the perils of a bisexual man

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    May 08, 2014 10:29 PM GMT
    some think that we, bisexual men, are confused and closeted. that we are simply selfish pricks who want the best of both worlds. a man in bed, and a woman by our side.

    it is annoying to be pooled into such a label. i genuinely enjoy the company of both genders. i am aroused by both. my ideal scenario would be getting caught up in some twisted three-way relationship. but that's just twisted me.

    i have had my share of experiences. met some great guys and girls along the way. but i have met very few people who were okay with the fact that i swing both ways.

    so i am wondering, kinda new here, and checking the pool to see who's around. who's part of my breed? who thinks we r full of crap?
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    May 08, 2014 10:55 PM GMT
    Bisexual also.
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    May 08, 2014 11:00 PM GMT
    I'm probably a Kinsey 4.5 or so.
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    May 08, 2014 11:03 PM GMT
    Sharkspeare saidI'm probably a Kinsey 4.5 or so.


    haha. excellent. so by more than inclined, u would have to be drunk?
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    May 08, 2014 11:09 PM GMT
    kayakolic said who thinks we r full of crap?

    I think, or at least I hope, most people have moved away from that today. Some of us who are homosexual may have contributed to that image by trying to use the word "bisexual" as the first step out the closet, a disservice to those who really are bisexual.
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    May 08, 2014 11:27 PM GMT
    Iceblink said
    kayakolic said Some of us who are homosexual may have contributed to that image by trying to use the word "bisexual" as the first step out the closet, a disservice to those who really are bisexual.


    ya. if that were the case, it's a bit of an inaccurate bitch.
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    kayakolic said
    Sharkspeare saidI'm probably a Kinsey 4.5 or so.


    haha. excellent. so by more than inclined, u would have to be drunk?
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    May 08, 2014 11:41 PM GMT
    I always wonder what the world of bisexuals is like.

    I kinda wish I were bi. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 08, 2014 11:43 PM GMT
    kayakolic saidsome think that we, bisexual men, are confused and closeted. that we are simply selfish pricks who want the best of both worlds. a man in bed, and a woman by our side.

    it is annoying to be pooled into such a label. i genuinely enjoy the company of both genders. i am aroused by both. my ideal scenario would be getting caught up in some twisted three-way relationship. but that's just twisted me.

    i have had my share of experiences. met some great guys and girls along the way. but i have met very few people who were okay with the fact that i swing both ways.

    so i am wondering, kinda new here, and checking the pool to see who's around. who's part of my breed? who thinks we r full of crap?



    Your quote above alludes to what I'm always wondering about bisexuals... Is it inherently more difficult for a bisexual to be in a long term monogamous relationship if part of their basic sexual desires needs to be fulfilled by being with both men and women? As a versatile gay guy, for example, it would be difficult for me to be in a relationship with a completely exclusive top or bottom.

    In other words, if you like both the P and the D, is it truly possible to forever swear off either for the sake of a long term monogamous relationship?

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    May 08, 2014 11:44 PM GMT
    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREshawnathan said

    He has children.


    there probably is a lame hangover joke in the that, but i am not going to try !
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    May 08, 2014 11:51 PM GMT
    kt8320 said

    Your quote above alludes to what I'm always wondering about bisexuals... Is it inherently more difficult for a bisexual to be in a long term monogamous relationship



    i never succeed in maintaining a long-term relationship. but i think it's because i have never really settled in a place for over a couple of years since i was a kid. that being said, i don't think i have met a bisexual guy who has been in a relationship that lasted (well, maybe i know some guys that are in longterm relationships, but don't know that they are bisexual). it is however funny to note that i know a few bisexual woman who are in very healthy longterm relationships - with guys! odd.

    but there must be some who have broken these norms. sexuality is evolving. and i figure once all these stigmas break down, people can simply be in relationship with people and things would not carry the weight of their labels. thereabouts. or whatever. i think i am half asleep and should go to bed : /
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    May 09, 2014 12:25 AM GMT
    kayakolic said
    kt8320 said

    Your quote above alludes to what I'm always wondering about bisexuals... Is it inherently more difficult for a bisexual to be in a long term monogamous relationship



    i never succeed in maintaining a long-term relationship. but i think it's because i have never really settled in a place for over a couple of years since i was a kid. that being said, i don't think i have met a bisexual guy who has been in a relationship that lasted (well, maybe i know some guys that are in longterm relationships, but don't know that they are bisexual). it is however funny to note that i know a few bisexual woman who are in very healthy longterm relationships - with guys! odd.

    but there must be some who have broken these norms. sexuality is evolving. and i figure once all these stigmas break down, people can simply be in relationship with people and things would not carry the weight of their labels. thereabouts. or whatever. i think i am half asleep and should go to bed : /


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    May 09, 2014 12:31 AM GMT
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    shocker, eh?!! stranger things r real!
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    May 09, 2014 12:50 AM GMT
    If I am single I am bisexual
    If I am in a relationship with a woman I am heterosexual
    If I am in a relationship with a man I am homosexual


    People do not understand bisexuals, that is all. Just like gay people do not need everyones acceptence of their lifestyles and they will not change for anyone, I will be the same way, regardless.
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    May 09, 2014 1:00 AM GMT
    RadRTT saidIf I am single I am bisexual
    If I am in a relationship with a woman I am heterosexual
    If I am in a relationship with a man I am homosexual


    People do not understand bisexuals, that is all. Just like gay people do not need everyones acceptence of their lifestyles and they will not change for anyone, I will be the same way, regardless.


    This answer makes some sense to me. Thanks Rad!
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    May 09, 2014 1:04 AM GMT
    I am thoroughly Gay Identified but have no problems with Bi Dudes and have dated a few.
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    May 09, 2014 1:04 AM GMT
    kt8320 said
    RadRTT saidIf I am single I am bisexual
    If I am in a relationship with a woman I am heterosexual
    If I am in a relationship with a man I am homosexual


    People do not understand bisexuals, that is all. Just like gay people do not need everyones acceptence of their lifestyles and they will not change for anyone, I will be the same way, regardless.


    This answer makes some sense to me. Thanks Rad!


    I'm gay. I'm not a lifestyle, lol. icon_wink.gif
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    May 09, 2014 1:08 AM GMT
    I think bisexual people are just people like everyone else. I don't think they are in the closet or all that crap. I have to say though if I was dating a bisexual guy it would gross me out that he fantasizes about girls too lol.
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    May 09, 2014 1:10 AM GMT
    Hmm, this is always an interesting debate. I personally enjoy the presence of both genders, and actually, I am genuinely upset that I can't have both.

    I don't know if anyone else feels the same way, but I -want- to be attracted to women. The ones in my life have always been the most supportive, the most caring, charismatic, and funny.
    We mesh in a way that often doesn't work with men.
    There's an openness to women that you don't get with men.

    In all seriousness, my experience with men has been, for the most part, quite boring and face. Any attempt at spiritual communion is always face.
    I'm not sure why this is, but I think we are socially conditioned as males to not take each other very seriously.

    I'm making a concentrated effort to stay away from stereotypes, but I find that very difficult when it is the sum of my experience interacting with the two sexes.

    I don't believe there is such thing as a man who is both parts emotionally available, and strong. He is purely idealized, by each and every one of us. I'll believe it when I see it.
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    May 09, 2014 1:12 AM GMT
    I had a stereotyped opinion of bisexuals as "greedy people who couldn't make up their mind." That hanged when I attended college and took a human sexuality course. Our professor was amazing (I still chat with her every once in a while to this day).

    In essence she stated that bisexuals are just individuals who see people as exactly that, people. They are attracted to the person as they are regardless of their sex. They don't let bits and pieces deter them away from wanting a connection/ sex/ a relationship/ or whatever they intend from that person that they are attracted to.

    After hearing this it opened me up to be more understanding and perceive bisexuals differently.
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    May 09, 2014 1:15 AM GMT
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    RadRTT saidIf I am single I am bisexual
    If I am in a relationship with a woman I am heterosexual
    If I am in a relationship with a man I am homosexual


    People do not understand bisexuals, that is all. Just like gay people do not need everyones acceptence of their lifestyles and they will not change for anyone, I will be the same way, regardless.


    This answer makes some sense to me. Thanks Rad!


    I'm gay. I'm not a lifestyle, lol. icon_wink.gif


    I always thought of You as a flavor...
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    May 09, 2014 1:18 AM GMT
    Cash said
    meninlove said
    kt8320 said
    RadRTT saidIf I am single I am bisexual
    If I am in a relationship with a woman I am heterosexual
    If I am in a relationship with a man I am homosexual


    People do not understand bisexuals, that is all. Just like gay people do not need everyones acceptence of their lifestyles and they will not change for anyone, I will be the same way, regardless.


    This answer makes some sense to me. Thanks Rad!


    I'm gay. I'm not a lifestyle, lol. icon_wink.gif


    I always thought of You as a flavor...


    Well. I'm Bill's favourite flavor and he really likes t-

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    May 09, 2014 1:21 AM GMT
    Here.. and bisexual.

    I relate to everything you said in your OP except this...

    "my ideal scenario would be getting caught up in some twisted three-way relationship. but that's just twisted me."

    *Shrugs*

    Just because I'm bi doesn't mean I don't want a monogamous relationship. I do. And I have one. With a man.

    Straight people face temptation while in a relationship. Gay people face temptation while in a relationship. So do Bisexuals. It doesn't mean they're not happy with who their with, nor does it mean they're going to cheat or jilt the one they're with for the illusive "greener grass" on the other side.

    Unfortunately, in my experience? A large portion of the gay population doesn't believe that.

    Fortunately for me? I found someone who I love that loves me, trusts me, and sees me for who I am, not just what can get my dick hard.
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    May 09, 2014 1:30 AM GMT
    TwisttheLeaf said

    Unfortunately, in my experience? A large portion of the gay population doesn't believe that.

    Fortunately for me? I found someone who I love that loves me, trusts me, and sees me for who I am, not just what can get my dick hard.


    Unfortunately, I used to feel this way myself. I wasn't sure if a bisexual man could be with a gay man without wanting a girl on the side eventually. But as I met and talked to some more bisexual men, while I did meet a few who wanted both a man and a woman, I have met a few who felt they could be monogamous.

    So I give bisexual guys the benefit of the doubt. Actions speak louder than words and everyone deserves a chance.
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    May 09, 2014 1:48 AM GMT
    RadRTT saidIf I am single I am bisexual
    If I am in a relationship with a woman I am heterosexual
    If I am in a relationship with a man I am homosexual


    that is possibly the simplest and most logical breakdown. *tips hat* except for the fact that should i ever be fortunate enough to end up in a three-way deal with a guy and a girl i'ld be known as a ... rrrr transgender?