not sure what just happened , but this sucks

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    May 08, 2014 1:23 PM GMT
    I met this guy on plenty of fish . We hit it off well. I went out with him for two dates but it seemed like everything was good. The first date he made supper for me and we watched netflix and cuddled all night. He kept telling me he liked being with me and he couldnt keep his hands off me. He would text me to make sure I got home safe. He texted me alot he is an actor who was in plays and a few tv shows. He kept telling me I wasnt agressive enough. He needs an agressive man . So i texted him back and said well if you feel that way maybe this wont work. He texted back saying he was confused . I said if you want someone like that , thats cool but i just met you so i need to get to know you. Hes like ok lets just go on our date .We went to the movies . During the movies and even the drive there he couldnt keep his hands off me. In my head im thinking this guy really likes me . We went back to his place after the movie and messed around a little . He showed me some of his pics from his acting . I showed him some of my wrestling stuff. Everything was cool. He said his friends are coming in for a few days and he will text me after they leave. When i got home i texted him no response. He texted me a few times i responded right away. Then i text him back and he ignored me for about three days . So finally i tell him wtf just happened i thought we hit it off. Hes like this just isnt the right time for us i have some things i need to take care of . I was like well thanks for the explanation but im really confused. Do you want to be friends cause we did get along well. Hes like yes i would lije that. Now im sitting here wondering wtf i did . I think hes still not over his past 4 yr relationship. icon_sad.gif
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    May 08, 2014 1:30 PM GMT
    hell thats weird, he is an actor, they are VERY unbalanced people :/
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    May 08, 2014 1:38 PM GMT
    he said we can talk later , if he texts me though i am going to ignore for about a week
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    May 08, 2014 1:40 PM GMT
    i would have to agree; people see the typical personality of any actor is very self centered wanting attention. they appear very un stable.

    He is just off a 4year relationship? It is going to take some time before he can put this behind him and think for himself again.

    Is he your sole mate? NO.
    Given his limitations he's doing very well with you. Sit down over coffee and talk. Have fun together

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    May 08, 2014 1:56 PM GMT
    So this time it really isnt me its him...ok ill give him space , and whatever if he wants to really be friends the doors always open. I think that because this was my first relationship possibility i just kinda expected better . Thanks guys
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    May 08, 2014 2:02 PM GMT
    mascmike35 saidhe said we can talk later , if he texts me though i am going to ignore for about a week

    I dated an actor for 2 years, even lived with him for nearly a year, once performed onstage with him ("Our Town"). Actors can be strange people, that don't think or behave like the rest of us. They may not be unbalanced as silverwolf94 says, but unconventionality is somewhat de rigueur for them. If you hook up with a professional actor be prepared for a strange ride. An actor can be a tough first relationship to get into, when you're just learning the game yourself.
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    May 08, 2014 2:13 PM GMT
    in a way i understand cause im kind of an actor too im a pro wrestler . However it just feels like theres something there. He says hes turned on too much ....makes complete sense to me lol. Hell no it doesnt .
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    May 08, 2014 2:32 PM GMT
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    May 08, 2014 2:52 PM GMT
    mascmike35 saidin a way i understand cause im kind of an actor too im a pro wrestler . However it just feels like theres something there. He says hes turned on too much ....makes complete sense to me lol. Hell no it doesnt .


    No, it sure doesn't. icon_sad.gif

    With that last statement, "He says he's turned on too much" I would get up, dust myself off, and walk away. I've heard a lot of excuses in my time, but that one takes the cake.
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    May 09, 2014 3:07 AM GMT
    I'd be curious to know more about the "aggressive"?
    He said he wanted aggression; did you get aggressive?
    He's coming out of a ltr where the guy wasn't what he wanted.
    -May need to find out what it was about the ex that turned him off.
    If that is your preference as well, move on; friend zone him.
    It may boil down to sexual preferences(top/bottom).
    Personally I've never gone wrong with throwing them up against the wall...second date of course.
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    May 10, 2014 6:19 AM GMT
    Some pretty broad generalizations being made here about actors - and I dont think that they're precise.

    On topic, It sounds like he does have some baggage issues; trying to shape you into a more aggressive person instead of just taking you as you are indicates to me that he may want you to be more like his ex, or his idea of the ideal partner for him.

    It sounds like he got carried away in the initial rush of romantic endorphins. Once the 'high' fades, people usually tend to take a step back and reassess the situation; taking a break from texting you, telling you he has "things to take care of", wanting to just be friends for now, etc.

    My advice would be to take a step back yourself and let him figure out what he wants to do.
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    May 10, 2014 8:15 AM GMT
    I'd say move on. This guy sounded he has a lot of things he needs to sort out. I don't think you want to deal with someone like that. He probably just needed someone to talk to and be with for those few days / weeks, that is why he texted you a lot before and not so much afterwards.
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    May 10, 2014 5:19 PM GMT
    Unfortunately this is atypical behavior of guy who believe there is something even better for them out there. Our gender and sexuality makes us fickle as fucks!

    Just leave him be and move on.
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    May 10, 2014 6:33 PM GMT
    I'd be willing to bet he's still talking to his ex.