owl_bundy saidcall this insensitive but risky behavior leads to risky results. real talk. it amazes me how there's this attitude among gay men where folks trust each other without knowing each other enough to do this kind of shit such as using hookup sites to fuck each other. before someone in here goes and says "straight people do it too" as an excuse or to dodge the point, it's crazy how folks think that this type of shit is normal where they'll risk their lives over this shit. it's unfortunate that he died and he didn't deserve it BUT hey.... this is what comes with the territory. goes for everybody in here that lives their lives like that. if you agree to go ahead with this shit, you know the possible risks and consequences. you don't know who you're dealing with. that's a given. gotta accept some responsibility behind that shit such as possibly signing your death warrant. it's no different than speeding on the highway. many people do it. plenty of people make it out in one piece and live to see another day. others get into car accidents and lose limbs or die. others get speeding tickets. people don't have to speed BUT they chose to do so. that's how they use their freedom. so folks can do what they do BUT if they end up in some shit, whose fault is that.
If we're going to use your analogy, then I'll remind you that oftentimes those who died in car accidents were actually not violating the law, but rather died as a result of someone else in violation. Driving a car is a "risky behaviour" by definition, but I wouldn't stop driving just because I have the chance of getting killed by a non law-abiding person. Even being a pedestrian near cars is a "risky behaviour", but I wouldn't stop walking either.
As for "knowing each other enough", you can never really know someone enough to know whether or not they will kill you. In fact, you probably aren't aware of this, but a staggering 53.8% of homicide victims in the US are murdered by someone that they know, be it an acquaintance, neighbour, friend, significant other, or similar (US Department of Justice, 2009). You have an essentially equal chance statistically of getting murdered by someone you know.
There are always risks when encountering new people, but as we've seen with all sorts of news stories in recent years, you don't even have to be actively looking to encounter new people to get murdered. They may in fact just happen to encounter you in a setting as seemingly safe as a movie theatre or an elementary school, and you're just shit out of luck.
It's alright to not be a fan of hooking up as a gay man, but don't make it out to be significantly more lethal or risky than even the most innocuous everyday things. That may sadly be true in Russia, the Middle East and a number of other countries at this point in time, and it may be true for women in the heterosexual hookup culture, but generally speaking as gay men in the first world there's not much to fear as long as you follow basic guidelines. This guy followed pretty much all of them, down to telling his partner what he was doing. He was unfortunately a victim of a truly fucked up individual.