Something strange happened to me after going to the bar, I need some help figuring this out!!

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    May 12, 2014 2:45 AM GMT
    So the other day my best friend and I went out to some local bars, he was driving, so I ended up drinking a lot more than I wanted to. On our way home, I was hammered and rested my head down in my hands. He was asking me if I was feeling ok, which I was! I was only drunk and exhausted, I didn't throw up or anything like that.

    The interesting part of the story happened next. He started rubbing my back as he was driving, and the whole time I was thinking to myself, "What the hell is going on?" Don't get me wrong, I loved it and there was something about it that felt really nice. And it wasn't like it was a few seconds, it was the entire ride back to my house (like 10 or 15 minutes). Just us talking as he rubbed my back.

    I'm not out at all, and he broke up with his girlfriend recently. And we have some of the best heart to heart conversation, as cheesy as that sounds, but I want all of your opinions on what to think of what happened! Or if I'm just thinking to hard about it?
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    May 12, 2014 2:49 AM GMT
    You should have hopped on it while you were drunk. This would give you and him plausible deniability.
    Buttsecks could have been awesome, but that opportunity is already out of the barn.
    What will you do next time?

    P.S. Pack rubbers and lube next time.
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    May 12, 2014 3:31 AM GMT
    There is such a thing as comforting another human being who isn't feeling well, so it may have been nothing more than that.

    Or, he may have been expressing physical attraction.

    The next time you see him, why don't you thank him for being such a caring friend, and see how he responds?
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    May 12, 2014 4:51 PM GMT
    Sounds like he was just being a good friend and was trying to comfort you. 21st century heterosexual guys are different than what we have all been used to be. they are not afraid to touch and tell other guys that they love them and such without any sexual connotation at all, specially if there is already a close friendship which seems to be your case. I wouldn't read anything into it or even push the matter because you might end up losing a really great friend.

    Damn those 21st century straight guys and their friendliness icon_wink.gif
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    May 12, 2014 5:11 PM GMT
    owl_bundy saidhe's straight. let's just leave it at that. don't be predatory or creepy now.

    And I was going to tell the OP that next time he should be the designated driver.icon_idea.gif


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    May 12, 2014 5:44 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidI had something like your situation once. Coming home for a night of partying, I was the driver. A good buddy was drunk, and upset that me was dumped by a girl he'd been seeing at the party. My buddy was straight - or so I thought. All the way home - about a half hour - he was so bummed out that in the cramped quarters of my car we were holding hands. I was trying to comfort him that way (instead of patting him on the back, as in your case). We were like two masculine athletes comforting each other after a losing game - sort of. Anyway - I was half out and would have liked it if something happened, but I wasn't going to take advantage of him while he was drunk. Strange thing is, when I got him home to his place and helped him up the stairs and tossed him onto his bed, he asked me to such his cock. I couldn't tell if he meant it or was just being funny. It's 50/50. At the time, I just laughed it off & said "get some sleep, see you later". It was never mentioned again. I'm half sorry I didn't jump on the opportunity, but I erred on the side of being appropriate and not taking advantage of a drunk buddy.

    The better decision, imo