I really hate being black in gay life

  • Matthew56

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    May 07, 2014 11:13 PM GMT
    I know this might sound negative and off putting to some but gotta say it.

    I just hate being black being black means I am second place to white men being black holds you back in terms of attracting men. I just know and feel that if I was white things would be so much better in gay life in general

    It really sucks
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    May 07, 2014 11:23 PM GMT
    Ugh black men are hot, this is not.
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    May 07, 2014 11:25 PM GMT
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    May 07, 2014 11:27 PM GMT
    Wait what?

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  • Matthew56

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    May 07, 2014 11:29 PM GMT
    owl_bundy saidi can't stand self hating black people. you're crying about not getting any ass as if it's your only purpose in life. you're weak and pathetic. just leave.


    It's not its just no-one wants to be seen as mr unpopular everyone or the majority wants to be popular and appealing just the way human beings are
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    May 07, 2014 11:36 PM GMT
    New thread title: I really hate being unpopular in popular society
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    May 07, 2014 11:37 PM GMT
    owl_bundy saidi can't stand self hating black people. you're crying about not getting any ass as if it's your only purpose in life. you're weak and pathetic. just leave.


    Unnecessary.

    I know this might sound negative and off putting to some but gotta say it.

    I just hate being black being black means I am second place to white men being black holds you back in terms of attracting men. I just know and feel that if I was white things would be so much better in gay life in general

    It really sucks


    It's funny but I used to think like you. But if you think about it, it makes much easier to find love. Everyone throwing themselves at white and Arab men hoping for validation. You know if someone is pursuing you, odds are that its for real.

    And I mean look at you, you're physically attractive but this attitude is a repellent. Talk to whoever you want. If they don't want you simply because you're not white, then pull a Jay-Z and move on to the next one. You'll be fine(as hell). I promise icon_smile.gif
  • Fable

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    May 07, 2014 11:41 PM GMT
    BITCH PLEASE!

    you live in London....


    HelloooOOOoooOO you do realise there are SO many BCC's here right? Pfeh. Just get your arse down to HCL (HardCockLife) if you crave some white boy D. Pretty much everyone is searching for it there...

    Look it up on facebook.

    You're welcome.
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    May 07, 2014 11:46 PM GMT
    I really don't care honestly. If someone judges me based on the colour of my skin without getting to know me, that's their problem. I don't give a shit if people like a certain race only, those type of people I wouldn't want in my life anyway. I don't need to be acknowledged by anyone I suppose the way I was brought up helped with me not caring about crap like this.
    I do not feel sorry for you or empathise with you.
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    May 07, 2014 11:46 PM GMT
    owl_bundy said
    Sentinel_Ike said
    owl_bundy saidi can't stand self hating black people. you're crying about not getting any ass as if it's your only purpose in life. you're weak and pathetic. just leave.


    Unnecessary.



    man, please. way too many self hating black people out here. worst off, they try to drag over black people down with them in their self loathing.


    There is a difference between someone asking for help and someone "dragging someone down." He's "self hating" because of how this country and even how this community is set up.

    If I come off as angry then I'm sorry but my little brother has asked one too many times why is our skin color so dark instead of "normal." Why are our lips so big instead of "normal." Why are our noses so big instead of "normal" and it hits hard because I remember asking myself the very same questions when I was much younger.
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    May 07, 2014 11:49 PM GMT
    Fable saidBITCH PLEASE!

    you live in London....


    HelloooOOOoooOO you do realise there are SO many BCC's here right? Pfeh. Just get your arse down to HCL (HardCockLife) if you crave some white boy D. Pretty much everyone is searching for it there...

    Look it up on facebook.

    You're welcome.


    Wait he lives in London?
    You can find your Caucasian man here easily.

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    May 07, 2014 11:53 PM GMT
    I hate being a broken down fat old white man. Wanna trade lives?
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    May 07, 2014 11:56 PM GMT
    dude your good look and I am sure if you have a winning personality with your good look..you will catch any guys attention.

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    May 08, 2014 12:14 AM GMT
    I wish I were taller and had more hair then I could get some superficial guy to love me.
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    May 08, 2014 12:33 AM GMT
    I don't have the problem, in fact, being black works to my advantage some times.
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    May 08, 2014 12:35 AM GMT
    dudewithabeard saidI wish I were taller and had more hair then I could get some superficial guy to love me.

    If you'll settle for pretentious, then I can over look your height?

    get it "over look".
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    May 08, 2014 12:36 AM GMT
    owl_bundy said
    Sentinel_Ike said
    owl_bundy said
    Sentinel_Ike said
    owl_bundy saidi can't stand self hating black people. you're crying about not getting any ass as if it's your only purpose in life. you're weak and pathetic. just leave.


    Unnecessary.



    man, please. way too many self hating black people out here. worst off, they try to drag over black people down with them in their self loathing.


    There is a difference between someone asking for help and someone "dragging someone down." He's "self hating" because of how this country and even how this community is set up.

    If I come off as angry then I'm sorry but my little brother has asked one too many times why is our skin color so dark instead of "normal." Why are our lips so big instead of "normal." Why are our noses so big instead of "normal" and it hits hard because I remember asking myself the very same questions when I was much younger.


    EXCUSES. EXCUSES. EXCUSES. he's 26 years old. i understand if it was an 8 year old that was confused BUT after a certain age, it's inexcusable especially if it's an adult. hell, even at 11, i had enough sense to at least figure out wtf was going on where i was living in a fucked up society and that it wasn't my fault or there was nothing wrong with me because i'm black. maybe because i was exposed to racism where certain things happened such as how my education was pretty shitty because the private catholic school i was in pretty much didn't give a fuck about us as they showed by poorly educating us, being falsely accused of stealing shit at k-mart, being called the n-word at woodbridge mall and etc.... shit was enough to make me get it.


    Maybe he didn't go to a private school that treated him like shit. I didn't. A lot of black people do not get it early on. As you said, he's a grown man. I'll give him advice because I understand where he is coming from and like a grown man should, the OP will do with it what he will. He can take it, start talking about it, get it out in the open with people who care about him and then better himself or he can wallow in self pity. I see no point in attacking him.
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    May 08, 2014 12:41 AM GMT
    Yes, that sounds very negative and off-putting.

    I definitely don't feel held back in terms of attracting anyone.
  • Eli_jah

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    May 08, 2014 12:42 AM GMT
    Honestly, I feel like gay men segregate by race more than anything else, and it is disturbing. Less so in New York. But to be honest, I feel that gay black men self segregate the most, as they go to their own bars, their own Pride, own vacation spots, and live in their own enclaves.

    If a black gay guy is seeing someone, or even had a hook up, the first thing his (mostly) black friends want to know is, is/was he black? Lmao.

    In my experience, most BGM are NOT exclusively looking to date white men (that would be Asian men, cough cough).

    Of course, OP is from London so there may be less of a black gay community there (although, there is less of a history of racism/racialism towards blacks in the UK, so...)

    Just thoughts. In many ways, engrossing yourself in a community of balanced and beautiful black men can be an affirming experience in a culture that devalues black men... but on the other hand, I don't want to hang out with just black guys, I really need a nice mix.
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    May 08, 2014 12:53 AM GMT
    Dopeamine saidHonestly, I feel like gay men segregate by race more than anything else, and it is disturbing. Less so in New York. But to be honest, I feel that gay black men self segregate the most, as they go to their own bars, their own Pride, own vacation spots, and live in their own enclaves.

    If a black gay guy is seeing someone, or even had a hook up, the first thing his (mostly) black friends want to know is, is/was he black? Lmao.

    In my experience, most BGM are NOT exclusively looking to date white men (that would be Asian men, cough cough).

    Of course, OP is from London so there may be less of a black gay community there (although, there is less of a history of racism/racialism towards blacks in the UK, so...)

    Just thoughts. In many ways, engrossing yourself in a community of balanced and beautiful black men can be an affirming experience in a culture that devalues black men... but on the other hand, I don't want to hang out with just black guys, I really need a nice mix.


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  • Matthew56

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    May 08, 2014 12:55 AM GMT
    Thanks for the replies I still feel ugly I was actually crying in a sex club can you believe it in account of this. The feeling is really awful when you are getting ignored because of your race
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    May 08, 2014 12:56 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidThanks for the replies I still feel ugly I was actually crying in a sex club can you believe it in account of this. The feeling is really awful when you are getting ignored because of your race


    That's an assumption that you are making.
    Unless every guy that rejects you says "It's because you're black", then you're just using your race as a scapegoat.
  • Matthew56

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    May 08, 2014 12:59 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]ACRO_Slim said[/cite]
    Matthew56 saidThanks for the replies I still feel ugly I was actually crying in a sex club can you believe it in account of this. The feeling is really awful when you are getting ignored because of your race


    That's an assumption that you are making.
    Unless every guy that rejects you says "It's because you're black", then you're just using your race as a scapegoat. [/quote

    They don't have to say it I can feel it that you are inferior despite you look good and have a good body you still don't measure up because you were born the wrong race-black
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    May 08, 2014 1:04 AM GMT
    Matthew56 said[quote][cite]ACRO_Slim said[/cite]
    They don't have to say it I can feel it that you are inferior despite you look good and have a good body you still don't measure up because you were born the wrong race-black


    Wrong
  • Matthew56

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    May 08, 2014 1:06 AM GMT
    ACRO_Slim said
    Matthew56 said[quote][cite]ACRO_Slim said[/cite]
    They don't have to say it I can feel it that you are inferior despite you look good and have a good body you still don't measure up because you were born the wrong race-black


    Wrong


    Ok why am I wrong?