The sun is brighter today.

  • theob

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    May 01, 2014 1:44 PM GMT
    I finally did it. I'm not really sure what it was, but I just knew the time was right.

    There is only one moment in my life when I ever felt the same way. I was out in Breckenridge, about to drop into a 50 foot jump to try a double backflip. My stomach was in knots. I could barely keep it together on the chairlift ride up. I needed my friends to be there. Desperately.

    I think the feeling welled up inside me because I knew I was going to drop into something from which I may never return. I was either going to make it, or I was going to end up in the hospital. But I had to do it. I had spent the entire season preparing for it. I just needed to press the send button.

    Yesterday evening I told my parents I'm gay. I took that risk, and I am so lucky to be sitting here today telling all of you that our relationship is stronger than it has ever been. Life has been unbelievably fair to me. I just want to help those for whom it has not.

    I'm not getting on here to tell those of you who haven't come out yet to go and do it. I don't know your circumstance. I'm just saying that if you feel a rift beginning to appear between you and your family, and it's because you have this secret you've been keeping from them for so long, you're gonna have to do something before that rift tears you apart.

    As of today, I have never felt closer to my family. I have never felt more loved. I don't think I will ever understand the depth of that.

    I landed that trick. I didn't end up in the hospital. Shouts came out from the chairlift and people came up to congratulate me. The world cares about you more than you think.
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    May 01, 2014 1:56 PM GMT
    Yay for you! And for your lovely accepting family!
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    May 01, 2014 1:56 PM GMT
    Congratulations! Enjoy your new life.
  • Sakura

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    May 01, 2014 2:07 PM GMT
    Congrats man! I've had a similar strengthening in my relationship with my mom, it certainly was a nice surprise.
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    May 01, 2014 2:13 PM GMT
    I'm very happy for you and your family. Congratulations for taking that big step.
  • madsexy

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    May 01, 2014 2:13 PM GMT
    THAT IS SO AWESOME! While many aren't so lucky to have truly loving parents (as opposed to conditionally loving) as you it's so great for you that you do. And for anyone else the strain of having to lead a "double life" has to be monumental. I too am lucky and have parents who accept me and love me unconditionally so I understand your joy. GREAT JOB! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 01, 2014 2:53 PM GMT
    Congrats bro.
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    May 01, 2014 2:57 PM GMT
    A wonderful story and very good story-telling. I enjoyed reading that.
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    May 01, 2014 3:03 PM GMT
    Awesome.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 01, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    Awesome and inspiring. Thanks for sharing and hope your experience will be of help to others. Glad you took the risk and could describe it in such an effectual way here.

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    May 01, 2014 3:05 PM GMT
    Congrats for taking that big step. Nothing like removing that dark secret you had been hiding. You're fortunate to have such a loving family.
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    May 01, 2014 3:12 PM GMT
    very cool post.. and congrats, I am very happy for you that you have such an amazing family.
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    May 01, 2014 3:13 PM GMT

    That's really sweet #beautiful. My congrats! to you man icon_wink.gif

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    May 01, 2014 3:16 PM GMT
    Great news!
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    May 01, 2014 3:16 PM GMT
    Great to hear!
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    May 01, 2014 3:21 PM GMT
    Glad you pressed the "send" button! icon_biggrin.gif

    (Love that expression, BTW, never heard it used that way before. But very apropos, more of our digital experiences becoming everyday phrases)
  • MikeW

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    May 01, 2014 3:24 PM GMT
    I like the way you told you story icon_smile.gif Congratulations!
  • Destinharbor

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    May 01, 2014 3:34 PM GMT
    So many of us didn't realize that it was WE, not others, who were isolating ourselves from a true, loving relationship with family by hiding our gay side. It holds true with friends and coworkers, too. Sure, there may be some negative, and things have come far fast, and progress isn't complete, but in the US, today, life is definitely better OUT.

    Congrats to you and well said.

    (I would add that jumping off chairlifts probably isn't such a good idea, though. If that turns into a trend, the lawyers will make ski venues modify and prices will rise even further. They have it tough enough now with global warming and shorter seasons and prices are already stratospheric. Please stop that!)
  • AMoonHawk

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    May 01, 2014 3:36 PM GMT
    Glad you are able to enjoy the sunlight icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 01, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    Great post man, really happy for you that it worked out; no better feeling than coming clean and being accepted, huh?
  • theob

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    May 01, 2014 4:34 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidSo many of us didn't realize that it was WE, not others, who were isolating ourselves from a true, loving relationship with family by hiding our gay side. It holds true with friends and coworkers, too. Sure, there may be some negative, and things have come far fast, and progress isn't complete, but in the US, today, life is definitely better OUT.

    Congrats to you and well said.

    (I would add that jumping off chairlifts probably isn't such a good idea, though. If that turns into a trend, the lawyers will make ski venues modify and prices will rise even further. They have it tough enough now with global warming and shorter seasons and prices are already stratospheric. Please stop that!)


    Thanks. Didn't jump off the chairlift. I actually hit a jump in the terrain park and performed a rather dangerous maneuver.

    This:

    https://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=208018579216719
  • Destinharbor

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    May 01, 2014 4:45 PM GMT
    theob said
    Destinharbor saidSo many of us didn't realize that it was WE, not others, who were isolating ourselves from a true, loving relationship with family by hiding our gay side. It holds true with friends and coworkers, too. Sure, there may be some negative, and things have come far fast, and progress isn't complete, but in the US, today, life is definitely better OUT.

    Congrats to you and well said.

    (I would add that jumping off chairlifts probably isn't such a good idea, though. If that turns into a trend, the lawyers will make ski venues modify and prices will rise even further. They have it tough enough now with global warming and shorter seasons and prices are already stratospheric. Please stop that!)


    Thanks. Didn't jump off the chairlift. I actually hit a jump in the terrain park and performed a rather dangerous maneuver.

    This:

    https://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=208018579216719

    Very cool, man.
  • madsexy

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    May 01, 2014 4:50 PM GMT
    theob saidhttps://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=208018579216719

    That ROCKS! YOU GO DUDE! icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 01, 2014 5:04 PM GMT
    Interesting use of metaphors.
  • Lincsbear

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    May 01, 2014 8:41 PM GMT
    Good to hear your news.

    I experienced something similar in 1997. The whole summer I was unusually unsettled and unhappy, and still in the closet. Then in late August I suddenly(and maybe a little impulsively)told my mother the truth. I think maybe I had a feeling the time was going by and she was elderly. Contrary to my fears, it made no difference to her. We`d always got on and this was no big deal for her, though she was born in 1921, and raised in a very conservative and rural area of the UK.

    Not only is the sun brighter, life`s much more straightforward and simple these days!