Are you a 'Grumpy Man'?

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    May 08, 2014 2:59 PM GMT
    Grumpy Old Man syndrome is something that I've used at work for a long time. When I started there, I recall some old guys that never seemed happy about anything. 30 years later, I've become one of them, but it seems that it's not just limited to OLD guys either! I found these 5 stages interesting but rather scary that I feel I'm in the latter stages….yikes!

    This pretty much sums me up….well except I haven't noticed a decrease in my beard growth….YET!

    Men who suffer from this syndrome may experience a sense of feeling burned out, increased depression, increased irritability, increased anxiety, more nervousness, more joint complaints, reduced mental effectiveness, increased sweating, (and hot sweats in thirty per cent of those affected). They may have a need for more sleep or suffer sleep disturbances. They may notice muscular weakness, physical exhaustion, impaired sexual potency, a disturbed libido, and decreased beard growth.

    The writer states: I believe there are five ages of grumpiness:

    Whining teenager: The stage of life when he begins to change into an adult. Hormones transform him physically and mentally, lifting him high one moment and plunging him to depths of despair the next. He is frustrated because he is unwilling or unable to leave the protected environment of his home, yet despises the confines and constraints imposed on him by living there.

    Working man: He is under pressure from those in charge, or by the demands of his own business. He has financial concerns, deadlines, and responsibilities. He loses sleep at night and grabs 'food to go' during the day. His body is imbalanced. His grouchiness manifests itself in complaints about his job, co-workers, and the daily grind he has to endure.

    Mid-life: He has begun to age, "Into the lean and slipper'd pantaloon, With spectacles on nose" He has now attained the position he once strove for at work, has fathered children, and has a house, a mortgage, and a car. He peers in the mirror and realises he is no longer young. He worries that he is running out of time to fulfil his dreams and ambitions.

    Old age: He is a shell of his former self--both physically and mentally. He becomes invisible to those younger than him. He lacks a sense of purpose. He loses his firmness and assertiveness, and shrinks in stature and personality.

    The final stage where he becomes dependent on others. He is frustrated and frightened. Little wonder he is querulous


    Where do you think you might fit into this? Anyone else see this in themselves or others they know?


    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/carol-e-wyer/men-and-grumpiness_b_5266944.html
  • HottJoe

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    May 08, 2014 3:03 PM GMT
    Only when I haven't had my coffee.icon_evil.gif
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    May 08, 2014 3:18 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidOnly when I haven't had my coffee.icon_evil.gif

    Oh I hear that… I usually find this to be true…oh….about….every morning!
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    May 08, 2014 3:19 PM GMT
    Oh shut the hell up.
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    May 08, 2014 3:21 PM GMT
    Oh good, none of this applies to me. Splendid
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    May 08, 2014 3:21 PM GMT
    Sharkspeare saidOh shut the hell up.


    I see what you did there... you grumpy scamp!
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 08, 2014 3:25 PM GMT
    I think this is a VERY important topic and am appreciate of it being brought up!

    I've known a number of older men.. my grandfather being one of them, who were always bitching and complaining about something. My Dad isn't nearly as bad, but I have watched him take his "opinions" about things and coin some of them into "little bitchy comments" that creates an atmosphere of negativism. Now my Dad isn't negative or a bitch, so I bring his attention to the comments and encourage a more positive dialogue.

    We set habits when we are younger... do you want to turn into a crabby, bitchy old man later in life? Think about how you talk about those things in which you disagree.
    Some might be brought on by disease or health issues, but I strongly feel having a positive outlook and try and minimize those things which bring you down certainly leads to a longer and healthier life.....

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    May 08, 2014 3:29 PM GMT
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  • tj85016

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    May 08, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    "get the fuck off my lawn ya little bastards" icon_lol.gif
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    May 08, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    Funny timing of this topic. Just yesterday a bunch of our friends were all together, and for some silly reason I decided to be "Grumpy Man" with them. The premise was that my husband had pushed me out of the house way earlier than I'm accustomed, putting me in a bad mood (not entirely untrue). And we all had fun playing to it.

    As other friends would join us, the others would say: "Don't speak to Bob! He's in a grumpy mood today!" "What the Hell yah mean grumpy? I've never goddam grumpy!" And so we went half the afternoon.

    It was meant as a parody of the truly grumpy old men, that eb925guy correctly identifies. The "get off my lawn" guys, who in Florida literally (and legally) shoot trespassing kids dead. A reminder to me, and my similarly-aged friends in that high-risk group, of what we should NOT be like. But might be if we're not careful.

    Comedic parody helps us to recognize ourselves, and our flaws, and what we might become. Whether it's being grumpy old men or any other unpleasant thing.

    Fortunately we've got a tight and supportive group of friends, who won't tolerate any real grumpiness. If they can't mock it out of you, and teach you by example, they'll simply dump you from the circle. A very effective reparative therapy technique.
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    May 08, 2014 3:47 PM GMT
    Grumpy is my persona icon_razz.gif i have been compared to >> Victor Meldrew so many times icon_lol.gif oh and Frank Spencer from British comedy shows haha
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    May 08, 2014 3:51 PM GMT
    Dennis_1989 saidGrumpy is my persona icon_razz.gif i have been compared to >> Victor Meldrew so many times icon_lol.gif oh and Frank Spencer from British comedy shows haha

    But you're so young... icon_question.gif
  • jimmybig

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    May 08, 2014 3:58 PM GMT
    Grumpy is a perception that we give-sometimes because we are tired,running low on steam,it makes it easier at work.But; I believe it is a state of mind that we consciously or unconsciously control. Smile-act happy the world smiles back-growl,fuss and people leave you alone. It is a choice!!icon_smile.gif
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    May 08, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Dennis_1989 saidGrumpy is my persona icon_razz.gif i have been compared to >> Victor Meldrew so many times icon_lol.gif oh and Frank Spencer from British comedy shows haha

    But you're so young... icon_question.gif
    icon_lol.gif i know haha just think what i will be like when older icon_eek.gif
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    May 08, 2014 4:07 PM GMT
    from the teen years to retirement I bet having a functional support system around you makes you less regressive grumpy. all starts by recognizing; self love, a husband and or a nice family, even a loving pet is your biggest investment.

    exception / risk:
    That being said living in a toxic family or chosen a bad husband can make your life hell.
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    May 08, 2014 4:08 PM GMT
    I might not be pretty , but i for sure aren't grumpy icon_smile.gif
  • MikeW

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    May 08, 2014 4:12 PM GMT
    kt8320 said
    Sharkspeare saidOh shut the hell up.
    I see what you did there... you grumpy scamp!
    No, no, Sharkey is being direct, authoritative, that's not grumpy at all. icon_mad.gif
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    May 08, 2014 4:13 PM GMT
    Ain't no way I'm no Grumpy Old Man...

    Now git offa My land before I SHOOT Yer worthless hide to Tarnation!!!

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  • MikeW

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    May 08, 2014 4:15 PM GMT
    jimmybig saidGrumpy is a perception that we give-sometimes because we are tired,running low on steam,it makes it easier at work.But; I believe it is a state of mind that we consciously or unconsciously control. Smile-act happy the world smiles back-growl,fuss and people leave you alone. It is a choice!!icon_smile.gif
    Well said, big jim. I *like* to be grumpy some of the time icon_smile.gif But not all the time. Being aware when I am so I can ask myself, "is this one of those times when you *want* to be grumpy?"… so I can choose to be or not… that's important.

    Now my dad, he was grumpy. Most all the time, especially in his dotage. Never had a nice thing to say about anything or anyone. Not pleasant to be around, for sure.
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    May 08, 2014 4:27 PM GMT
    Grumpy syndrome huh? In my day we called it not getting enough dick.
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    May 08, 2014 4:32 PM GMT
    I am never grumpy, just bitchy.
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    May 08, 2014 4:38 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard saidI am never grumpy, just bitchy.

    That's funny, because I've never seen you be either.
    Anyway, I'm not grumpy. I'm grouchy. There's a difference, although I can't tell you what it is.
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    May 08, 2014 4:42 PM GMT
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    dudewithabeard saidI am never grumpy, just bitchy.

    That's funny, because I've never seen you be either.
    Anyway, I'm not grumpy. I'm grouchy. There's a difference, although I can't tell you what it is.


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    May 08, 2014 4:53 PM GMT
    Sharkspeare said
    dudewithabeard saidI am never grumpy, just bitchy.

    That's funny, because I've never seen you be either.
    Anyway, I'm not grumpy. I'm grouchy. There's a difference, although I can't tell you what it is.


    It's a rare occurrence, but when I am .. watch out!! icon_evil.gif


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    May 08, 2014 4:57 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Dennis_1989 saidGrumpy is my persona icon_razz.gif i have been compared to >> Victor Meldrew so many times icon_lol.gif oh and Frank Spencer from British comedy shows haha

    But you're so young... icon_question.gif


    No, you're supposed to say " I don't believe it".