but as a friend. I think trying to go after them would be insensitive and just dumb.
    They may not want anything more than just to chat. Give them plenty of space.
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    May 01, 2014 5:29 PM GMT
    Hey guys… we are all individuals… we all react differently to a given situation. It's hard to figure what a persons needs and wants are. Was he the partner that said enough of this… or was he the one that didn't see this coming. Figure it out, you may miss an opportunity if you shun and wait... or that's when it will work out well. Then there are guys that aren't happy but they won't move on unless they find something better, but that's not to topic. icon_smile.gif An open and positive mind can make a big difference. See how it works.
  • Destinharbor

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    May 01, 2014 6:56 PM GMT
    Don't be predatory. Be kind. Be prepared to listen and not offer advice.
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    May 01, 2014 9:24 PM GMT
    Joeyphx444 saidYou obviously don't want to be a rebound or anything and most guys, especially if they are out of a long term relationship, are kinda emotional. So how do you approach a guy you been talking to that was in a relationship and is single now or if it's just a guy you see online who has never been online because he was in a relationship, or he has been online and his status changed?

    Besides saying yay inside


    "Chuck Gudgel, here. Hope you are well. Just got out of a relationship, huh? Relationships are a bitch, huh? You o.k.?"

    Folks need to talk.
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    May 01, 2014 11:14 PM GMT
    It depends on how you feel about him. I'd treat everyone the same when it comes to relationship, friendship. However, if I know that he just got out of a relationship, chances are I won't pursue him (provided that I want a long term relationship)....because I believe he's still stuck on his ex. I'd give it a long 1 year time frame for him to heal. (It took me a year to fully recover, heal from my last relationship). But it's fine if you just want to sleep with him to help him move on/rebound phase.



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    May 02, 2014 8:53 AM GMT
    Be a good listener.
    Don't ever compare yourself to his ex.
    Be thoughtful and insightful without being overbearing.
    Try to get close to him.... but not too close too fast.
    Let it be known that you're available.
    Be true to yourself.

    You have to let him re-balance himself and reevaluate his priorities. He may not want a boyfriend for awhile - or anything from anyone. While it isn't a very good time for pursuit, it is a good time to show him that you could be a reliable friend.