Confused .. I need your help!

  • Moonarc

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    May 05, 2014 4:30 AM GMT
    Hey everyone .. Am so glad I found this forum!! icon_biggrin.gif

    I looked almost every online page trying to find an answer and felt helpless. I need to understand the signs of interest .. Those unconventional ones not those telltale stuff we read about online ..

    I'm interested in finding out if the guy I work with likes me or just being friendly. He's a handsome guy and has a girlfriend and says that he's a ladies man . Because of that he's very arrogant. On the other side, I'm a handsome guy (or so what they say icon_redface.gif). He's my boss so we communicate at work.

    When he first joined, he used to initiate loads of work related talks with me and whenever he used to do that, he's always maintaining the eye contact with me and always facing me with a big rounded smile whenever we have a one on one discussion (that flashy big Hollywood smile). When he talks about work he's always focusing at me as if he wants to see my reaction or say about it. We had fights before but nothing too serious but it feels as if he suddenly finds a reason to jam his anger on me. During daily meetings, he keeps looking at me and sometimes picks on what I say. But the excessive eye contact at me is happening daily and everywhere. Later, all my colleagues started teasing me about him and give me that look like something's going on with both of you. At the office, he keeps looking at me and sometimes I feel he looks at me even without looking at him. Sometimes, he calls me at his office for stuff that can be handled over the phone without the need for me to come to his office. And when am there, he talks about work and stares at me with full eyes and a smile that makes me feel uncomfortable (This happens always however I was never responsive or used to look him back). He complimented my looks before too. One day, he passed by my office to talk about some stuff then he started teasing with something like " .. He's with his boyfriend". I brushed it with a tough comeback like "tell me about it, you're the big gay deal!" He stuttered and got embarrassed then changed the topic. Went near my desk,choke my screen and my chair while staring at me and I could tell that he was without me looking back at him. I felt I offended him somehow later he just left out of office quietly and stopped teasing on that. However, he never stopped eyeing me. He also likes to put an impression like talking about how his career and how I remind him of himself when he was at my age. He doesn't mention his girlfriend whenever we have a talk together. But said more than once how gay guys admire and throw themselves on him and he likes them too. At days, he calls a lot and asks me to come to his office or happens to see him a lot and other days we barely talk or communicate. It's like on and off status but the eye contact is always there and so my friends teasing. Sometimes he is sweet, smiley, talkative and other times he's careless, cold and aggressive with me.

    Before you all get mad, I have no plans to move on him since he has a girlfriend and because he's my boss too. But I just wanna know the reality behind his acts .. Does he like me? Do I intrigue him? Is he just being friendly? Or is he messing with me to grab my attention?

    I will be grateful for your advices
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    May 05, 2014 5:18 AM GMT

    Just treat him like he's your boss (and he is). You're at work.
    Why would you want someone who is on then off then on then off then on then off anyway, especially if he's also your boss and has a GF?

    That's it.
  • Moonarc

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    May 05, 2014 3:25 PM GMT
    I am treating him as a boss always and never been flirtatious or eyeing him.
    And I have no plan to move on to him as I said before. All I'm asking if what he does implies that he likes me in a non professional - work way ..
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    May 05, 2014 3:30 PM GMT
    He's probably just wondering what kind of acrobatics is required for you to get a shirt on.
  • Moonarc

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    May 05, 2014 3:40 PM GMT
    shawnathan saidHe's probably just wondering what kind of acrobatics is required for you to get a shirt on.


    You think? icon_razz.gif
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    May 05, 2014 3:41 PM GMT
    shawnathan saidHe's probably just wondering what kind of acrobatics is required for you to get a shirt on.


    Lol haha the Hulk rips shirts, not wears them...

    He wants you to rip his shirt off... I want you to rip his shirt off! Rip his shirt! Rip his shirt!
  • Moonarc

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    May 05, 2014 3:48 PM GMT
    Snaz said
    shawnathan saidHe's probably just wondering what kind of acrobatics is required for you to get a shirt on.


    Lol haha the Hulk rips shirts, not wears them...

    He wants you to rip his shirt off... I want you to rip his shirt off! Rip his shirt! Rip his shirt!


    Hahaha that's not me in the display pic. I wouldn't do that not even think about it. He is irresistible though but I know my limits. I'm just curious to know the reality behind his moves icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 06, 2014 5:51 AM GMT
    When you have a conversation with him, why don't you ask him about his girlfriend (something not too personal, of course) like how long he has known her, when they're planning on getting married, etc.

    See how his relationship with his girlfriend is doing and how serious they are. If he says he really loves his gf, etc, then maybe you're reading too much into the situation.
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    May 06, 2014 5:59 AM GMT
    Moonarc saidI am treating him as a boss always and never been flirtatious or eyeing him.
    And I have no plan to move on to him as I said before. All I'm asking if what he does implies that he likes me in a non professional - work way ..


    Well, I think no..if someone wants you to know something like that they deliberately go about doing so. Wait and see.

    Just curious though, how would it matter?

    -intrigued
  • Moonarc

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    May 06, 2014 3:35 PM GMT
    polfsky saidWhen you have a conversation with him, why don't you ask him about his girlfriend (something not too personal, of course) like how long he has known her, when they're planning on getting married, etc.

    See how his relationship with his girlfriend is doing and how serious they are. If he says he really loves his gf, etc, then maybe you're reading too much into the situation.


    I actually did that time like teased him that he should be getting married already. He looked uninterested in talking about her and I can remember only two times that he did bring this subject up. I'll try opening this up with him next time when I have a chance.
  • Moonarc

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    May 06, 2014 3:44 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Moonarc saidI am treating him as a boss always and never been flirtatious or eyeing him.
    And I have no plan to move on to him as I said before. All I'm asking if what he does implies that he likes me in a non professional - work way ..


    Well, I think no..if someone wants you to know something like that they deliberately go about doing so. Wait and see.

    Just curious though, how would it matter?

    -intrigued


    Yeah I can't deny that I'm intrigued. Who wouldn't like to be eyed by a handsome gentleman right?

    I don't believe that one should be deliberate in going about it. Not all behave the same. I don't. And I understand that it's a complex matter especially in a work place where all eyes are at him and he has to be very careful. If he's content with his GF, he wouldn't even consider my existence but all I can see is his constant interest and the eye contact at me that he never gets bored.

    I'm sure half of you on board knows or been in this situation and can offer some tips, I don't like to jump into conclusions am just waiting for this solid advice from you guys ...
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    May 07, 2014 5:56 AM GMT
    Moonarc saidI actually did that time like teased him that he should be getting married already. He looked uninterested in talking about her and I can remember only two times that he did bring this subject up. I'll try opening this up with him next time when I have a chance.


    Keep us posted. icon_wink.gif