"Straight" guy hitting on me?

  • sexyjam

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    May 11, 2014 4:02 AM GMT
    I was talking to this this "straight" guy today and he was very touchy, feely with me. Im wondering if he is truly straight? Anyone have any thoughts?
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    May 11, 2014 4:20 AM GMT
    Straights guys can be touchy-feely too.
    Don't assume he's hitting on you.
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    May 11, 2014 8:22 AM GMT
    You'll never know until you ask now will you?
  • Nhlakz

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    May 11, 2014 8:49 AM GMT
    Things are not as they seem always.....people need to stop thinking that being gay is some sort of a regime and one needs to looks stereotipical...theres varied kinds of gays and straight people.
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    May 11, 2014 12:39 PM GMT
    Where does he touch you?
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    May 11, 2014 1:06 PM GMT
    What sort of misplaced ego allows such stupid thinking that anyone who shows some sort of affection must be hitting on you?
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    May 11, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidWhat sort of misplaced ego allows such stupid thinking that anyone who shows some sort of affection must be hitting on you?


    Jealousy doesn't look good on you. Or anything with horizontal stripes.
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    May 11, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    TheRealTeddyBear saidtouch HIM and see what happens icon_wink.gif


    LOL..
    OP will be on the 6 O'clock news.
  • tango02

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    May 11, 2014 11:49 PM GMT
    a lot of so called straight men do have some same sex attractions, even if he prefers women, he may still be interested in you
  • buddycat

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    May 12, 2014 7:13 AM GMT
    Sometimes straight guys just joke around. Because a straight guy says "where is (me), I want to F... him in the A... doesn't mean he does or if one rubs my leg, doesn't mean he is actually into me. I had a straight friend hold my hand and freak his girlfriend out, still means nothing.
  • being_human

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    May 12, 2014 5:33 PM GMT
    perhaps he had mistaken u for a girl. happens.

    seriously though..we take things too much to our favour, and its mostly not flirting.
  • sexyjam

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    May 13, 2014 5:21 PM GMT
    being_human saidperhaps he had mistaken u for a girl. happens.

    seriously though..we take things too much to our favour, and its mostly not flirting.


    Id be happy to show you how much of a "girl" I am buddy
  • sexyjam

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    May 13, 2014 5:23 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    smartmoney saidWhat sort of misplaced ego allows such stupid thinking that anyone who shows some sort of affection must be hitting on you?


    Jealousy doesn't look good on you. Or anything with horizontal stripes.


    I agree. Jealousy does not look good on you but you don't look good anyway so
  • MC14

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    May 13, 2014 6:10 PM GMT
    Or he might be testing you to see wil you reject him when he wants to f*** you, cause sometimes us guys can't control our lust, so we wil look anywhere for a 2nd option no matter what... Just being honest
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    May 13, 2014 7:28 PM GMT
    I agree that there are so many possibilities with this one. I think this is where you'd have to be in contact with the person multiple times to really get a sense of whether he's touchy feely with everyone, his personality is the same or different with you, if you sense there's more desire there. Guys range on the scale and str8 (or supposed) guys may have some erotic feelings for guys and touching is a way of expressing that.

    I'd say, let your instinct kick in and be subtle in your response. If he's interested in more, I think you'll figure it out quickly, otherwise you'll see that there's no reaction and it's just the way he is.

    Of course it could be because you're a hot guy. I mean, who wouldn't want to be touchy feely with you?
  • Nobrand

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    May 13, 2014 10:06 PM GMT
    Of course it could be because you're a hot guy. I mean, who wouldn't want to be touchy feely with you?
    This!+
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    Jul 02, 2014 2:53 PM GMT
    It's a shame that physical affection between guys is so rare that we're socialized to read it as sexual by default.

    Not saying it wasn't in this case, but in other parts of the world (even in places that are far more repressed on LGBT issues) guys hug, hold hands and even kiss each other without reading anything into it.

    I'm very affectionate with guys I know well, regardless of whether I find them attractive or not, just because I like to fuck with the norms. I use two of my good friends as a back or head rest when we're chilling out, right in front of the other and whoever else is around.

    What sounds different here is that it sounds like you just met this guy, which makes me wonder if there isn't more to it, as you did. I'm far less likely to touch a guy I don't know well for fear it would be misread.
  • radtot

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    Jul 02, 2014 10:53 PM GMT
    i have a straight colleague also want to hit on me. Maybe because we are working here in Middle East(considering some reasons) and Hes trying to kiss me also. But as much as i can do, i resist. Because he is a married man and we're working together.

    by the way he doesnt know my sexual orientation.
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    Jul 03, 2014 9:27 PM GMT
    Lol Maybe he just wants a cuddle buddy or some bromance in his life. It's not gay for a straight dude to lay on top of a gay dude to cuddle ya know. icon_redface.gificon_wink.gif

    *Confessed my past history with straight dudes. icon_eek.gif
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    Jul 03, 2014 9:39 PM GMT
    sexyjam saidI was talking to this this "straight" guy today and he was very touchy, feely with me. Im wondering if he is truly straight? Anyone have any thoughts?


    Try having an actual straight guy rub your inner thigh and him and the other guy sitting at the table were chuckling, that happened to me during Biology lab in high school just before I thought the possibility that I could be bi. I don't care if he was trying to make fun of me, I wasn't the one with another guys thigh under my hand.
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    Jul 05, 2014 12:34 AM GMT
    There are many ways to see this. Number one, if you ever wonder why straight guys are so afraid of physical contact with gay men, part of the reason is because we take ALL physical contact as sexual. HOWEVER, that being said, I've ended up having sex with a lot of "straight" men that started out with them casually touching me. The safest thing to do is to assume this contact is not meant to be sexual. If they truly want more to happen, they almost always will pursue it, even if they have to get drunk first. icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 19, 2015 12:15 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidWhat sort of misplaced ego allows such stupid thinking that anyone who shows some sort of affection must be hitting on you?

    great response....
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    Apr 19, 2015 1:19 AM GMT
    Stay cool. If anything happens, just go from there. Chill.
  • mybud

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    Apr 19, 2015 5:23 AM GMT
    I think it's wishful thinking on your part...
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    Apr 19, 2015 2:18 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidWhat sort of misplaced ego allows such stupid thinking that anyone who shows some sort of affection must be hitting on you?


    +1