Feel bad about telling my mom that I'm gay

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    May 10, 2014 7:01 PM GMT
    My dad died in February and everyone in my family is still sort of in disbelief. He had cancer for a year and a half, but he suddenly took a turn for the worst and died about two weeks later. I have two brothers similar to me in age and I know they are both gay as well, but neither of them know that I know (both are very closeted like me). My mom seems to be doing alright, but obviously she's going through a rough time.

    I want to be open about my sexuality but I am discouraged by the complexity of the situation. While I am very doubtful that my mom would hate me if she knew I were gay, I know that it would make her very sad. I'd imagine that after I were to come out, my brothers would probably do the same. I actually don't know how she would take that, but I don't think it would be positively. I don't want to "throw" anything else on her at this time, but I'm sick of my life. I've been so unhappy for a long time, and I feel like in order to move forward and find happiness in life, I need to be more open about my sexuality. While my dad was sick, I made sure to remain secretive about my sexuality because I didn't want to put him in any more pain than what he was already experiencing.


    Any advice?
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    May 10, 2014 7:04 PM GMT
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    May 10, 2014 7:07 PM GMT
    Of course I don't know you or your mother, and I'm sad to hear about your father. But if you have been unhappy for a long time, you need to come out.

    It takes time for a parent to learn new expectations (grandchildren, etc. ) so give her time. But she will be happy to see you happier, and she will be happy to know the real you at last.

    I've lost both parents and my partner. It's hard, but life goes on. If your Dad died in February, your Mom should be able to cope. Be open and honest, surround her with the love and support she needs, and let time heal you all.

    Best wishes.
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    May 10, 2014 7:08 PM GMT
    According to his record of posts, both mom AND dad died back in February...FAIL!
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    QUOTE Feb 09, 2014 8:02 PM
    This might be long...
    I'm a 20 year old guy. My mom died two weeks ago after battling cancer for a year and a half. I hate where I go to college. I haven't made any new friends since high school, and because I dislike where I go to college, I have no motivation to get involved and make friends here. Transferring isn't really an option because of financial reasons, etc.


    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3677364/


    That's some family ya got there...
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    May 10, 2014 7:15 PM GMT
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    QUOTE Feb 09, 2014 8:02 PM
    This might be long...
    I'm a 20 year old guy. My mom died two weeks ago after battling cancer for a year and a half. I hate where I go to college. I haven't made any new friends since high school, and because I dislike where I go to college, I have no motivation to get involved and make friends here. Transferring isn't really an option because of financial reasons, etc.


    Oooooh, busted.
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    May 10, 2014 7:16 PM GMT
    lol OP is a headcase for real.
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    May 10, 2014 7:17 PM GMT
    bon_pan saidAccording to his record of posts, both mom AND dad died back in February...FAIL!


    Huh, and I always thought of you as a pitcher.

    Good catch panda.

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    tinabob saidThis might be long...
    I'm a 20 year old guy. My mom died two weeks ago after battling cancer for a year and a half...
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    May 10, 2014 7:18 PM GMT
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    May 10, 2014 7:43 PM GMT
    tinabob saidMy dad died in February and everyone in my family is still sort of in disbelief. He had cancer for a year and a half, but he suddenly took a turn for the worst and died about two weeks later. I have two brothers similar to me in age and I know they are both gay as well, but neither of them know that I know (both are very closeted like me). My mom seems to be doing alright, but obviously she's going through a rough time.

    I want to be open about my sexuality but I am discouraged by the complexity of the situation. While I am very doubtful that my mom would hate me if she knew I were gay, I know that it would make her very sad. I'd imagine that after I were to come out, my brothers would probably do the same. I actually don't know how she would take that, but I don't think it would be positively. I don't want to "throw" anything else on her at this time, but I'm sick of my life. I've been so unhappy for a long time, and I feel like in order to move forward and find happiness in life, I need to be more open about my sexuality. While my dad was sick, I made sure to remain secretive about my sexuality because I didn't want to put him in any more pain than what he was already experiencing.


    Any advice?

    Quoting the OP because I see in the past he has changed his post and thread title when the thread fell apart.
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    May 10, 2014 7:56 PM GMT
    Feel bad about telling my mom that I'm gay


    Don't wanna forget about that catchy title either!!!
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