Gay men are good at playing characters/types

  • Matthew56

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    May 12, 2014 12:12 PM GMT
    This statement above refers to the types/characters that are in the gay scene or community you have the bear/cub,muscle Mary, twink all sexual types that are expected to act in a certain way particularly in the bedroom. Now many gay men choose a particular type they want to be I.e bear, muscle Mary and pretty much conform to the expected norms of said particular type. This is probably after studying that particular type that they wanna emulate

    Gay men usally emulate or aspire to be a particular type of gay men as mainly the believe that being that particular type would make them popular in the gay world like for instance a lot of gay men aspire to be the muscle Mary as they believe this is what will get them more attention. Then they are those that want to be a particular type in order to give them a "sub gay identity" like being a bear

    Thus after successfully managing to get to this aspiring type of gay me. Gay men can play their characters successfully as they have studied the mannerisms of that particular type they want to be so well.

    Anyone agree that this is the reason why there is a lot of gay types in the gay community as opposed to the straight/lesbian community
  • tj85016

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    May 12, 2014 12:32 PM GMT
    I don't see this much at all in the States. I've lived in New York, the LA area, Philadelphia and the Phoenix area. It's all bullshit gay media hype. Of course there's always a few examples, but it's not prevalent.
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    May 12, 2014 1:35 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidThis statement above refers to the types/characters that are in the gay scene or community you have the bear/cub,muscle Mary, twink all sexual types that are expected to act in a certain way particularly in the bedroom. Now many gay men choose a particular type they want to be I.e bear, muscle Mary and pretty much conform to the expected norms of said particular type. This is probably after studying that particular type that they wanna emulate

    Gay men usally emulate or aspire to be a particular type of gay men as mainly the believe that being that particular type would make them popular in the gay world like for instance a lot of gay men aspire to be the muscle Mary as they believe this is what will get them more attention. Then they are those that want to be a particular type in order to give them a "sub gay identity" like being a bear

    Thus after successfully managing to get to this aspiring type of gay me. Gay men can play their characters successfully as they have studied the mannerisms of that particular type they want to be so well.

    Anyone agree that this is the reason why there is a lot of gay types in the gay community as opposed to the straight/lesbian community

    No, I'm not that particular.

    And I'm not sure your basic premise is correct, anyway. Straight men do lots of role playing, too.
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    May 12, 2014 2:25 PM GMT
    I kinda see your point. I hooked up with someone over a year ago and without having spoken about it it was just assumed I would bottom, that I liked it rough and that I was ok with being moved around etc. I think that's probably due to the fact I was younger. Had I been older it would probably have been assumed we would switch roles.

    Porn and the Internet kind of reinforce these stereotypes but at the same time perhaps it's not people conforming to the stereotype but actually people identifying with the stereotype as I don't believe people generally conform to anything.
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    May 12, 2014 3:14 PM GMT
    OP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.

    You seem to think that You are reaching revelations and conclusions based on a wealth of experience and knowledge but Your words tend to indicate just how small Your world is.

    For Your own sake - expand Your Life and LIVE.
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    May 12, 2014 3:17 PM GMT
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif
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    May 12, 2014 3:21 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif


    You say that about EVERONE that gives You a pre-moistened towelette and buys You a milkshake afterwards...
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    May 12, 2014 3:22 PM GMT
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif


    You say that about EVERONE that gives You a pre-moistened towelette and buys You a milkshake afterwards...


    It was GELATO! icon_rolleyes.gif
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    May 12, 2014 3:26 PM GMT
    Scruffypup said
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif


    You say that about EVERONE that gives You a pre-moistened towelette and buys You a milkshake afterwards...


    It was GELATO! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Odd - I had heard it was actually conserve...
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    May 12, 2014 3:28 PM GMT
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif


    You say that about EVERONE that gives You a pre-moistened towelette and buys You a milkshake afterwards...


    It was GELATO! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Odd - I had heard it was actually conserve...


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    May 12, 2014 3:39 PM GMT
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif


    You say that about EVERONE that gives You a pre-moistened towelette and buys You a milkshake afterwards...


    It was GELATO! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Odd - I had heard it was actually conserve...




    Hey remember when you left because of clay station?


    I DO
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    May 12, 2014 3:46 PM GMT
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.

    You seem to think that You are reaching revelations and conclusions based on a wealth of experience and knowledge but Your words tend to indicate just how small Your world is.

    For Your own sake - expand Your Life and LIVE.
    What a great piece of information and advice icon_smile.gif
  • Matthew56

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    May 12, 2014 3:56 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]Art_Deco said[/cite]
    Matthew56 saidThis statement above refers to the types/characters that are in the gay scene or community you have the bear/cub,muscle Mary, twink all sexual types that are expected to act in a certain way particularly in the bedroom. Now many gay men choose a particular type they want to be I.e bear, muscle Mary and pretty much conform to the expected norms of said particular type. This is probably after studying that particular type that they wanna emulate

    Gay men usally emulate or aspire to be a particular type of gay men as mainly the believe that being that particular type would make them popular in the gay world like for instance a lot of gay men aspire to be the muscle Mary as they believe this is what will get them more attention. Then they are those that want to be a particular type in order to give them a "sub gay identity" like being a bear

    Thus after successfully managing to get to this aspiring type of gay me. Gay men can play their characters successfully as they have studied the mannerisms of that particular type they want to be so well.

    Anyone agree that this is the reason why there is a lot of gay types in the gay community as opposed to the straight/lesbian community

    No, I'm not that particular.

    And I'm not sure your basic premise is correct, anyway. Straight men do lots of role playing, too. [/BOLD TEXT GOES HEREquote]

    Are you sure? I mean there really isn't like a list of types in the straight world like in the gay world where there is bear,cub,twink etc
  • tj85016

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    May 12, 2014 3:59 PM GMT
    I think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system
  • Fable

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    May 12, 2014 4:02 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system




    Er have you ever been here?
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    May 12, 2014 4:03 PM GMT
    Matthew56 said[quote][cite]Art_Deco said[/cite]
    Matthew56 saidThis statement above refers to the types/characters that are in the gay scene or community you have the bear/cub,muscle Mary, twink all sexual types that are expected to act in a certain way particularly in the bedroom. Now many gay men choose a particular type they want to be I.e bear, muscle Mary and pretty much conform to the expected norms of said particular type. This is probably after studying that particular type that they wanna emulate

    Gay men usally emulate or aspire to be a particular type of gay men as mainly the believe that being that particular type would make them popular in the gay world like for instance a lot of gay men aspire to be the muscle Mary as they believe this is what will get them more attention. Then they are those that want to be a particular type in order to give them a "sub gay identity" like being a bear

    Thus after successfully managing to get to this aspiring type of gay me. Gay men can play their characters successfully as they have studied the mannerisms of that particular type they want to be so well.

    Anyone agree that this is the reason why there is a lot of gay types in the gay community as opposed to the straight/lesbian community

    No, I'm not that particular.

    And I'm not sure your basic premise is correct, anyway. Straight men do lots of role playing, too. [/BOLD TEXT GOES HEREquote]

    Are you sure? I mean there really isn't like a list of types in the straight world like in the gay world where there is bear,cub,twink etc


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    May 12, 2014 4:05 PM GMT
    Fable said
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash said
    Scruffypup said
    Cash saidOP - and many others - You have GOT to stop basing Your life on what You see in internet porn and meet some Guys at places other than sex clubs and behind dumpsters.


    You are so wrong. That dude behind the dumpster was the real deal. icon_mad.gif


    You say that about EVERONE that gives You a pre-moistened towelette and buys You a milkshake afterwards...


    It was GELATO! icon_rolleyes.gif


    Odd - I had heard it was actually conserve...




    Hey remember when you left because of clay station?


    I DO


    I LOVE interacting with someone like you!!!

    It's like giving pocket change to a leper only without the smell!!!


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  • tj85016

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    May 12, 2014 4:06 PM GMT
    Fable said
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system




    Er have you ever been here?


    6 times to England. Ireland, France, Switzerland, Germany, Italy and Belgium also
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    May 12, 2014 4:14 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system
    icon_lol.gif On every front there is alot more freedom and equality in the UK than most western countries of the world especially the USA.
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    May 12, 2014 4:18 PM GMT
    I guess Muscle Marys aren't born, they're made.
  • tj85016

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    May 12, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    Dennis_1989 said
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system
    icon_lol.gif On every front there is alot more freedom and equality in the UK than most western countries of the world especially the USA.


    oh, is that why the City of London has it's own government, it's own rules and laws and could give a rats ass about the rest of you? It's worse than the Vatican.
  • Fable

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    May 12, 2014 4:19 PM GMT
    tj85016 said
    Fable said
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system




    Er have you ever been here?


    6 times to England. Ireland, France, Switzerland, Germany, Italy and Belgium also



    So you do realise you're talking out of your arse then.
  • Fable

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    May 12, 2014 4:22 PM GMT
    tj85016 said
    Dennis_1989 said
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system
    icon_lol.gif On every front there is alot more freedom and equality in the UK than most western countries of the world especially the USA.


    oh, is that why the City of London has it's own government, it's own rules and laws and could give a rats ass about the rest of you? It's worse than the Vatican.



    The Square Mile is a financial hub so a separate governing body from Greater London makes sense. Derp.
  • tj85016

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    May 12, 2014 4:24 PM GMT
    Fable said
    tj85016 said
    Fable said
    tj85016 saidI think you UK guys are still suck in your outdated caste system




    Er have you ever been here?


    6 times to England. Ireland, France, Switzerland, Germany, Italy and Belgium also



    So you do realise you're talking out of your arse then.


    I worked for a dumb ass London-based media company called Reed International after they purchased Cahners Publishing in the US. Clueless idiots. I quit.
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    May 12, 2014 4:33 PM GMT
    muscle Mary? what the hell is a muscle Mary?