Your Nieces and Nephews...

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    Jan 03, 2009 8:14 PM GMT
    How do you get along with them?? I've found that they have grown up with a lot less hangups about gay people than some of us older folks.

    In fact, it was my assumptions about how they felt about me being gay which I had to re-examine.

    They totally accept me and its not an issue that I like men.
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:31 PM GMT
    one of my nephews has been here for the weekend, they all love me, they don't give a crap that I'm gay.. actually, I think its the furthest thing from there mind, they just don't care.

    And I know it when they all want to hang out with me heh irritating lil shits.. gotta love'em icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:37 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidone of my nephews has been here for the weekend, they all love me, they don't give a crap that I'm gay.. actually, I think its the furthest thing from there mind, they just don't care.

    And I know it when they all want to hang out with me heh irritating lil shits.. gotta love'em icon_biggrin.gif


    I bet they consider you the fun uncle...the one who is interesting and somewhat of a role model! My 18 year old niece recently was excited to tell me that now she can "hang out with me at clubs".

    Sometimes its a balancing act to be the friend as well as responsible uncle.
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    Jan 03, 2009 8:39 PM GMT
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    lilTanker saidone of my nephews has been here for the weekend, they all love me, they don't give a crap that I'm gay.. actually, I think its the furthest thing from there mind, they just don't care.

    And I know it when they all want to hang out with me heh irritating lil shits.. gotta love'em icon_biggrin.gif


    I bet they consider you the fun uncle...the one who is interesting and somewhat of a role model! My 18 year old niece recently was excited to tell me that now she can "hang out with me at clubs".

    Sometimes its a balancing act to be the friend as well as responsible uncle.
    yeah your probably right, although, I think I already know which one it will be and it wont be because he wants to hang out with me... tender age of 8 screamed about going out in tracksuit pants he didn't want people to see him.......................................... and he sets off ma little itty bitty gay bell hahaha
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    Jan 04, 2009 1:10 AM GMT
    I keep my nephews a lot for my sister. They are 6 and 3. They don't care that I like other men, they just care that they get to have fun with uncle zacky. They can be a handful but I wouldn't trade em for nothin!
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    Jan 04, 2009 1:44 AM GMT
    they think i'm cool, fun & weird
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    Jan 04, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    I have 3 nieces and 2 nephews...granted that all but one are very young children...but the eldest, Samantha, is 12 and has formally known since she was 5 or 6...since my partner and I have been together over 11 years, she has grown up knowing him and being part of our relationship....the same will be for the others since we are very active uncles. Great thread - thanks!
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    Jan 04, 2009 3:23 AM GMT
    I have a nephew who I am so proud of. I also have a Niece and two Nephews who are nothing like me. But Cody is a hard worker - busting his ass through school. Lifts, looks great - and really takes care of himself. As far as I know - he is 20 and never dated a girl... just like his uncle. He is cool - really proud of the young man!
  • GQjock

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    Jan 04, 2009 3:48 AM GMT
    My nieces are still a bit young they're all still under 10
    but my younger brother who is still in his 20's and his friends all accept me
    being gay and have no problem with it whatsoever
  • Freddo

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    Jan 04, 2009 4:51 AM GMT
    I don't have any nieces and nephews, but I did have a gay uncle. He died before I ever found out he was gay (I was 13 when he died), but when he was alive he was definitely the nicest uncle I had from either side, and was always my favorite growing up.

    I think having a gay uncle is really helping me on my road to coming out. I haven't come out to a lot of people yet, but knowing that at least one side of my family will be accepting of me has been a comfort. They always loved and accepted him and I am sure they will do the same with me. I am sure it will be a shock, but they will still love me all the same.

    All you current uncles take note, if your nieces or nephews end up being gay (kind of like in my situation), you will most likely play a role more important than you will ever know. It can be tough being gay, and coming out to your family. However, you have most likely made the rest of your family more accepting of gays, and you will make their lives much easier, especially in the beginning of their coming out process. Although my uncle is gone, I will never ever forget his role in my life. He is very likely the most important man in my life right now as I slowly come out to people.
  • josephmovie

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    Jan 04, 2009 10:17 AM GMT
    Most of my nieces and nephews don't think much of me at all. I'm just not on their radar. However, the one nephew that does think I am just awesome is the football playing, Slipknot lovin', street fightin' , lady lovin' 15 year old boy! I'm none of those things so go figure!

    He used to tell me when he was little that he wished I was his father, so we've always had a strange little bond. I think it's because I believe in him and encourage him to seek a world beyond his suburban borders.

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    Jan 04, 2009 11:27 AM GMT
    My nieces are 24, 21 and 19 and my nephew is 22 (for my facebook friends they are amongst my friends). They have always been very supportive. My nephew's friends all know I am gay since they play poker with my partner and I when we visit my brother. My nephew is studying immunology in his Masters Program, I always wondered if that was partially because I am HIV+. He wants to go see the movie "Milk" and knows who Harvey Milk was.

    You are right generally speaking the younger generation is much less hung up about the whole sexuality thing.
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    Jan 04, 2009 1:43 PM GMT
    My nieces and nephews and the younger people in my family (BTW, they are all under 12 at this point), appear more comfortable with the idea of gay people...much less hung up than my generation...and, as far as my family is concerned, I believe this has mostly to do with the fact that my sister and I are out of the closet *and* equally b/c the kids' parents (my "peer" cousins) are comfortable with us.
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    Jan 04, 2009 1:57 PM GMT
    Well I thin the reason that the younger generation is more accepting of the homosexuality is because kids are nieve, and do not see the consequences and risks in general that come along with that life style. Sex is not something that kids ponder or think about liek we adults do. Children will show acceptance towards their uncles and and aunts not because of their sexual preference I think you will always be an uncle regarless of what you prefer. Children don't analyse the way adult too. So I think that the younger generation see you as a person rather then being gay. I think that accepting you as a gay uncle can be mistaken for simply accepting you and loving you for being their uncle rather then being gay. It is a question in the back of everyones mind whether it is right, normal, or whatever the case may be and that is why it is hard for people to come out when they discover their preference or thier sexual desire for the same sex.
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    Jan 04, 2009 8:12 PM GMT
    1Styler saidIt is a question in the back of everyones mind whether it is right, normal, or whatever the case may be and that is why it is hard for people to come out when they discover their preference or thier sexual desire for the same sex.

    No, its not, I don't question who I am anymore, I know who I am, I know what I am, I am happy and comfortable, there is no nagging question..

    You may not accept your self fully but do not attempt to put that on others.
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    Jan 04, 2009 8:37 PM GMT
    1Styler saidWell I thin the reason that the younger generation is more accepting of the homosexuality is because kids are nieve, and do not see the consequences and risks in general that come along with that life style. Sex is not something that kids ponder or think about liek we adults do. Children will show acceptance towards their uncles and and aunts not because of their sexual preference I think you will always be an uncle regarless of what you prefer. Children don't analyse the way adult too. So I think that the younger generation see you as a person rather then being gay. I think that accepting you as a gay uncle can be mistaken for simply accepting you and loving you for being their uncle rather then being gay. It is a question in the back of everyones mind whether it is right, normal, or whatever the case may be and that is why it is hard for people to come out when they discover their preference or thier sexual desire for the same sex.


    There are consequences and risks in any life, no matter what the style.
    Yes, they do see me as an uncle, a person but they like me because of everything I am, the whole picture, which includes being gay.

    Which is the way I see and like myself.

    Of course they know what sex is, and what gay sex is, but respectfully so, it is not a topic of discussion. Why would I want to discuss the nuts and bolts of sex with them....?

    Yes, its hard for some guys to come out...guess it depends on a lot of things. Yes, years ago I did have questions about if it was right, wrong or whatever.....that's a normal feeling. But I don't have the same questions anymore.

    It's an individual process that most gay men handle very well, after some initial difficulty....and the unique circumstances of being gay will always present challenges throughout a man's life.

    All I know is that it took a lot of work, introspection and learning to get where I am today. Some gay guys may think that simply marching in a parade is enough to be proud, but my experiences have been that a number of gay guys, despite being out, loud and proud, still have deep seated issues and outdated assumptions buried deep within their brains that impact their happiness in life.

    But then again, everyone has unique challenges in life.
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    Jan 04, 2009 8:52 PM GMT
    I am very close with all my nieces and nephews. We have a great relationship and I have never found them to be anything but very loving and accepting of me.

    On top of that, they all know that they can come to me with anything and I'm there for them. I feel very blessed to have them along with 2 kids of my own.
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    Jan 04, 2009 8:55 PM GMT
    polobutt saidI am very close with all my nieces and nephews. We have a great relationship and I have never found them to be anything but very loving and accepting of me.

    On top of that, they all know that they can come to me with anything and I'm there for them. I feel very blessed to have them along with 2 kids of my own.


    wow.......you are very lucky. I bet nothing can compare to the energy they bring into your life.........their questions and curiousities and idealism must be a blessing because it gives you the opportunity to challenge your own comfort zone a bit.
  • Fusion98102

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    Jan 04, 2009 9:07 PM GMT
    My Niece and Nephew are both under the age of 5, but I see them quite often and they love me! Come to think of it, all kids love me, for some reason. I guess kids really do have the best sense of judgement and character. icon_twisted.gif More importantly though, my sister and her husband accept me for who I am - which means that their kids will hopefully be raised to accept differences in people.
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    Jan 04, 2009 9:10 PM GMT
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    polobutt saidI am very close with all my nieces and nephews. We have a great relationship and I have never found them to be anything but very loving and accepting of me.

    On top of that, they all know that they can come to me with anything and I'm there for them. I feel very blessed to have them along with 2 kids of my own.


    wow.......you are very lucky. I bet nothing can compare to the energy they bring into your life.........their questions and curiousities and idealism must be a blessing because it gives you the opportunity to challenge your own comfort zone a bit.


    Very true... and I only came out a few years back after getting divorced. I was blown away at how they gathered around me to make sure that I knew how much they love me.