In Terms Of Being A Person Of Color And Homosexual.

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    May 08, 2014 12:56 AM GMT
    I have seen MANY threads on this... and hopefully my crappy English can get what i say across in a good manner yo icon_lol.gif

    Since I'm half Asian, i grew up believing people automatically saw Asians as less attractive. I used to have that whole doubt about myself in that regards. And although i loved football, wrestling and Martial Arts for the physical and mental aspects. As a kid i also did it to not be seen as a small, weak, or ugly Asian guy. But that was a very poisonous way of thinking.

    No matter what color you are... someone is attracted too you. Just look at the threads here! i can dig up dozens of ''hot asian men'' ''hot black men'' ''hot middle eastern men'' etc. Threads... and i can find them on most general forums too.

    There's thousands of youtube channels dedicated to these things as well. I also see tons of interracial couples (white and black being probably the biggest ones) with gay men. So whether it's interracial, or within ones race, there are people attracted to you.

    Yes the cliche ''media sucks'' bit is still pretty true. But YOU shouldn't feel down or out place as a gay dude. Just because you think people only go for white guys. Most(Not all) but most people i meet gay or straight don't have a racial preference. Don't let a few people who rejected you, or some hateful blog, message, video etc. Make you feel like people hate everyone who is of your color! be cool as fuck with who you are. Be positive! and don't think people won't find you good looking cause of the racial factor.

    It can all depend also on the area you are in as well. Besides all that be unique and cool as fuck just being you. Regardless of race or anything of that magnitude. Cause i think that matters a lot more than anything else.

    Hopefully this all came out ok! but basically i just don't want other gay men of color to get discouraged. THERE ARE guys who will like you for you. And if you get rejected once, twice, or ten times. Move on! because there's a lot of dudes out there. So don't let a few who are assholes make you think it's the end of the world.
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  • Matthew56

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    May 08, 2014 1:05 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]lifeduringwartime23 said[/cite]I have seen MANY threads on this... and hopefully my crappy English can get what i say across in a good manner yo icon_lol.gif

    Since I'm half Asian, i grew up believing people automatically saw Asians as less attractive. I used to have that whole doubt about myself in that regards. And although i loved football, wrestling and Martial Arts for the physical and mental aspects. As a kid i also did it to not be seen as a small, weak, or ugly Asian guy. But that was a very poisonous way of thinking.

    No matter what color you are... someone is attracted too you. Just look at the threads here! i can dig up dozens of ''hot asian men'' ''hot black men'' ''hot middle eastern men'' etc. Threads... and i can find them on most general forums too.

    There's thousands of youtube channels dedicated to these things as well. I also see tons of interracial couples (white and black being probably the biggest ones) with gay men. So whether it's interracial, or within ones race, there are people attracted to you.

    Yes the cliche ''media sucks'' bit is still pretty true. But YOU shouldn't feel down or out place as a gay dude. Just because you think people only go for white guys. Most(Not all) but most people i meet gay or straight don't have a racial preference. Don't let a few people who rejected you, or some hateful blog, message, video etc. Make you feel like people hate everyone who is of your color! be cool as fuck with who you are. Be positive! and don't think people won't find you good looking cause of the racial factor.

    It can all depend also on the area you are in as well. Besides all that be unique and cool as fuck just being you. Regardless of race or anything of that magnitude. Cause i think that matters a lot more than anything else.

    Hopefully this all came out ok! but basically i just don't want other gay men of color to get discouraged. THERE ARE guys who will like you for you. And if you get rejected once, twice, or ten times. Move on! because there's a lot of dudes out there. So don't let a few who are assholes make you think it's the end of the world.[/quote

    Nice comforting words but still white men are at the end of the day be the winners while non white men get the short end of the stick. I long for the day when sexual racism no longer exists and that every man who is attractive irregardless of race gets acknowledge for it
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    May 08, 2014 1:09 AM GMT
    Learn to love the skin you're in.
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    May 08, 2014 1:18 AM GMT
    Fivealive saidLearn to love the skin you're in.


    Simplest... but greatest quote we can have icon_smile.gif
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    May 08, 2014 1:42 AM GMT
    White men maybe seen by some as the ''hierarchy' by which some see the ultimate attractiveness.

    But do we see it that way? i certainly don't. Those who think that way are lost in a different way of thinking. If someone isn't into Asian for example... i move on. Because it's honestly not my place to try to ''make them'' attracted to them.

    At the same time i don't need dozens of hot Asian men threads up. I know Asian men are hot, i know Black men are hot. I understand the place for those types of threads. But they pop up a lot and they make me wonder... if that is so others can feel as if there attractive to someone because of their race.

    It also could be someone is ONLY wanting to date someone of one race. And they're mad when say a white man turns them down. But if they Only date white men... they themselves are being close minded.

    But then again they say it's preference... but i like someone without a preference. Which technically means my preference is someone without a preference... which still means i have one icon_surprised.gificon_eek.gificon_lol.gif
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    May 08, 2014 8:48 PM GMT
    .YES!
    .Lets have a kiki
    .I agree with this
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    May 08, 2014 9:04 PM GMT


    I'm so liking the OP. icon_biggrin.gif

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    May 08, 2014 9:07 PM GMT
    Totally agree, white men never really found me attractive, it was always the Latino and Black men that always approached me, and to this day I've learned to love them back. Learn to love the people that love you.
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    May 08, 2014 9:22 PM GMT
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    Yup. And you should really worry about someone who wants you for you. You hit the nail on the multicultural head!
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    May 08, 2014 9:38 PM GMT
    *Gives a huge thumbs up to the OP* icon_wink.gif
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    May 08, 2014 10:11 PM GMT
    this applies to all people
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    May 08, 2014 10:12 PM GMT
    No popcorn required here!















    At least... not yet! icon_twisted.gif
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    May 09, 2014 12:02 AM GMT
    PoisonOak said
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    Yup. And you should really worry about someone who wants you for you. You hit the nail on the multicultural head!


    Exactly! that is my philosophy when dating a guy. I also don't date guys who wouldn't date me before i looked a certain way. Since i started seriously lifting 3 years ago after years of just Martial Arts and football. I had some guys hit me up trying to be friendly with me years later.

    But at the time when i was first talking to them. They thought i was too meaty or not muscular enough or whatever the case maybe. So years later when they hit me up i wouldn't even bother giving it a try honestly.
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    May 09, 2014 12:03 AM GMT
    dayumm saidNo popcorn required here!















    At least... not yet! icon_twisted.gif


    Hopefully not! was trying to make this thread encouraging and positive icon_smile.gif
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    May 09, 2014 5:25 PM GMT
    lifeduringwartime23 said
    dayumm saidNo popcorn required here!


    At least... not yet! icon_twisted.gif


    Hopefully not! was trying to make this thread encouraging and positive icon_smile.gif


    Good job! *I feel all tingly inside* icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 09, 2014 5:49 PM GMT
    owl_bundy saidme personally...




    where is this coming from?
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    May 09, 2014 5:51 PM GMT
    JarIan said


    where is this coming from?


    I was wondering the same thing icon_neutral.gif
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    May 09, 2014 5:53 PM GMT
    Kuestion said
    JarIan said
    owl_bundy saidme personally...




    where is this coming from?


    I was wondering the same thing icon_neutral.gif



    How's your day? icon_smile.gif
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    May 09, 2014 5:57 PM GMT
    JarIan said
    Kuestion said
    JarIan said

    where is this coming from?

    I was wondering the same thing icon_neutral.gif


    How's your day? icon_smile.gif


    It's going well.

    BTW, how come you got a verification photo and aren't verified?
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    May 09, 2014 6:03 PM GMT
    Kuestion said
    JarIan said
    Kuestion said
    JarIan said
    owl_bundy saidme personally... i don't care BUT i really HATE ….

    where is this coming from?

    I was wondering the same thing icon_neutral.gif

    How's your day? icon_smile.gif

    It's going well.

    BTW, how come you got a verification photo and aren't verified?

    Kuestion and Jarlan, will you do us all a favor and trim out most of Owl's rant from your posts so we don't all have to scroll through it over and over? It's a positive thread and his outrage is like a turd in the punch bowl. Why multiply it.

    And Owl, don't make this all about you, ok? We know you're angry and we know many of the reasons why. But, you know, sour is as sour does. Sugar is nice with a little spice. You should try it sometime.
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    May 09, 2014 6:14 PM GMT
    MikeW666 said
    Kuestion said
    JarIan said
    Kuestion said
    JarIan said
    owl_bundy saidme personally... i don't care BUT i really HATE ….

    where is this coming from?

    I was wondering the same thing icon_neutral.gif

    How's your day? icon_smile.gif

    It's going well.

    BTW, how come you got a verification photo and aren't verified?

    Kuestion and Jarlan, will you do us all a favor and trim out most of Owl's rant from your posts so we don't all have to scroll through it over and over? It's a positive thread and his outrage is like a turd in the punch bowl. Why multiply it.

    And Owl, don't make this all about you, ok? We know you're angry and we know many of the reasons why. But, you know, sour is as sour does. Sugar is nice with a little spice. You should try it sometime.


    how to trim?
  • MikeW

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    May 09, 2014 6:18 PM GMT
    JarIan saidhow to trim?

    Edit your posts. Just go in, select most of his text and delete it, then submit.
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    May 09, 2014 6:19 PM GMT
    MikeW666 said
    JarIan saidhow to trim?

    Edit your posts. Just go in, select most of his text and delete it, then submit.



    thank you
  • HottJoe

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    May 09, 2014 6:23 PM GMT
    Why is everyone always trying to censor Pazzy? He's one of the posters that can participate in everything from politics, to health, to all things gay. He's not just in a clique or here for one thing only. I like him! icon_smile.gif