Attraction, assumptions, opinions......

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    May 06, 2014 1:04 PM GMT
    So i have just walked into my town to do some shopping and just as i was still in my street i walked past a really good looking guy who i personally found attractive we looked at each other and my gaydar went ping lol, my question is that if you saw a guy in the street who you was attracted to yet he was wearing clothes that would tell a different story to what he as a person actually is would that put you off or make you make assumptions and opinions in your own mind and sort of shrug that instant attraction off, this is because i was still in my track pants from the gym and over here in the UK it sort of gives you the Scally/Chav type label, yet this guy had "style" wearing skinny jeans etc

    Hope it makes sense
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    May 06, 2014 1:05 PM GMT
    Not sure what you're asking, Dennis. Are you asking if the guy plays for our side?
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    May 06, 2014 1:21 PM GMT
    ElectroShark saidNot sure what you're asking, Dennis. Are you asking if the guy plays for our side?
    LOL no haha what i meant was if you saw a guy you liked would what they are wearing dictate your opinions of that person and stop you being attracted ?
    LOL i hope he liked me but meh... he gone now
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    May 06, 2014 1:25 PM GMT
    I don't care that much about what they're wearing...mentally I see them with their clothes on the floor anyway. icon_lol.gif
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    May 06, 2014 1:27 PM GMT
    ElectroShark saidI don't care that much about what they're wearing...mentally I see them with their clothes on the floor anyway. icon_lol.gif
    haha icon_smile.gif i just get abit self conscious about what i am wearing as well i never have luck meeting anyone anyway so i try to be presentable all the time.
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    May 06, 2014 1:32 PM GMT
    Appearance has a lot to do with your attraction to someone. If someone with a really handsome face and a nice body were walking down the street in a soiled hospital gown, you probably wouldn't be all that attracted to him. So I think the answer to your question is, yes, appearance (including clothes) has an effect on perceived attraction (for example. why do so many people find uniforms to be really hot?).
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    May 06, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidAppearance has a lot to do with your attraction to someone. If someone with a really handsome face and a nice body were walking down the street in a soiled hospital gown, you probably wouldn't be all that attracted to him. So I think the answer to your question is, yes, appearance (including clothes) has an effect on perceived attraction (for example. why do so many people find uniforms to be really hot?).
    icon_lol.gif yes thats what i mean lol but not to them extremes haha so why do i never seem to meet or attract anyone icon_neutral.gif
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    May 06, 2014 1:53 PM GMT
    the fact someone notices you as much as you notice him says a lot.

    Than again we are not the 10% they initially thought we were. So if the question is if he is gay and dating i would say unlikely, its more than what he is wearing vs a casual glance.
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    May 06, 2014 2:03 PM GMT
    Dennis_1989 said
    Bunjamon saidAppearance has a lot to do with your attraction to someone. If someone with a really handsome face and a nice body were walking down the street in a soiled hospital gown, you probably wouldn't be all that attracted to him. So I think the answer to your question is, yes, appearance (including clothes) has an effect on perceived attraction (for example. why do so many people find uniforms to be really hot?).
    icon_lol.gif yes thats what i mean lol but not to them extremes haha so why do i never seem to meet or attract anyone icon_neutral.gif


    I think attracting people on the street and trading glances is quite rare, even in large cities like New York or San Francisco, and even then it's in areas where the likelihood of the counterpart being gay is higher (the gay neighborhood of the city, for example). Saying that you "never seem to meet or attract anyone" on the street may say very little about your appearance, since even straight people don't usually just attract people off the street, either.
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    May 06, 2014 2:17 PM GMT
    It would be very difficult for me to be attracted to someone wearing skinny jeans. Blehhh. Although there is this grungy straight dude on my street who's really hot but wears ridiculous clothing all the time. I'm pretty sure he also doesn't bathe that often. I'd have to scrub him down with a bristle brush and hide his clothes before considering him though. icon_surprised.gif
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    May 06, 2014 2:43 PM GMT
    Alot of interesting and good replies and yeah the look we sort of gave each other was a shy look then we both sort of looked away and down lol the look from me being sort of automatic without my control lol This sort of shows how new and naive to all this i am icon_neutral.gif
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    May 06, 2014 3:25 PM GMT
    If I saw a hot guy in track pants or sweats, I'd definitely think he was hot. Now, whether or not I'd think he might also be gay depends on a lot of things. Like, if we looked at one another, I'd say the chances are good, but not a certainty. I don't know if I'd think you were gay or not, but it wouldn't surprise me. I say that because, as this site proves, there are a lot of handsome gay guys in the world. It really is a lot about the 'vibe' you get when you look at someone and notice they're looking your way as well.
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    May 06, 2014 3:33 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidIt would be very difficult for me to be attracted to someone wearing skinny jeans. Blehhh. Although there is this grungy straight dude on my street who's really hot but wears ridiculous clothing all the time. I'm pretty sure he also doesn't bathe that often. I'd have to scrub him down with a bristle brush and hide his clothes before considering him though. icon_surprised.gif

    Nothing wrong with skinny jeans or skinny chinos icon_wink.gif
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    May 06, 2014 3:36 PM GMT
    Dennis, try a pair of these:

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    May 06, 2014 3:38 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidDennis, try a pair of these:

    99l3eq.jpg
    Phone and cigs ??? icon_lol.gif
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    May 06, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    I think i have always and again seem to be abit insecure of how i am dressed and or just generally perceived by people as no matter how or where i try i cant seem to move forward in life eg meet a bf get a job etc
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    May 06, 2014 7:36 PM GMT
    Nowt wrong with trackies. I'm usually wearing them when I'm out and about and not just from the gym.

    I think people do make judgements though, and although I'm not a chav, wearing a matching chilie 62, trainers and chain tends to make some lads assume I'm straight, which is a PITA.
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    May 06, 2014 7:39 PM GMT
    it seems that more and more odds stack against me icon_neutral.gif at the same time as i become insecure about one thing and less so about another
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    May 06, 2014 8:09 PM GMT
    pellaz saidThe fact someone notices you as much as you notice him says a lot.

    When they're attractive I think it's often that they're not so much noticing us but rather noticing that we're staring at them and they're wondering why.
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    May 06, 2014 8:10 PM GMT
    Lumpyoatmeal said
    pellaz saidThe fact someone notices you as much as you notice him says a lot.

    When they're attractive I think it's often that they're not so much noticing us but rather noticing that we're staring at them and they're wondering why.
    I like both answer there icon_biggrin.gif