Does music affect how you feel about a guy?

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    Jan 03, 2009 6:21 AM GMT
    Does music affect how you feel about a guy?
    Can it really tell a lot about him?
    I was on one guy's profile and was like "awe" icon_redface.gif , u kno?
    what's your opinion? icon_question.gif
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    Jan 03, 2009 6:22 AM GMT
    a fuck nut is a fuck nut, with good background music, hes a fuck nut with good music taste.
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    Jan 03, 2009 6:27 AM GMT
    I have guilty pleasures in music. I would hope that the entirety of my being wouldn't be written off because of them. The only thing that would be a deal breaker is if they didn't like music at all.
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:03 AM GMT
    lilTanker saida fuck nut is a fuck nut, with good background music, hes a fuck nut with good music taste.



    uh, okay..... icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:07 AM GMT
    am I being that cryptic... no... music has nothing to do with it.
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:08 AM GMT
    If he likes what I consider shit music or doesn't like music at all or hates my music or sings/plays badly or sing/plays awesome or is tone-deaf or Jack Johnson or sings Karaoke like it's a career path or does tribal drums on the kitchen kettles....

    Who cares?! icon_razz.gif

    I do admit liking the same music is an initial attraction but in the long run, it doesn't matter... if he actually has more personality than the stuff he plays on the stereo. icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:09 AM GMT
    I think that music can tell a lot about a person, but one would hope that it isn't the deciding factor if someone wanted to be with me or any person for that matter. I mean my music tastes are all over the place, I'm a huge fan of the Dead Kennedys, but can get down to house remixes as well, love the rap group A Tribe Called Quest but may have a few country songs too. I think it shows that I'm open-minded about many sectors of my life and besides there are much more important reasons why one shouldn't date a person.
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:13 AM GMT
    nirvanadude saidI think that music can tell a lot about a person, but one would hope that it isn't the deciding factor if someone wanted to be with me or any person for that matter. I mean my music tastes are all over the place, I'm a huge fan of the Dead Kennedys, but can get down to house remixes as well, love the rap group A Tribe Called Quest but may have a few country songs too. I think it shows that I'm open-minded about many sectors of my life and besides there are much more important reasons why one shouldn't date a person.


    this is a better response, yeah I'm curious if it can tell a lot about a guy, not that it is a deciding factor or anything....
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:52 AM GMT
    Actually music means a lot to me.. I think it tells a lot about a person and about their personality, which in turn reveals whether the two people are more compatible. I wouldn't turn someone away with different taste, but someone who likes the similar music is definitely a huge plus.
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:14 AM GMT
    Musical taste is hardly something worth turning down a guy. As long as they value music in some respect and have different genres that appeal to them. The only turnoffs are:

    A) someone who exclusively likes only a single genre and abhors all others, you know the types who can ONLY listen to hip-hop, trance, hardcore, metal.....and get pissed when something different comes on the radio.

    B) someone who has NO affinity for music whatsoever.

    I met up w a guy at Bumbershoot two years ago (local Seattle music festival) and he admitted that it was his first concert ever at 21 years of age. The guy is from an upper-middle class background similar to myself, nothing to prevent him from enjoying music. I asked him what kinds of music he liked and he had nothing, could not name a single artist he liked. That to me signifies a significant void in one's life, especially at 21. I tend to associate having a connection to music as having a connection to some sort of spirituality, so his not being able to appreciate music was definitely a turnoff. He might as well have told me he was a virgin.
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:34 AM GMT
    I avoid people that say this:


    "I like ALL forms of music, except rap and country."


    gay or straight. those people bug me.

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    Jan 03, 2009 12:16 PM GMT
    vindog saidI avoid people that say this:


    "I like ALL forms of music, except rap and country."


    gay or straight. those people bug me.



    Sadly the only country I have found to like is Gavin Degraw and Johnny Cash.
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    Jan 03, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
    I know what ya' mean. Oh, and not attempting to sound silly..but music has a fair deal to do with whether or not someone works out with me or not. Why? Simply because it's a big radio fight otherwise which leads to fighting over things that have utterly nothing to do with the initiator and are more severe, which might say something about my emotional capacity. Lol. Anyway, I know that the music I enjoy expresses a lot about me and a guy would be wise to take the hint. Lol. Am I acting my age (rhetorical)?
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    Jan 03, 2009 4:31 PM GMT
    Adnoh said
    vindog saidI avoid people that say this:


    "I like ALL forms of music, except rap and country."


    gay or straight. those people bug me.



    Sadly the only country I have found to like is Gavin Degraw and Johnny Cash.



    Gavin' Degraw's not country, unless he did some earlier work that we all haven't heard on the mainstream stations...just fyi
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    Jan 03, 2009 7:54 PM GMT
    I am with MZ on this one. I cannot imagine dating a guy that does not like or appreciate music (my brother comes close to that rare person).

    My partner of 11 years (today!) likes r&b and hip-hop more than I do. When we started going out I would cringe anytime he started watching a rap "song" on the video stations. As he as gotten older his taste as gravitated more towards alternative pop/rock like the Killers or Coldplay, while I have gotten to like more hip-hop like Kanye West. Right now we are in a good place in terms of IPod playlists. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:02 PM GMT
    lilTanker saida fuck nut is a fuck nut, with good background music, hes a fuck nut with good music taste.


    SERIOUSLY!!!! Of course, music is more authentic than the crap people write in their profiles. I'd say it's a more honest profile trait. Unless it's like people that only get into music because it's a cool music, etc...

    I don't mind a guy that likes different music. I only have two exes that share enjoyment in the same music choices. The rest I could just stand.
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:04 PM GMT
    I think nirvanadude said it best. For me it's not necessarily a deal breaker, but it's an indication of how open minded they are. And it could be indication of how open minded they are about other things in life.
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:24 PM GMT
    Liking the same music can be very important at times, like on long cars trips, or when wanting to attend a concert together.

    We're an older gay couple, and true to our generation we both really like Broadway show tunes. We almost always tune to non-stop Broadway music on our car's satellite radio. And since we already know the lyrics to almost every successful show ever performed on stage, we just sing our little hearts out together, especially on longer trips. Believe it or not, it's a wonderful bonding experience.

    But that wouldn't work for either of us, if the other wanted to hear rap music, or country. We'd both jump out the window first before we'd listen to that. We also enjoy serious classical music, and opera, and will switch to that if the Broadway selection they're playing is a dog. And at Christmas we also listen to satellite channels that play all traditional holiday music, singing to that as well.

    At home we often listen to different things in separate rooms, but nothing either of us wouldn't enjoy, too. And we love to watch movie musicals together on TV. I think when music becomes a source of segregation & isolation, you've got a problem.
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    Jan 03, 2009 9:06 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa saidLiking the same music can be very important at times, like on long cars trips, or when wanting to attend a concert together.


    I tend to be very possessive with music on long car trips if I'm driving. Music that irritates or bores me will tend to affect my concentration and driving ability. This is the only time when I'm concerned about someone else's music choices.

    But as said before, similar music tastes can be a plus, but different tastes is certainly not a minus.


    davidp7 saidI met up w a guy at Bumbershoot two years ago (local Seattle music festival) and he admitted that it was his first concert ever at 21 years of age. The guy is from an upper-middle class background similar to myself, nothing to prevent him from enjoying music. I asked him what kinds of music he liked and he had nothing, could not name a single artist he liked. That to me signifies a significant void in one's life, especially at 21. I tend to associate having a connection to music as having a connection to some sort of spirituality, so his not being able to appreciate music was definitely a turnoff. He might as well have told me he was a virgin.


    Perhaps because I'm not much knowledgeable about music in general, but I find it difficult to describe the kind of songs I like rather than "Rock", and I tend to gravitate toward specific songs rather than particular artists, so it's hard for me to name one or two that I really like either. My playlist is quite a hodgepodge. I hope this does not qualify me under your category, davidp, because I certainly do enjoy music very much.
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    Jan 03, 2009 11:31 PM GMT
    davidp7 saidMusical taste is hardly something worth turning down a guy. As long as they value music in some respect and have different genres that appeal to them. The only turnoffs are:

    A) someone who exclusively likes only a single genre and abhors all others, you know the types who can ONLY listen to hip-hop, trance, hardcore, metal.....and get pissed when something different comes on the radio.

    B) someone who has NO affinity for music whatsoever.

    I met up w a guy at Bumbershoot two years ago (local Seattle music festival) and he admitted that it was his first concert ever at 21 years of age. The guy is from an upper-middle class background similar to myself, nothing to prevent him from enjoying music. I asked him what kinds of music he liked and he had nothing, could not name a single artist he liked. That to me signifies a significant void in one's life, especially at 21. I tend to associate having a connection to music as having a connection to some sort of spirituality, so his not being able to appreciate music was definitely a turnoff. He might as well have told me he was a virgin.



    HEY! icon_mad.gif there's nothing wrong with being a virgin.
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    Jan 04, 2009 12:41 AM GMT
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    davidp7 saidMusical taste is hardly something worth turning down a guy. As long as they value music in some respect and have different genres that appeal to them. The only turnoffs are:

    A) someone who exclusively likes only a single genre and abhors all others, you know the types who can ONLY listen to hip-hop, trance, hardcore, metal.....and get pissed when something different comes on the radio.

    B) someone who has NO affinity for music whatsoever.

    I met up w a guy at Bumbershoot two years ago (local Seattle music festival) and he admitted that it was his first concert ever at 21 years of age. The guy is from an upper-middle class background similar to myself, nothing to prevent him from enjoying music. I asked him what kinds of music he liked and he had nothing, could not name a single artist he liked. That to me signifies a significant void in one's life, especially at 21. I tend to associate having a connection to music as having a connection to some sort of spirituality, so his not being able to appreciate music was definitely a turnoff. He might as well have told me he was a virgin.



    HEY! icon_mad.gif there's nothing wrong with being a virgin.


    right on, there is nothing wrong with being a virigin!
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    Jan 04, 2009 5:31 AM GMT
    Thanks icon_smile.gif