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    May 08, 2014 10:37 AM GMT
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    May 08, 2014 11:06 AM GMT
    So many things that this could be from and something that a therapist could prob get to the bottom of quickly, ever considered talking to one? If not you might want to, especially since it seems to be causing a major issue with your continued dating.



    But also remember this is just the internet so....I just may be a siri like bot. ha
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    May 08, 2014 12:03 PM GMT
    Sometimes hugging people or cuddling helps you feel more connected.
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    May 08, 2014 12:40 PM GMT
    Lol maybe because you want a relationship that doesn't sound like a business meeting?

    Also third date... Captain obviouses much... eck.. boring.

    Maybe you just don't want to hear it? Seems you already see it? Those things are important to hear though. It depends, maybe you'll want to hear it from a guy that you don't read so well. :/ ehhh?

    Maybe you're kidding yourself - you seem to travel a lot... Not really the tell tale sign of settling down..
    Maybe maybe maybe you're not being honest with yourself... Great spouses don't equate to great lives.
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    May 08, 2014 1:02 PM GMT
    Also you're 20 lol

    Maybe you want more from life than what that allows/provides/enables/asserts?

    Also game player? Cards are on the table? not to analyze language / read into this too much but, you seem to not want to face the reality you eloquently display knowledge of. You're dating

    Mental image: you're at the table and not ready to put your chip, being you on a card game lol.. dating is nothing negatively manipulative unless you go there - lol guilt complex formation - ahhh
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    May 08, 2014 1:04 PM GMT
    You have found the problem, and is that you are scared of your feelings. Most of the time when someone is scared of their feelings is because when you confess your feelings, you feel vulnerable, and easily damaged. Other thing might be that you are scared to compromise yourself, because you are scared to settle down. Both situations lead to a selfdestructing thinnking and doing, boycotting your relationships. More than a psychologist you need a counselor. My opinion of what you could do is:
    1)relax yourself and dont think about it too much, it could confuse you even more.
    2)try to do fun activities with him, you know, whe you are doing something that requires your attention, you forget those kind of things. Besides, it makes you more open to him, and by having great time with him, you might have a greater image of him.
    3)to have a deep bond with someone takes time, before that, you have to slap yourself, and even if it hurts, open yourself to him, I know this is cheezy, but its true. you need patience, and for that patience, you must keep seeing them, love is a constant fight, dont be scared if your feelings are true, when things are said truthfully, they are easily said and makes you feel free. You have to believe in what you say and in what he says. and yeah, Im cheezy, but its true...

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    May 08, 2014 2:01 PM GMT
    So maybe I'm just getting a little ahead of myself (what else is new, lol). Thanks for the responses. I'm sure being 20 has a lot to do with the confusion...no need to rush things.
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    May 09, 2014 1:29 PM GMT
    Bro... always follow your heart and you'll never be disappointed...
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    May 09, 2014 1:36 PM GMT
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  • tiger123

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    May 09, 2014 3:01 PM GMT
    Mcb is cute!!!
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    May 09, 2014 3:33 PM GMT
    …. I hate when someone deletes their original post….how are we to know how to respond?